MissingHerBad Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 Hello to the loveshack. ITs been a while since I was on, things have been good. For those who followed my story back in the fall, I had a terrible time getting over my girlfriend who just decided one day that it was over and maybe with some good cause but still left me with tons of questions. The funny thing is I still think about her everysingle day and would love to have her back in my life and give her the attention and love that she urned to recieve from me before. I recently told her we could no longer communicate over the internet because it was just causing me to think about her thus adding to the 200 days that I already have since the break up. A few days after I called that off I recieved this....Please dont laugh bnut Im a man and am having troubles deciphering this poem so if anyone can help that would be greatly appreciated... [color=darkblue] [Moderator Note: Sorry, I had to remove the poem. They are song lyrics from a James Taylor song -- you can search for "The Water is Wide" on the internet if you want to read the lyrics. I'll leave the comments by the others, but I must remove the actual lyrics.][/color] Keep in mind she didnt have to do this. I was gonna leave her forever asnd never talk to her again if I had to (as hard as it is). I would probably still do anything to reconcile with her and build our relationship again. PLEASE HELP Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 She sees the emotional distance between you as a an insurmountable distance, one that she can't make it across. She is letting you know that she does not have what it takes to make it across, either. But... if you gave her a boat - the boat here is your relationship with her - she wants you to stick around and 'row' but under her terms and conditions - which, is... "friends". Her love for you died. The 'ship' is your friendship with her. She is letting you know that by cutting off contact (sinking the ship), you are basically leaving her to 'sink or swim'. Basically this poem is a nice, poetic and beautiful way to try to make you reconsider 'no contact'. A passive aggressive way to make sure that you stay "friends". She is asking you to continue contact on her terms and conditions as her "friend" and if you don't she'll suffer and it will be all your fault for cutting her loose on a 'rough and unfriendly sea'. Her motives are selfish. She is keeping you hanging on for her benefit - not yours. A true friend would understand and let go when she realizes that the friendship is causing more pain than good. She doesn't care that you need this 'no contact' for yourself - her only concern is for what it will do to her. If you need to protect your heart, then do it. You are not obligated to be friends with someone who broke your heart and forced you to downgrade your emotions. Thank her for the poem, and request that she not contact you again. Then block her emails/messages as necessary. Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 Its a song. I do not know the original artist. Try researching it over the internet. I did a little and found it was sung by James Taylor and Bob Dylan. As for the meaning, I believe the first stanza refers to the begining of the relationship, and working together. Both shall row--working together. No relationship should be one sided--or symbolically, one person rowing. Also, "the water is wide, i cant cross over. and neither i have wings to fly" The only way to get a relationship to work is to work together. This one's pretty obvious. After awhile some couples just fall out of love with each other. Time can erode a relationship. There is alway that feeling in the begining, but we all know at one point it fades. The third stanza is giving some trouble. I think this one refers to acceptance--the relationship is over. There was a boat that did sail, but its journey has ended. As fas as sinking and swimming, I believe this means that an individual is have trouble coping, referencing to "I know not how" statement. Last stanza, piece of cake. Reflection. In a nutshell, here is an outline of what each stanza means 1.) Working togeher 2.) The relationship or love is/has faded. 3.) Acceptance/Coping 4.) Reflection Why she sent, my guess is just that is what she is feeling. The relationship was fun, but its over now. There are other boats and journeys to be made. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissingHerBad Posted April 9, 2005 Author Share Posted April 9, 2005 Wow, thats pretty insightful guys. Thanks, I guess. I just keep getting tripped up on this girl but the otherday when I finally killed contact, actually just before I had, she started telling me things that she never has, ie wanting to call me, thinking about me...stuff like that. I just fear that the feelings run very very deep. Link to post Share on other sites
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