BlueSteel109 Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 You're starting to sound a whole lot better than you did at the beginning of this post 1994O. If you're really going to go through with the picking up of the clothes thing, I would definitely not bring up the relationship at all and please don't end up making any plans or sleeping with her again. This girl needs some time to see what she is missing. Start NC as soon as you leave her place. Block her from everything she can keep tabs on you. You're clearly out making yourself look better. She sees this. This is making her want you more. Want to know why? Because you're moving on and focusing on yourself. You weren't doing this before and yeah it would bring her back a couple times, but only temporarily, then it pushed her further away. Now you're putting yourself before her(which is how it should always be to an extent). You're realizing that your old relationship with her should not control your own personal happiness. The fact she sees you moving on is making her more attracted to you, so keep blowing that **** up. I know it doesn't make sense sometimes as to why getting over the person/break up, even if you deeply want that person back, is for the best. Psychologically speaking however, it drives people CRAZY to see their exes happy. It drives them more crazy when they see you happy and aren't sure if they can get you back anymore. Think hard about what you mean when you say it will take a lot for you take her back. Establish what you think, for the sake of a successful relationship in the future, it will take from her to be able to get you back. You don't want to go back to the old failure of a relationship you've been dealing with. Just keep doing what you're doing and I promise you it will only get better. There is a very good chance she will come crawling back and at that time you will know if you want her back or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1994O Posted April 19, 2015 Author Share Posted April 19, 2015 How is she supposed to know if I'm doing well if I have her completely blocked out of my life though? I'm doing a lot better thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
BlueSteel109 Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 She has her ways. You know somethings up when her friends and people you can clearly tell are fake accounts are trying to add you on everything. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby65 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 Also, it suprised me how bad she took the break up. She has been out clubbing 3 night a week to avoid thinking about it as she can't bare to sit in. Poor baby. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1994O Posted April 24, 2015 Author Share Posted April 24, 2015 No need for sarcasm Ruby65. Went over and or my clothes and chatted for a few minutes, she mentioned how she'd like to have a sleepover before she left for 10 weeks. Don't know whether I should go ahead or ignore that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1994O Posted April 27, 2015 Author Share Posted April 27, 2015 Guessing I should ignore it? Link to post Share on other sites
lgspot Posted April 27, 2015 Share Posted April 27, 2015 No need for sarcasm Ruby65. Went over and or my clothes and chatted for a few minutes, she mentioned how she'd like to have a sleepover before she left for 10 weeks. Don't know whether I should go ahead or ignore that? Coulda had a lot of sleepovers before she left if SHE wasn't playing games. Go ahead and sleep with her if you can just have ex-sex with no eye towards the future. If not, if your heart is more involved than your penis---ignoring it is probably healthier for YOU.... Link to post Share on other sites
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