Life Transitions

[PJ1234]

Hello, I have been struggling with blaming myself on something for awhile. It is hard to even type this, even though no one will know me. However, I just happened to come across this sight and maybe God will connect me with someone to show me the right way. Basically, I rarely ever like (I mean like like men) and I had a chance with one I actually did like. He showed interest, we hung out twice (away for the night) and then I never spoke to him again. What I am struggling with is blaming myself because I feel I came off as a little needy in two things I said that second night. I said "you went MIA" and then later I said "I want something real". Now I didn't have meaning behind saying that I wanted something real other than that that is simply what I was looking for. I did not mean anything crazy like lets get married. I guess what I meant was I didn't like just hook ups for fun. Anyway, the blame and anger at myself is just so prevalent. And now he is with another woman (I believe they started officially going out right after we hung out the second time). I tell myself that because of the way I acted I just made him realize he wanted something official with her. It all just hurts so bad because he was interested and then I never spoke to him again. I sent one text a couple weeks later, "Hey, how was your holiday" which he ignored. I also blame myself for sending that text because I feel that was needy too. Anyways, try not to be too harsh, I already am blaming myself for the outcome. Also, can anyone give any advice on starting your social life completely over at 30. I have found myself in a situation in life where I literally need to start all over. I know the steps I want to make: first, make friends so that I would not ever be needy towards a man. I am so upset because I feel like this is late in life to start over and is this even going to be possible? As a female, am I out of time? Thank you for reading my post

[kolleamm]

Many people believe their tiny "mistakes" is what scared off the person when in reality the truth couldn't be farther from that. It wasn't meant to be. A person that truly likes you would be able to overlook words and see you for the person you are. He found someone else, and he likes her more than you.

 

This is just part of the normal dating world. Another guy will come into your life again at some point just makes sure you stay active and put yourself out there.

 

I have many regrets as well when it comes to liking someone but life is too short to worry about those sort of things. You will be fine and this is a perfectly common occurrence.