Bobbi7 Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Is it their appearance? Their social status? If they are rich, in the same league as you, single vs single, married with children vs married with children, outgoing, quiet, designer clothes, same music tastes, similar styles, punk rock scene...what? What draws you to them? Link to post Share on other sites
kolleamm Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Some sort of benefit just like everything else in life really. A shoulder to cry on, a person to obtain wisdom from, a game partner, just to name a few. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 To be loved, be loving. To find peace, be peaceful. To find forgiveness, be forgiving. To be cared about, be caring. To be treated kindly, be kind. To be understood, be understanding. To have friends, be friendly. Etc. Link to post Share on other sites
melodicintention Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 I personally don't draw friends in because I'm an INTJ (Meyers Briggs personality type, less than .8% of the popular are like me) and I hold such high standards that 99.9997% of people just don't do it for me, therefore I have no real friends because the ones I had screwed me over for significant others that ended up screwing them over. I have plenty of acquaintances, mostly through a shared love of music, but I have no friends nor do I intend to try to attract any or purse any. Remember, a friend is just a person who hasn't *****ed you over yet. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 I personally don't draw friends in because I'm an INTJ (Meyers Briggs personality type, less than .8% of the popular are like me) and I hold such high standards that 99.9997% of people just don't do it for me, therefore I have no real friends because the ones I had screwed me over for significant others that ended up screwing them over. I have plenty of acquaintances, mostly through a shared love of music, but I have no friends nor do I intend to try to attract any or purse any. Remember, a friend is just a person who hasn't *****ed you over yet. I'm in INTJ too, and it's true I'm just not interested in being friends with most people, and music is my main niche for friends too. But at one time I had a wide circle of friends in that niche and I still have a half-dozen or so I guess that are long-term, decades-long friends. OP, A tip someone gave me for when I went to college that I wish I'd heeded instead of doing the easy thing was there is this window of opportunity when you start something new like new school or new class, or move to another department at work, that right at the very first couple of days, you should approach the people who appeal to you and aim a little high because so may people being strangers that first day or so, they're all glad to have anyone come up and want to hang with them. So next time that opportunity comes along, look around and choose who you want to talk to, because whoever you talk to that first day or so is usually who ends up being in your crowd. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Social status usually causes the start of conversation, further shared interests (or just showing interest in others interests you haven't been interested in before) then keep it going. And later at some point it seems I'm being scanned for my appearance; in my odl college class that one girl suddenly interrupted me while talking as she had apparently noticed that my eyes were green. Well, at least that explained why she'd been staring into my eyes for the past 5 minutes... Link to post Share on other sites
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