Bheemesh Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 (edited) We have 7 months (2010 March) long distance relationship prior to marriage. My wife (23) was bit mean to me (26) at that time, and i was having lot of stress because of job trails as i had to change my job. Because of pressure from families we married when we were not ready (in India). we came back to US and i couldn't handle the marriage, new job, and i was very mean and selfish for first 3 to 4 months (yes, i was so stupid).its supposed to be honeymoon period, but never gave her that. After that we started to realize each other's value and slowly become very good friends and respect each other. slowly and gradually i have become very attached to her. couple of years later, she got a very good job and went to different state. i didn't want her to go, but i didn't stop her as well. i used to meet her and in one visit (~3 yrs after marriage) we decided to get divorce as we thought we don't have love and wasting our time (she thought i don't love her, and i felt like we have so much resentment in our relationship) she sent emails to attorneys, but i didn't want to sign. after seven months of procrastinating, and servaral calls from my wife i obliged and signed it. the very next week i want to cancel it, but there is no cancellation. we didn't even go for counseling before going for divorce. i met her 4 months (Nov 2014) back and spent time together. i am very happy and discussed plans for remarriage. now we are mature and very successful in our careers too. i clearly understand what went wrong, and believe easily work out things. so, i wanted her back straight away. suddenly 2 months (jan 2015) back she shut me off completely. And came to know she is getting married in (April 2015). as u can see i don't have enough time to win her back. i read lot of articles, and everyone suggested NC. but, i don't have that much time to win her back. she is not answering calls, or didn't even give me closure. i contacted her, family, sister, friends everyone. sent her numerous emails. apologized for past mistakes. i told her why it can be our happily ever after. i straight away flew to her place, but she went to her bro's place and didn't meet me. she totally shut me off. and i strongly believe we will be happy forever as we have seen best and worst of each other, and we divorced for wrong reasons. in US, they just give divorce in 90 days via emails. i wish i started this process in India (at least its very difficult and takes lot of time). i am kind of lost. i feel like all my life crashed. i have nothing to show except money i earned . i lost love of my life because of immaturity. is there anything i can do now? the marriage is dissolved just like that. my five years relationship ended just like that. i feel like i should have see this coming, and fixed it long back rather than given preference to work. i just feel like so dumb and depressed. as of now, i lost total hope. but i just want to see her once and express my feelings - and let her take the decision. but she is not even allowing that. Regards. Edited March 13, 2015 by Bheemesh
d0nnivain Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 You are not going to win her back. She made a choice -- the other guy. Let her go. Plan something fun for yourself the day of her wedding so you are distracted. 1
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