kolleamm Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 I know a few women that I exchange paragraph long relies with and it's really quite boring. Most of them are long distance so I can't really ask them out. If they were here in real life talking to me about the same thing using voice I would probably have no trouble with getting bored. I find all of them attractive but what they have to say couldn't be more boring and choreful to reply to. Maybe that's why OLD is such a pain. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Maybe call them? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
insert_name Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 Long distance? Why bother! Are you after a girlfriend or a pen friend? OLD is awful enough, by forming bonds with girls who live miles away you setting yourself up for even more unhappiness. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mstie Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 There's gotta be someone closer who catches your fancy. When I'm bored with a guy' s lols, yeahs and oks I move on Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 If she's boring to talk to online, she is probably boring to talk to in person. I wouldn't spend much time talking online, I would figure out if she is the type of girl you'd wanna meet, then go from there. I don't know any women that still talk on the phone. Almost everyone now says they prefer to text. That's interesting. My 20-something daughters talk on the phone, with their friends who are the same ages. So they exist. Well, if it's upsetting OP, he should suggest it so that he interacts with women in a way that doesn't bore or distress him. If they refuse to talk to him on the phone, move on to women that will not lead to distress. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kolleamm Posted March 10, 2015 Author Share Posted March 10, 2015 The women in my area especially on Okcupid couldn't hate me more lol I'm caught up in a really bad cycle of things actually. Bad luck locally online leads me to search broader distances. Searching farther leads to less real life interaction if any. So it's like a lose lose. Recently I've just been trying to bulk up more to see if that helps, if not I'm really out of ideas. Unless someone has any which would be great. Also I go to this meetup fitness club every Wednesday but the people there...either come with a spouse or cut conversations short with me, even the guys! I have friends, I don't think I'm such a social reject but when it comes to women in my area...oh boy. Link to post Share on other sites
insert_name Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 The women in my area especially on Okcupid couldn't hate me more lol I'm caught up in a really bad cycle of things actually. Bad luck locally online leads me to search broader distances. Searching farther leads to less real life interaction if any. So it's like a lose lose. Recently I've just been trying to bulk up more to see if that helps, if not I'm really out of ideas. Unless someone has any which would be great. Also I go to this meetup fitness club every Wednesday but the people there...either come with a spouse or cut conversations short with me, even the guys! I have friends, I don't think I'm such a social reject but when it comes to women in my area...oh boy. I imagine a fitness group could be quite cliquey, try and find something more down to earth. Easier said than done though, Im really downheartened by how poor the meet up groups are in my area. Im trying to find new friends to go on nights out with but the only groups here seem to be really lowly populated and are really niche. Theres no 'hey wanna hang out and get a few drinks on a friday night' sorta group, it feels like everyone round here has either got that part of their life sorted or they dont need to bother anymore. *sigh*. Nevermind finding a gf, bonding with anyone just gets harder the older you get. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kolleamm Posted March 10, 2015 Author Share Posted March 10, 2015 I imagine a fitness group could be quite cliquey, try and find something more down to earth. Easier said than done though, Im really downheartened by how poor the meet up groups are in my area. Im trying to find new friends to go on nights out with but the only groups here seem to be really lowly populated and are really niche. Theres no 'hey wanna hang out and get a few drinks on a friday night' sorta group, it feels like everyone round here has either got that part of their life sorted or they dont need to bother anymore. *sigh*. Nevermind finding a gf, bonding with anyone just gets harder the older you get. Yeah your right, just bonding with anyone at all is hard enough. I even try and joke around with some guys but..they really don't have a sense of humor and are pretty socially awkward. Finding a gf put aside, it's very hard to make new friends when everyone is so jaded so I don't blame you. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 What do they talk about? I'm the opposite. If a man has a paragraph long reply it's usually interesting because it's actually something to go on and more substance than 3 words or one line convos which I tire of darn quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kolleamm Posted March 10, 2015 Author Share Posted March 10, 2015 They talk to me about things like where they would like to visit and what they did today. I mean unless I'm dating them I could really care less. Someone telling me they would love to visit France really has nothing to contribute to a conversation. And then when they start telling me things like "how was your day?","wbu?", or "lol" I turn off my computer. Link to post Share on other sites
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