sportygirl89 Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 This guy I met at church is waiting to hear back if he gets accepted into a missionary position. I have known him since January. Tried to get to know other people in the group first. We seem to sit together at every event (whether last or first seat choice). He seems to be responsive in communication (faster than most guys). He is completely different then what I typically date. Him going to be a missionary would be a slight issue on us getting to know each other. I know I could trust him unlike most guys. What would you do? Link to post Share on other sites
Karin2rinkashi Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I think you can tell him that you like him any time you want really... but keep expectations low, even if you know he will say the same in return. Also, mention to him your concerns about him leaving on the mission. But, i would say why not wait till he comes back? So you guys actually have time to go forward after accepting your liking for each other.... I know i am jumping ahead... but when/if it is time to say "I Love you!" Make sure that you know what you are saying.... Just post again when that time comes. That one is a lot more important that this stage. I like you is harmless, in terms of hurting/not hurting someone. In case you/him change your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Announcements such as "I like you" rarely work. For now, flirt with him. Make a point to sit near him. Ask about his day etc. Get to know him. If he gets the missionary position, ask if you can write to him then do so. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 When do I tell the guy I like him? Show your like in words and/or actions similar to how you do with other men you've interacted with in the past. Considering the circumstances, IMO you're doing just fine. Keep showing up and growing personal interaction. As appropriate, if/when the time comes, express interest in retaining contact while he's away. Listen. Since it appears the thrust of this story is couched in religion, what are the courting and dating customs in your religion? Use those for guidance. Talk to other men. That's the beauty of being young and single. The world is your oyster. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sportygirl89 Posted March 16, 2015 Author Share Posted March 16, 2015 Oh the idea of writing to him sounds perfect. That is how my friend and her fiance met. They've been together 2-3 years. He opens doors and such for her. What is it is with guys below 25 not holding doors? Then this other guy we looked at each other while this guy was singing and playing guitar on stage. It was like a moment or something. But we do not have anything together (except we have communication via facebook, and that's not exactly how I want to talk to someone or asking them out). Ha! Link to post Share on other sites
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