mixwell Posted April 8, 2005 Share Posted April 8, 2005 My ex and I basically talk like maybe once every two weeks.. We just chit chat like friends.. Do you think it would be ok to call her to just talk as friends or not ? She broke up with me 5 months ago and has a b/f.. I guess I keep thinking that the time without talking is making her forget about me.. Should I contact her or not ? I haven't talked to her in about 9 days. Just curious. I feel like calling but I can just as easily not call. I just wanted to say hi and see whats been up with her in her life.. So do you think I should call or just stick with NC ?? I do want her back but I realize she has a b/f and theres not much I can do but I would like somehow to try to remind her of me and maybe make her think about me more ?? i dont know if that sounds stupid... Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 8, 2005 Share Posted April 8, 2005 I do want her back but I realize she has a b/f and theres not much I can do but I would like somehow to try to remind her of me and maybe make her think about me more ?? It doesn't sound stupid. It sounds realistic. Painfully realistic. But... Don't call. You'll only end up hurting yourself. There would be no point in it at this time, as long as you still want her back. If you were calling genuinely as friends and had zero interest in her romantically, that would be different. Link to post Share on other sites
Gottabestrong Posted April 8, 2005 Share Posted April 8, 2005 You say that you and your ex talk every two weeks. How does that happen? Does she call you? I dont think you have to call her to make her think of you. I think if you just stay away that might make her think of you more. To ilustrate my point: An ex that I broke up with 6 years ago, has always stayed in touch with me. An email every couple of weeks is the norm. I never initiate contact and though I dont hate hearing from him, it often makes me feel uncomfortable, because it is obvious that he still likes me. Well, last time we 'talked' was at the end of december. When I did to hear from him I started to wonder about him. What he might be up to and why he was not contacting me. If I had not heard from him I might have sent him a mail within the next few weeks. (The first time in years). Well, he did contact me after all this week. But, my point is that even years later, if somebody stops contacting you, you start thinking about him. But if they are always in touch, then you are used to it and dont waste much thought on them. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mixwell Posted April 8, 2005 Author Share Posted April 8, 2005 she is the one that contacts me when we talk.. I mean i sent her an email a while ago saying whats up and kind of pouring my heart out a little. then i got a 2 sentences email back from her that was bland.. I replied to it and sent h er pictures of my new apartment.. So she called about 3 days later.. I didnt answer because i was eating and called back after i ate.. she said thats weird i was just about to call you back... So that was about 10 days ago. Ok then I will not call her.. Its not even that I really have the urge, I was just kind of thinking about her and thought it might be ok.. But I honestly don't want to just be friends with her.. So I will not call her... Besides I put in all the effort before and called all the time. I think if she wants to talk then she will call.. I just needed some reassurance to not call her I guess. Thanks for the advice both of you !! Link to post Share on other sites
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