Itzcobra Posted March 7, 2015 Share Posted March 7, 2015 Hello, my name is Patrick I'm 17 doing 18 in few months and I've been dating with a girl for months she lives in Houston I live in Luxembourg and I'm feeling that we will never meet, I'm poor so I don't have ways, so I'm considering enlsit myself in the army so I can get money and meet her, I'm in love with her but it's hard to talk, we have 7 hour difference between so when she's at school I'm sleeping, we only talk few couple of hours per week even weekend I need help Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 It will never work. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
craigjkt1 Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 You need to take a job then you get the salary in few months for traveling to a country of your girlfriend. Or consider other girl who are near you. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 Hello, my name is Patrick Welcome to the LS forum, Patrick. I'm 17 doing 18 in few months and I've been dating with a girl for months she lives in Houston I live in Luxembourg This is a totally new concept of dating. Dating means when you take a girl out or you see her some place for real. You can have virtual dates, but you need to have met the person first, don't you think? I'm poor Oh dear. I have the feeling you're the only poor person in Luxembourg. I mean, it must be a rare thing. I'm considering enlsit myself in the army First, see if a military career is really for you. And yes, you get money, but you get to decide very little about your life too. But I understand that you're left with few jobs paying that well at an early age. so I can get money and meet her, I'm in love with her but it's hard to talk, we have 7 hour difference between so when she's at school I'm sleeping, we only talk few couple of hours per week even weekend I need help 1) How old is she? 2) Does she feel the same way about you as you feel about her? 3) What kind of freedom does she have? 4) Would she be free to travel to Europe or some other country, where you could meet? 5) If #4 is valid, you could volunteer for some Summer job and she could do the same and you could both be in the same place for 1 to 3 months, get a little bit of money to sustain yourself and share an experience together. 6) Regarding the time difference, now you're 6 hours away, which is the usual time difference I have. 7 am where she's at means 1 pm for you. Are you around at that time? She could also wake up 20 minutes earlier than her usual wake-up to in order to talk to you. Not as a routine, but she could do it now and then. Also, I suppose that she's free at 4 pm, and it'd be 10 pm for you. Aren't you up at 10 pm for half an hour? That's another moment you can devote to her. I mean, you need to want it. Sure, twice a week will hardly work. Unless you can settle with just a friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 of course you are poor. you are 17.. to be honest i would say that dating at 17 is not always a smart idea. i mean of course we all want that and i would definitely do it if i was that age but lets be clear here, you want to join the army to go see a girl that you have a crush on and dont know that well. not only will it be really hard to make it work but it might also make you unable to do the things you really want in life. think twice before doing this. if she wants to come and see you or you go travel then go for it, but dont change your whole life for a person you dont know. remember that no matter what you do, it doesnt mean she will do the same for you. young people change dramatically during these years. you are to young to know what is the right thing to do in life but being young is also a great oppurtunity to make mistakes and learn from them. if this is what you wanna do and it turns out to be a bad idea you can always make things right. good luck to you Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 Lets try tweaking your perception. You are not dating this girl. You have never met. In the short term, it's unlikely that you will me. You are talking to her in the internet, maybe by phone & you think you like her. All that is wonderful but it's not real because you have never met. Thinking long term is fine. Planning what you can do to raise money to travel so you can meet is also good. Having a plan is a positive thing. How about a more realistic plan, though? Date locally but keep your international pen pal as a friend. Go to university. Study. Perhaps get a semester abroad in Texas. Graduate. Get a job . . . then worry about meeting her. Link to post Share on other sites
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