Bobbi7 Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 I'm in a few meetup groups-haven't went to any event yet or even talked to anyone from any group. I got a message from some random guy that I don't know and he said, "Can we talk?" With a smiley face at the end. I guess he must have saw that I was in a group for Singles. I just thought that was creepy. I mean first off, its not a dating site where anyone is free to message someone they don't even know. Its a meetup site and until people meetup and until they meet is when its appropriate to message someone personally. Link to post Share on other sites
MrMeh Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Yes. It's obvious he's a maniacal killer. Run while you still can! Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 A random guy If he knows your locker number, he's a creep! If you saw him in the hall more than 5 times in one day, he's a creep! If he looked at you more than twice in a day, he's a creep! If he sits behind you in a class, and he happened to clear his throat, he's a creep! If he found you online, he's a creep! If he talked in any way about your little sister/brother, he's a creep! Don't all women know these things ??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bobbi7 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 Yeah, I'm locking my doors and sleeping with my rifle for sure!!!! :laugh: But I do wonder what he wanted to "talk" about if he doesn't even know me. Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Being that you have never attended a meetup, what position are you in to explain the acceptable rules of conduct? Further, you joined a SINGLES group, and now you're complaining that a guy messaged you. You didn't join the "women's only knitting club". 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bobbi7 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 Being that you have never attended a meetup, what position are you in to explain the acceptable rules of conduct? Further, you joined a SINGLES group, and now you're complaining that a guy messaged you. You didn't join the "women's only knitting club". Well, he could have used a different "approach" than "CAN WE TALK?" I mean, surely he could have asked me a question about the meetup groups or what not, then it could of gone from there. I mean, who uses 'CAN WE TALK?" as a ice breaker? His approach was just kind of a turn off. Link to post Share on other sites
Mangina Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Well, he could have used a different "approach" than "CAN WE TALK?" I mean, surely he could have asked me a question about the meetup groups or what not, then it could of gone from there. I mean, who uses 'CAN WE TALK?" as a ice breaker? His approach was just kind of a turn off. My guess is this guy is not very attractive. Am I right? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gary S Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 I'll admit, the message was a little lame, but hey, this is the internet, it kinda goes with the territory Link to post Share on other sites
insert_name Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 My guess is this guy is not very attractive. Am I right? Yep, you have to wonder whether this thread would even exist if it was Johnny Depp doing it.... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 It was a harmless flirtation designed to start a conversation. It's funny how guarded and uptight some women are these days. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 I'm in a few meetup groups-haven't went to any event yet or even talked to anyone from any group. I got a message from some random guy that I don't know and he said, "Can we talk?" With a smiley face at the end. I guess he must have saw that I was in a group for Singles. I just thought that was creepy. I mean first off, its not a dating site where anyone is free to message someone they don't even know. Its a meetup site and until people meetup and until they meet is when its appropriate to message someone personally. I've done this, but was a bit more elaborate in my opening message. Basically welcoming her to the group, asked if she's new to the area and if she's been to any Meetups lately. Sometimes these people join Meetup (you can see their join date), but they don't attend events, some join and forget about the site altogether. lol. The above mentioned lady emailed me back, said she's been too busy with work and her kid these days that she's never got a chance to do an event, but she did say she wanted to keep staying in touch with me. *shrug* It's all in the opening email I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Moy Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 I'm in a few meetup groups-haven't went to any event yet or even talked to anyone from any group. I got a message from some random guy that I don't know and he said, "Can we talk?" With a smiley face at the end. I guess he must have saw that I was in a group for Singles. I just thought that was creepy. I mean first off, its not a dating site where anyone is free to message someone they don't even know. Its a meetup site and until people meetup and until they meet is when its appropriate to message someone personally. Can I answer? Link to post Share on other sites
Moy Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Joan Rivers. Well, she used to. Brilliant! Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 its not a dating site where anyone is free to message someone they don't even know. Really? Where does it say that in the site's acceptable use policy? I have quite a few random people I don't know messaging me, but then I am a group organizer. If you don't want to talk to this guy then just ignore the message. It's not rocket science. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 If you don't want to talk to this guy then just ignore the message. It's not rocket science. Don't you need to know mass, and the G coefficient to calculate the escape velocity to avoid this guy? Link to post Share on other sites
SELdeMER Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Yes I have had this happen to me on a few occasions when they first added messaging and it ticked me off. I was really unhappy when Meetup added the messaging feature. It caused me to change my profile picture from a pic of myself to a pic of my dog. At the time that this happened, I was not OLD or interested in any sort of OLD experience, had I have wanted an OLD experience (where people troll through profiles and randomly message you) then this would have been somewhat welcome. The thing that got me too, was that these guys were only messaging me because of my profile pic, because they knew nothing of my personalty as my profile has nothing written on it. I kindly told the guys that while their compliments were nice, I felt uncomfortable communicating in this way with men I had never met, and that maybe one day we would see each other at an event and could chat on person. Unfortunately, some of the guys took offense to this and got a little nasty. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Just ignore it. He's casting a wide net. That's all. If you meet him in person at the singles meet up & he's the best person ever, forget he ever sent you that lame / awkward opening salvo & deal with the person. Link to post Share on other sites
Blade96 Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 I'm in a few meetup groups-haven't went to any event yet or even talked to anyone from any group. I got a message from some random guy that I don't know and he said, "Can we talk?" With a smiley face at the end. I guess he must have saw that I was in a group for Singles. I just thought that was creepy. I mean first off, its not a dating site where anyone is free to message someone they don't even know. Its a meetup site and until people meetup and until they meet is when its appropriate to message someone personally. Say "sure" and then pay attention to what he says and does. It's THOSE things that help determine creepies, not simply the fact that they'd like to talk. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 If you do talk to him, don't let him lock you down to anything before the next meetup, and don't agree to be "with him" at that either. You could say "The reason I joined a meetup is because I don't really enjoy chatting with people I've never met. Hope to see you at the next group meetup." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Heck, there had been some women I met in person at the events that were short with me when I contacted them with, "It was nice meeting you." message, and ask them a few questions about themselves. I would get a "It was nice meeting you too. See you at future events." But you'd never see them go. We probably get hundreds of sign-ups that never actually attend a single event. lol. You'd be surprised how many sign up for 50 or 60 meetups, but not do a danged thing with them. Link to post Share on other sites
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