sandylee1 Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Jesus she wont give up! She left me a msg on my company voicemail asking me to call her and talk to her. She wants us to start over, wants me to forgive her, and says she is no longer seeing her OM. Of course I know that is a lie. I'm ignoring it, but I just don't get it. Her OM should be busy ****ing her into sexual bliss...why is she trying to get back with me? Because she realises that she lost a decent, stand up guy and she feels like a fool. The OM doesn't want her for anything more than a quick romp. There's no future with him. She knows she lost one of the best things to ever happen to her. Too late hey. Tough sh** for her and she wants to hang in before you start seeing someone else. The cheek of her saying you never loved her when you left as well. So what does that say about her cheating on you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 I'm surprised she isn't stalking you at this point. Maybe she is, you just haven't seen her. But, I also have a feeling that she's going to give it one last ditch effort to see you and talk to you considering that you are ignoring her emails. So, don't be surprised that one day you walk out to your car to see her there. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
irishguy Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Just keep what your doing and ignoring her , she is starting to sound abit crazy . 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeWasted Posted April 14, 2015 Author Share Posted April 14, 2015 She doesn't want Doritos, she wants cake goddamnit! How about nacho flavored cake? That would be interesting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeWasted Posted April 14, 2015 Author Share Posted April 14, 2015 I'm surprised she isn't stalking you at this point. Maybe she is, you just haven't seen her. But, I also have a feeling that she's going to give it one last ditch effort to see you and talk to you considering that you are ignoring her emails. So, don't be surprised that one day you walk out to your car to see her there. You know I find myself fearing this. I had a stalker type situation with a gal I had dated a few years back, and that kind of freaked me out. I find myself looking for the xWGF's car when I pull into the grocery store parking lot, the post office, when I'm at stoplights. I'm being paranoid. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 She wants us to start over, wants me to forgive her, and says she is no longer seeing her OM. Direct translation = " that didn't work out, I'll default back to seeing you for awhile until someone else comes along that I want to try out." 4 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 If I started dating a guy who was still in a power-struggle mindset over his ex, I'd consider him still involved with someone else, not emotionally and psychological single. I agree ^^^^^^^^ Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeWasted Posted April 14, 2015 Author Share Posted April 14, 2015 Direct translation = " that didn't work out, I'll default back to seeing you for awhile until someone else comes along that I want to try out." Yep. That is what I read into it. In fact I should text her that very line.... Nah! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Yes you are right. I just get pissed when I see her e-mails. I should have the wherewithal not to open them but I'm too curious. It is like watching a really gruesome horror film. You don't really want to watch it, but you can't take your eyes away . I am ignoring her. When your heart finally accepts that reading the emails or any contact at all is just bad for your soul, you'll gladly ignore them. It takes time and dedication. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 tell her in an email or text message (that you keep a printed record of in your files): “Don’t contact me again. If you continue to harass me I will get a restraining order.” ^ ^ ^ THIS ^ ^ ^ Seriously, LW - this might be a very logical step... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeWasted Posted April 14, 2015 Author Share Posted April 14, 2015 When your heart finally accepts that reading the emails or any contact at all is just bad for your soul, you'll gladly ignore them. It takes time and dedication. It was easier back when I left my ex wayward wife. No cell phones back then. No e-mail. I detached pretty quickly. I'm actually having a harder time with this gal. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 It was easier back when I left my ex wayward wife. No cell phones back then. No e-mail. I detached pretty quickly. I'm actually having a harder time with this gal. Yeah, I understand. Same theory holds though: no contact = faster detach = quicker recovery. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeWasted Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 I wish I could be the young, buff, energetic surfer dude I used to be twenty five years ago. It was so easy. It sucks being a middle aged guy fighting to stay healthy and strong when old injuries run amuck and the metabolism slows...I've never experienced self-doubt until now. Not even when my first marriage ended. I had a great weekend and now I'm depressed as hell. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
lisbon67 Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 Yep... I'm still living in my home with my WW. ..with divorce on the immediate horizon and her moving out for good ! She's going back to her family in Ukraine for a month then moving to a flat when she returns...I don't want her coming back here to my house for one minute to get the rest of her stuff when she returns to Scotland... I've also been looking at a dating site in last couple of weeks...put my profile up...got a few replies....but now I've deleted it... all the other op are correct...it would not be fair on any other woman....or on me...when my heads still f***d up with WW still in the house... She fecked me over big style. ..has precious little or no remorse...but I'm still not over her... she said to me the other night 'its 50/50'...ie the cause of our divorce. ...WTF !!? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
irishguy Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 Its understandable to be depressed at times ,you need to try to be positive .Sounds like you have done well so far , the truth is it takes a long time to get over heartbreak and betrayal .There are plenty of stories on here of people who come back better and stronger and i think you will be one of them .Set goals and find things to look forward to for every week ,small goals or big goals it doesnt matter. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeWasted Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 Yep... I'm still living in my home with my WW. ..with divorce on the immediate horizon and her moving out for good ! She's going back to her family in Ukraine for a month then moving to a flat when she returns...I don't want her coming back here to my house for one minute to get the rest of her stuff when she returns to Scotland... I've also been looking at a dating site in last couple of weeks...put my profile up...got a few replies....but now I've deleted it... all the other op are correct...it would not be fair on any other woman....or on me...when my heads still f***d up with WW still in the house... She fecked me over big style. ..has precious little or no remorse...but I'm still not over her... she said to me the other night 'its 50/50'...ie the cause of our divorce. ...WTF !!? Yeah your WW is a piece of work. No more Eastern European women, no matter how hot they are! I once had a Serbian gal who did accounts payable for me and she was a hottie, a really exotically beautiful woman. She was such a distraction to my crews that I could hardly get them to work when they were at the shop. Horny bastards would use any excuse they could to go up to the office area to schmooze her. I had to actually fire one guy because he became infatuated with her and wouldn't leave her alone. Fortunately she got pregnant and quit to be a SAHM. I replaced her with a frumpy 55 year old. Problem solved. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeWasted Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 Its understandable to be depressed at times ,you need to try to be positive .Sounds like you have done well so far , the truth is it takes a long time to get over heartbreak and betrayal .There are plenty of stories on here of people who come back better and stronger and i think you will be one of them .Set goals and find things to look forward to for every week ,small goals or big goals it doesnt matter. It hit me out of the blue last night. Had a horrible dream about her and couldn't go back to sleep. I felt awful and small and emasculated last night. I eventually said "**** it" and came to work. I'm fine now. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 ^ ^ ^ THIS ^ ^ ^ Seriously, LW - this might be a very logical step... As long as it's just random emails and txts, I'd respond with silence. That actually gives more of a message than threatening to contact authorities or taking legal action. Making demands of no contact and making threats is still a response and still making contact. It also conveys that there are still emotions and still passions. Radio silence shows that there is ......... Nothing. Now that is assuming it is just non threatening emails and txts. If she starts making any kind of threats or starts action in a stalking or obtrusive manner like showing up at your work or house and making a scene or following you or boiling your bunny or something, then you'll need to seek appropriate action. But if it's just garden variety "let's talk about this -" emails and txts, silence is a stronger message than legal threats. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Paterlany Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 I'm originally from Eastern Europe. Sorry you had a terrible experience. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lisbon67 Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 (edited) I'm originally from Eastern Europe. Sorry you had a terrible experience. Lifewasted. ... Looks like we've both upset Eastern European women here lol But your right...most Ukrainian women are stunners...I was quite shocked when I went kiev ..all tall and slim and great looks...not like Scottis women in general....had a torn neck muscle for weeks after coming back.. But I think no more Ukrainians for me thank you very much ...not being racist or anything. ..just light hearted wee joke... But this LS post above by her photo looks to have proved our point...about the stunning looks I mean...not by being crazy... I could get into trouble for this post....upset women from Eastern Europe and Scotland. ..probs in general Edited April 15, 2015 by lisbon67 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeWasted Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 I'm originally from Eastern Europe. Sorry you had a terrible experience. I did not mean to offend. People are people and I need to remember that. Please forgive me for my remarks if they offended you. The Romanian woman I hired was very good at her job and was a good employee. She was just too pretty for my workers to handle. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeWasted Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 Lifewasted. ... Looks like we've both upset Eastern European women here lol But your right...most Ukrainian women are stunners...I was quite shocked when I went kiev ..all tall and slim and great looks...not like Scottis women in general....had a torn neck muscle for weeks after coming back.. But I think no more Ukrainians for me thank you very much ...not being racist or anything. ..just light hearted wee joke... But this LS post above by her photo looks to have proved our point...about the stunning looks I mean...not by being crazy... I could get into trouble for this post....upset women from Eastern Europe and Scotland. ..probs in general Many Scottish women are pretty. I liked that tall ginger from Dr. Who -- Karen Gillan. And I wouldn't kick Kelly Macdonald out of bed... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LifeWasted Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 Serbian...not Romanian....sheez.... Link to post Share on other sites
Paterlany Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 Not at all offended. You had a terrible time and I hope it improve for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 Many Scottish women are pretty. I liked that tall ginger from Dr. Who -- Karen Gillan. And I wouldn't kick Kelly Macdonald out of bed... Lots of blondes and redheads with pale skin. Hello from Edinburgh Link to post Share on other sites
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