Blueskysandybeach Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 We have a toddler so I already get some sleep deprivation (nothing major these days) but the real problem is my husband keeping me awake snoring. this has been going on for years now, and since at least a year ago I told him (and he worked out for himself after a few sessions with a PT) that regular exercise pretty much stops the snoring. But he just won't exercise,saying he works long hours and doesn't get the chance (he knows any evening or anytime during weekends he can go exercise and I'd completely support it). It is starting to really hurt me that he sees me go through constant nights of bad sleep and how that affects me, knows he has it in his power to stop it, and doesn't. It'd help him to exercise as he has a stressful job,is now 40 and everyone needs to keep fit and invest in their health. He is a lovely husband in all other ways but this is really upsetting me (and is impacting my health now too as long term sleep deprivation is bad for anyone). Does anyone have any advice how I can handle this?? He is a good looking and successful guy - I.e.generally confident,and I just can't work out what is stopping him from working out. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 We have a toddler so I already get some sleep deprivation (nothing major these days) but the real problem is my husband keeping me awake snoring. this has been going on for years now, and since at least a year ago I told him (and he worked out for himself after a few sessions with a PT) that regular exercise pretty much stops the snoring. But he just won't exercise,saying he works long hours and doesn't get the chance (he knows any evening or anytime during weekends he can go exercise and I'd completely support it). It is starting to really hurt me that he sees me go through constant nights of bad sleep and how that affects me, knows he has it in his power to stop it, and doesn't. It'd help him to exercise as he has a stressful job,is now 40 and everyone needs to keep fit and invest in their health. He is a lovely husband in all other ways but this is really upsetting me (and is impacting my health now too as long term sleep deprivation is bad for anyone). Does anyone have any advice how I can handle this?? He is a good looking and successful guy - I.e.generally confident,and I just can't work out what is stopping him from working out. Kick him to the couch or into another bedroom. You need your sleep! It's obvious he isn't going to go work out, so the other option is, separate bedrooms when it's time to go to sleep. You can still cuddle and fool around etc., but when it comes to zzzzzzzzz, he leaves so you can get a better nights sleep. Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 Blueskysandybeach, You have my sympathies. My husband snores like a grizzly bear and when he's had a beer it's enough to rattle the windows He hates gyms so exercise is out of the question (thank goodness he's not obese !) I have earplugs and sleep in the guest room when he's on an early shift. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Schedule him for a sleep study. If he has sleep apnea, he can be fitted for a CPAP, which would eliminate the snoring. It's most beneficial if he does exercise as that reduces the fatty tissues in the back of the throat that are blocking his airway and causing the vibration/snoring. But the CPAP is a good band-aid solution until the weight comes off. As well, if he is oxygen deprived all night, that greatly increases the risk of stroke later in life so even the CPAP without exercise is better for his health (as well as your own ability to sleep). 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BikerAccnt Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Sometimes sleeping in a separate room is the best you can do. I see nothing wrong with it as long as the reasons you are sleeping separate is because you don't sleep well together. Sleeping is very important for everything, including a good relationship. You can't be at your best, if you are constantly sleep deprived. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spanz1 Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 they make mouthguards that will jutt out the lower jaw, and keep the airways open during sleep. one you can buy online is called "pure sleeP". have him try one of those and see if the snoring stops. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loveboid Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 I told my BF at the time that when he stopped breathing in the middle of the night that it scared me. I told him my dad had a sleep study and a CPAP. He got himself a sleep study done and CPAP too. He said he was grateful I saved years of his life. Sleep apnea can take on average seven years off one's life. People can stop breathing a ridiculous number of times with sleep apnea...thirty or so times an hour. If he knew that it might scare him to go the doctor. Plus it's a quick fix with a mask. You could also record him and play it back for him. You could also get an oxygen pulse monitor. It clips on his finger and monitors his oxygen level throughout the night. It should always be in the high 90's. If oxygen level drops that means his brain isn't getting oxygen. It connects to a phone. Really easy to use. Link to post Share on other sites
CM2009 Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 I swear this subject scares me. I know I snore at night and I'm worried that it'll turn my wife off when I get married... Link to post Share on other sites
stillmind Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 Having a humidifier by the bed and using those nose strips (kind of like a bandaid that goes across the bridge of your nose to help keep the airways open) helps my husband a lot. He used to snore like a monster. Sleeping on one's side also drastically reduces snoring. Link to post Share on other sites
HannahRose Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 My husband and I have a similar issue. He snores due to weight gain. When he loses the weight, he stops snoring. But, he just keeps putting the weight back on and I just have to deal with it. I did kick my husband out of the bed to the couch, but it has been very unhealthy for our marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
spanz1 Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 My husband and I have a similar issue. He snores due to weight gain. When he loses the weight, he stops snoring. But, he just keeps putting the weight back on and I just have to deal with it. I did kick my husband out of the bed to the couch, but it has been very unhealthy for our marriage. well it does not have to be unhealthy. do you initiate sex with him, pretty much every night, and then let him go to the couch? then there would be almost no problem. Link to post Share on other sites
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