It_will_get_better Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 (edited) Hi to all 4 months after our breakup, ex girlfriend just initiated first contact with me. She emailed me. Email was respond on my email where I explained my view on breakup which was kind of closure for me since she never gave me one. I sent this email on beginning of December and never get reply from her. From then I went NC with her. After so much time I really don't understand why she needed to sent me anything? What is the point now? She said she is very sorry about our break up and that she loved me and that she will probably always love me. She is also blaming me about some-things which I did wrong in relationship. I still have fillings for her, she is still on my mind, daily. What should I do? Should I write her back and ask her for a meeting? I'm not sure I could trust her ever again. I know that she started dating new guys soon after our break up. Did she finally realized what she lost or is she just trying to see if I'm still there for her? So many questions are arising in my head... Im 29 and she is 26 years old. Edited March 9, 2015 by It_will_get_better Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Up to you..If you do decide to,I'd at least leave it for a few days. Hell, she took months to respond. I'd ignore it. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 That email is a ticket to misery. Delete it, and do not reply. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xinaxxsdertf Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 Even so, if you get her back. you wont trust her, she will have secrets from during the break up. shes been with other men since she left you so you have to live with the fact that just not long ago she was in bed with someone else.. I say let go man, move on, look towards a better future with a more deserving person. girls that move on that quick are no good. Link to post Share on other sites
AprilTears Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 Protect your heart! Do not reply!!! Silence! Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby65 Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 She did NOT initiate contact. The email was in response to the one you sent her in December. That's not initiating.... it's replying. It likely took her three months to reply because a dumper doesn't always like to revisit a breakup immediately afterwards.... their minds are on being single again, not looking backwards at what they left behind. Also, she was likely hoping to do a slow fade..... the longer she put it off, the less likely it would be to raise your hopes. The thing here is to NOT try and read into what her message said -- or what it means that she finally, a few months later, got around to sending it. Read her WORDS. Believe them. THIS -- along with the unspoken message that she wasn't in a mad rush to get back to you -- should be your takeaway. Don't ask for a meeting. Don't reply. IF she wants to get back together, she'll let you know. Plainly. You won't have to read between the lines. She won't stop until she makes sure you know she wants you back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author It_will_get_better Posted March 10, 2015 Author Share Posted March 10, 2015 Hi to all Thanks for your advices. After some thinking I decided not to do anything. Yesterday after long time I had a look on her public FB profile and I just could not see the girl who I felt in love 4 years ago. She looks different and there is something in her eyes that is repelling me. Our relationship is definitely over. I will move forward and kept the good memory of her and hopefully someday I will met person to whom I will be able to give all my love which ex didn't wanted... Link to post Share on other sites
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