LookAtThisPOst Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Most shallow and funny reasons for breaking up with someone (23 Photos) : theCHIVE I just Googled, "stupid reasons people break up" and came up with man, and that's just a sample. But it got me thinking... So often I hear, post haste, that a break up occurs and sometimes its happening frequently and its usually over some minor scuff that people tend to break up over the most stupid of things and then say, "He wasn't the right guy/gal for me." Or "We weren't a good match" and most times its due to reasons in these articles. Usually there's more to the story when people break up, but some do so for the most superficial of reasons and then say, "He/she wasn't a good match for me." After that being said, do you think this is a cop out? Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 I actually see these as very basic incompatibility issues. I have learnt recently that I have 2 no no's. Long finger nails and wiping food off of your nose with the food you are about to eat instead of a tissue... Turned the food on nose thing from cute to puke... We all have them. Those blinding moments where we think we just can not do this any more or we just can't live with that... Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Some of them weren't that dumb. It would be hard to take someone to meet the family if they're rubbing mustard on their hands. Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 I've got a great one! One of the very few reasons my ex gave for a divorce was that I "walk on the wrong side of her when taking walks sometimes." After the gut reaction of HUH!? started to settle I asked her what she meant. So she tells me I'm not a man because real men walk on the side more toward the cars when walking down a sidewalk. This is one of the main reasons for divorce. If a car jumps the curb and heads straight for us (we walk less than a foot apart), I'm supposed to catch it and keep it away from her. Riiiiight. A large bear couldn't do that. If a car is hitting the pedestrians, they're all getting plowed over. Further, i did often walk on the non road side to protect her...from dogs that run out, crazy people, etc. Actual dangers. I'm still baffled. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Do you think they should stay together after they no longer what to be together, because they don't have a "good reason" that they no longer what to be together? I thought that was the purpose of dating: to discover if you want to be together or not. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 ^ Precisely. You don't have to give a "good reason" to break up. This is not the same as firing someone from a job. You can't take someone to an industrial tribunal or sue them for unfair dumping. The only requirement for dumping someone, is that you want to dump them. Any reasons you may or may not give are entirely superfluous and unnecessary. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Further, i did often walk on the non road side to protect her...from dogs that run out, crazy people, etc. Actual dangers. I'm still baffled. The actual dangers in "your" mind not hers... hence fundamental difference... I also prefer a chap to walk on the side of the cars. Makes me feel "safer" even if he can't pick it up and throw it out of the way. We all have silly niggles that we just can't live with and some that are "cute". The joys of being human eh. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 That article was really funny thank you for the link!! Srsly though if something somebody does bugs you so much they aren't the person for you, when you really want to be with somebody their awful quirks become acceptable if not endearing!! Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Hilarious But I get it. I honestly think that when someone is simply not right for you or you're just not that into them, then small things become big things and become unbearable, and if that's the case it's probably a sign that you simply shouldn't be together. Everyone has their annoying things, but I think a sure sign someone isn't right for you is when their annoyances become so large and bothersome, that for me is a sign that I simply don't like them all that much as if I did, it wouldn't bother me nearly as much. So while it seems shallow, it's legit. Link to post Share on other sites
HBK3317 Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 The actual dangers in "your" mind not hers... hence fundamental difference... I also prefer a chap to walk on the side of the cars. Makes me feel "safer" even if he can't pick it up and throw it out of the way. We all have silly niggles that we just can't live with and some that are "cute". The joys of being human eh. Still not a reason for something as big as a Divorce! It's just God damn stupid! Speaks volume about the person they might be like! Link to post Share on other sites
rester Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 The things on that list are funny, but they sound more like excuses and not reasons. I think if you're sticking around and these things bother you, you're wasting both your time and the other person's time. I know that if I went out with a woman a few times and found out that she only ate chicken nuggets and french fries, that I would stop seeing her. I wouldn't date her for a few months or a year and then decide that her eating habits were the reason I'd end it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 I think the reasons in the article are more after a few dates than after a few years of dating! I went on a couple of dates with this guy a couple of years ago and honest to god I "broke up with him" because he was a noisy kisser. I mean, seriously... every single kiss was noisy! Obviously, that wasn't the only reason. Clearly the chemistry just wasn't there, even though he was great on paper. But the noisy kissing... I just couldn't get over it and it turned me off so much we didn't even have sex the second time... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Obviously, that wasn't the only reason. Clearly the chemistry just wasn't there, even though he was great on paper. But the noisy kissing... I just couldn't get over it and it turned me off so much we didn't even have sex the second time... The bolded....exactly. When the chemistry is there, we think these little quirks are "cute" and "endearing". Until a couple years later when the newness wears thin, and then it is just all annoying, but there is real love and commitment to keep you together. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 The things on that list are funny, but they sound more like excuses and not reasons. I think if you're sticking around and these things bother you, you're wasting both your time and the other person's time. I know that if I went out with a woman a few times and found out that she only ate chicken nuggets and french fries, that I would stop seeing her. I wouldn't date her for a few months or a year and then decide that her eating habits were the reason I'd end it. OMG, that happened to me! Was dating a younger guy who I very shortly knew was gay but not out and not even able to face it himself. This went on for close to 4 years, but I knew he was gay. I had nothing else going on and he was company at least and sometimes good to go out with. But except for when I cooked, which I don't understand because Betty Crocker, I'm not, when I wanted to eat out, I'd have to take him through McDonald's first. All he ever wanted was McNuggets. Coincidentally, I eventually broke up with him for not cleaning his guinae pig cage. We were on our way to an amusement park, I had to go in after picking him up to go to the bathroom, and voila, the cage was covered and it was a hell hole under there. I came right out, drove a couple of blocks, then circled back to his house to let him out. Of course, it was by no means the only issue in the relationship, but it seemed like a very clear cut one to me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GravityMan Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 When a guy's into a woman (or vice versa), he tends to be cool with many of her quirks. Eating BBQ ribs with a fork & knife? Cool, doubt it'd bother him...heck he'd probably like it. (I may tease her about that though.) For the few quirks that would put him off a bit, most decent folks would try to communicate about them in an appropriate manner. When he's not into her, many of her oddities are suddenly bothersome. Little "niggles" that he normally wouldn't give a damn about suddenly become magnified. Bottom line - it's all about how one person feels about the other. The chemistry is either there or it's not. This is not complicated stuff, IMO. The reason most break-ups happen is because the two people don't want to be together anymore, or one person doesn't want to be with the other anymore. Any specifics or reasons beyond that aren't important. Similarly with dates...the reason a 2nd date or a 3rd date doesn't happen is because one or both people have concluded that they aren't right for each other and therefore it's pointless to continue. There doesn't even have to BE a reason beyond "you just ain't feeling it". Some people really overthink things, and thus make it unnecessarily harder on themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
Oh.really. Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 (edited) I would think the "superficial reasons" for breaking up would have weeded people out at the onset of a dating relationship. I personally think the seemingly petty reasons given for a breakup sometimes are a cover for something they feel guilty or embarrassed by. For instance, when my ex bf and I were first dating, he said the reason he and his last gf of 2 years broke up was because of work schedule incompatibilities, when in reality, he: drank heavily, was a serial cheater, habitual liar, workaholic. Just a thought. Edited March 25, 2015 by Oh.really. Link to post Share on other sites
Oh.really. Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 I'm freshly broken up, and I almost find it funny the things going through my head NOW that bother me, and not when we were together: why did it not bother me then that he's so damn short, when DOES he plan on cutting that mop on his head, why does he think it's so cool to have his hair longer and that damn bald spot in the middle (my great grandfather was inordinately vain and use to do the same thing, lol), why is he so picky about having most things in his life so organized and be such a slob about his car and personal appearance....I just feel like I'm SUCH a weirdo sometimes, lol.....I REALLY cannot stand dirt and disorder, yet I tolerated it in him. I'm a mystery to my own self. Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 It should probably read; "The stupid reasons people *give* but don't actually mean, because they're either unwilling or unaware enough to come clean about the real thing that's bothering them" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 It should probably read; "The stupid reasons people *give* but don't actually mean, because they're either unwilling or unaware enough to come clean about the real thing that's bothering them" True. I once used a collection of loofas' as an excuse to disappear. Link to post Share on other sites
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