Ridingthewave Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 (edited) So me and my girl were together a little less than a year, yet so much happened in that time. We helped each other tackle a lot of things in each others lives and created a really strong bond, and I've never felt as strongly towards a girl that cared about me as much as she did. Absolutely amazing woman who has me head over heels in love. She just told me that she needed to break up with me because she doesn't have the energy for it anymore though. She works almost full time and took on another job that can really launch her dream career but she's afraid she's going to mess it up due to a lack of time. As a result she doesn't feel like she can put in as much as I am, it's not fair to me she says. I told her I'm ok with it, and I really am, I wanna be there even if it's not very often for a while if it means she can pursue something that makes her happy. She beats herself up with a lot of things like this where she feels like she's not good enough, or not giving enough. Nonetheless, we broke up. She told me she would still always be there for me. Then I asked her if when things balance out in her life do we had a chance of being together again and she said yeah possibly. It's hard trying to move on because we both still love each other. I know we both need space from each other, but I don't want to lose contact and make her think I don't care anymore. How do I maintain communication without making it difficult/weird/painful for us? Edited March 11, 2015 by Ridingthewave Link to post Share on other sites
quattrob Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Seems like relationship isn't that important for her at least not as important as her career. She may love you but she didn't love you enough. When you love someone and really want to be with them, you'd do anything and sacrifice anything to be with this person. Just like how you would sacrifice your time with her so she can chase her dream career. If she really did love you enough, she'd accept your willingness to do whatever it takes to support her path towards her career. It's easy to say that you love someone, but actions always shows you if you or her really do actually love each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ridingthewave Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) I've thought that if she really loved me she would do anything to make the relationship work but there's one thing that makes me not able to accept that as a fair assessment. (Maybe I'm just still in denial) but... When we first started dating she said she wasn't ready for a relationship (scars from a past relationship and personal issues), I pushed for it a month or two later and she gave it a try. Things were amazing for the first few months, then she started getting distant because she still felt broken and unworthy of being with some as "amazing and great as me". She's critical on herself and wants to sort out a lot of things in within herself and her career (she's terrified of making a living from bartending and is having a quarter life crisis or something). Her biggest thing besides not having the time or energy for the relationship is that she says I deserve more and better than what she can offer right now. She says she's just not in the right place right now for a relationship, as much as she wants to make it work. Am I crazy wanting to believe there's still a chance down the road? I really want to believe that she's actually doing this because she really believes it will be better for both of us right now. Rather than, she's just trying to let me off nicely Edited March 12, 2015 by Ridingthewave Link to post Share on other sites
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