Do any of you start feeling down when you hear about someone's great life?

[Bobbi7]

I guess more about a person's accomplishments, travel, work, college. Here I am, living in the same city that I grew up in. Only traveled to a few places in the U.S. Never been out of the country, I work a 9-5 job that I really don't enjoy. It just pays the bills. And my only excitement of "fun" is going to the dance clubs on occasion. Wow. I dropped out of college, so nothing came out of that-wasn't happy with what I was doing. I don't have the type of job that requires exotic vacation trips out of the country. My life is sooo bland. And to top that off, I'm a single woman..Everytime I hear about how great someone is doing, I end up comparing myself to them and what I don't have. Its hard not to.

[d0nnivain]

Sometimes but you have to remember that things like FB are the modern up to the minute equivalent of the old Christmas letters people used to put in cards. They only contain the good stuff, the stuff people brag about. They omit all the bad stuff so it looks like the other person's life is so great. Take it all with a grain of salt.

 

Meanwhile, if there are things you want out of life that aren't happening for you, think about what you can change / improve to make your dreams come true.

[Keith1970]

I love my life...but it's not incredible, wonderful, exotic...well, it is to ME maybe not to others. Our home is small, we d6ont spend a ton on vacations or out to eat or electronics..we save, we tithe, we spend time as a family loving each other and life. It's all relative. Enjoy what you have, don't envy what you don't.

[central]

If you don't like the direction your life is taking, change it. Start small, change one little thing and make it stick. Then add another. And another. Then something bigger, like more education or a job change. Keep the momentum building, and you will build the life you want.

[Erica Faith]

Have you thought that maybe the only thing that is stopping you from living your life is yourself?

 

If you feel like the grass is greener on the other side, then cross over.

 

I stopped with social networking a long time ago. People seem to post with strange, egotistical agendas now. I wish them well in their life and moved on.

[Kopite]

I agree with Erica. If you think your life is bland, change it. Simple as that.

 

I was in the same position but chose to force myself to change two years ago.

 

I've done about 15 new countries in the last two years alone and I don't even have money. Instead of spending the little money I make on a new TV or a car, I chose to spend it on travel. No regrets at all. Some people would rather buy the latest Iphone but the 400 dollars you spend on that could easily go to a small week trip to some exotic location. It depends on what makes you most happy really.

 

If you want more opportunities later on in life for example, then go back to studying. I have been saving almost 60% of my income in the last two years so that I can do an MBA next year. This has meant not eating out and cooking at home a lot and avoiding a lot of things that I enjoy doing. However, I know it will be worth it for me later on.

 

A list of goals is a good start to changing your life. Each time you accomplish something you set out on the list, you can then treat yourself.

 

It's really up to you to change and if you can get someone to help you out by setting some goals for yourself, all the better. You can even set some goals here in this thread if you want.

[Kopite]

Oh and cutting things out like Facebook is a good way to stop feeling what you feel as well. Only you decide what makes you happy, not us other bastards.

[regine_phalange]

Comparing yourself to others is the easiest way to be miserable. Plus you don't know the whole story, only what they tell you. Everyone has dark secrets.

[SincereOnlineGuy]

I guess more about a person's accomplishments, travel, work, college. Here I am, living in the same city that I grew up in. Only traveled to a few places in the U.S. Never been out of the country, I work a 9-5 job that I really don't enjoy. It just pays the bills. And my only excitement of "fun" is going to the dance clubs on occasion. Wow. I dropped out of college, so nothing came out of that-wasn't happy with what I was doing. I don't have the type of job that requires exotic vacation trips out of the country. My life is sooo bland. And to top that off, I'm a single woman..Everytime I hear about how great someone is doing, I end up comparing myself to them and what I don't have. Its hard not to.

 

 

Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeverything you wrote is so 'normal'.

 

 

HOWEVER, you are doing the equivalent to being a normally attractive woman with a random-ish body... and then looking to the left, and seeing a woman with an awesome butt, and saying "I wish I had her butt - my life would be so much better"... then looking to the right, and seeing a woman with firm and full boobs, and saying "I wish I had her boobs - my life would be so much better"... then looking straight ahead, and seeing a woman with long and shapely legs and saying: "I wish I had her legs - my life would be so much better".

 

 

What you have, is a foundation so that you will be able to afford to interact with the eventual partner who comes into your life. You are largely independent, you HAVE a life, and people revolving around it, and those ingredients will be of considerable importance when you meet someone who will inquire about (the) "YOU" that you don't recognize, cuz you're too busy envying somebody else's butt, somebody else's boobs, and somebody else's legs.

 

Nor do you even take the time to look behind you to notice who might be envious of your structure and organization in your 'bland' life.

 

 

Next time you find yourself in such a mood, I command you to look only at individuals while you are doing your comparisons.

 

No longer are you allowed to scan hundreds of people, to isolate the 35 who have nicer butts than you, and the 35 who have nicer boobs than you, and the 35 who have nicer legs than you do.

 

You need to consider any ONE of those many humans, if you are going to do a fair woe-is-me comparison... and then you have to figure out that someone in what would be the 65th percentile in all of those categories could easily be a grand human being who just doesn't recognize herself.