superhotman Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 hey I was talking to this very very hot girl on OKcupid but it ended up bad and she was even mad at me. Such a pity. this is the convo with her: Me: Hi. So when can I take this princess out for dinner? Her: When you got my interest, haha. Me: Would any diamond ring be required? I was hoping for a shortcut since it is B&B day soon. Her: A diamond ring? LOL maybe. What is B&B day? Me: Girls have valentines day, we guys have Beef & Blowjob day on 14th march. Her: Geez, enough reason to lose all possible sexual interest/attraction for you! Me: Google it. It's an ''official'' day. Her: So? Lol. How offensive. Me: Why? Just asking for a shortcut lol its a special day Her: You hoping for a shortcut... how offensive. Go to a prosititue because you won't go far with that sexual entitled attitude! Have a nice day! She pretty much flipped at me lol how can i improve and why does she overreact damn Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 superhotman, we'll it looks like you weren't as "superhot" as you thought. Her: You hoping for a shortcut... how offensive. Go to a prosititue because you won't go far with that sexual entitled attitude! Have a nice day! She pretty much flipped at me lol how can i improve and why does she overreact damn Are you serious? Listen to what she says about an "entitled attitude" and make the necessary corrections to your behaviour and you might get somewhere. How old are you BTW? Because you sound like a testosterone-filled adolescent. Grow up. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Yes, I think I'd find that pretty offensive too. I might have heard about that day but I wouldn't appreciate a guy bringing it up when we hadn't even met and got a sense of how we interacted. It was crass behaviour and you found out that some women won't find it amusing. Perhaps she was looking for a tactful grown up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MrMeh Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 If there were things not to say, your statement would've have been near the top. I don't get what you expected her to say... Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 You don't know anyone you've only met online well enough to get away with using that language on them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SleekArchitecture Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 superhotman, we'll it looks like you weren't as "superhot" as you thought. Are you serious? Listen to what she says about an "entitled attitude" and make the necessary corrections to your behaviour and you might get somewhere. How old are you BTW? Because you sound like a testosterone-filled adolescent. Grow up. A good laugh is needed with all the questioning, confusion, and sadness on these boards. Link to post Share on other sites
SleekArchitecture Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Yes, I think I'd find that pretty offensive too. I might have heard about that day but I wouldn't appreciate a guy bringing it up when we hadn't even met and got a sense of how we interacted. It was crass behaviour and you found out that some women won't find it amusing. Perhaps she was looking for a tactful grown up. Is there really a beef and blow job day? Really? Link to post Share on other sites
elliecoffee Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Superhotman ! I do believe she's really into you, just playing hard to get AHAHA ! xx Link to post Share on other sites
Philosopher Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I have three comments about your convo: Firstly when messaging someone on an Online dating site, never ever mention you are looking for sex or write something that strongly implies that are just looking for sex. Most women hate these messages and it confirms to them that the guy is only interested in sex and not in actually getting to know them. Secondly don't act like you are entitled to a date, relationship or sex. It is OK to ask to a date. However insisting that you two have to go on a date or worse have sex will make you look desperate and she will see it as you ignoring her feelings. Thirdly from your interaction even before the B&B message I think she was a bit unsure on whether she wanted to date you. If she was very into you she would have probably agreed to dinner right away, instead she said that you have get her interest instead. So possibly you needed to work more on building up her interest before you asked her out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 She pretty much flipped at me lol how can i improve and why does she overreact damn She didn't overreact. She under-reacted. What you said was vulgar & offensive. You don't speak like that to strangers you are trying to date. You speak like that to prostitutes or people you know will appreciate such bawdiness. If you do not know if someone appreciates that type of comment, or emphasis on the basest physical aspects of sex, with no emotional connection whatsoever, you refrain from discussing it. Just for the record in the context in which you used it calling her a Princess was also an insult. You weren't putting her on a pedestal, you were demeaning her & telling her that she was entitled & spoiled. You don't even know her. How dare you judge her?! Crass inappropriate comments like the ones you made are what turn most women off OLD. You improve by going home & asking your parents to reteach you some manners. Those lessons obviously didn't sink in the 1st time. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
SleekArchitecture Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 She didn't overreact. She under-reacted. What you said was vulgar & offensive. You don't speak like that to strangers you are trying to date. You speak like that to prostitutes or people you know will appreciate such bawdiness. If you do not know if someone appreciates that type of comment, or emphasis on the basest physical aspects of sex, with no emotional connection whatsoever, you refrain from discussing it. Just for the record in the context in which you used it calling her a Princess was also an insult. You weren't putting her on a pedestal, you were demeaning her & telling her that she was entitled & spoiled. You don't even know her. How dare you judge her?! Crass inappropriate comments like the ones you made are what turn most women off OLD. You improve by going home & asking your parents to reteach you some manners. Those lessons obviously didn't sink in the 1st time. I believe by reading the poster's name and the one single comment, that this was a joke, something written with humor, to humor others. Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Hmmm, I did wonder if the post was a bit of a "wind-up".... Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 I believe by reading the poster's name and the one single comment, that this was a joke, something written with humor, to humor others. I hope so but I have been around LS long enough to know that somebody else reading this also wondered if what that one it wonder wrote wasn't so bad. I also to not "get" internet humor / sarcasm. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 If that was a windup, then good lesson to note that windups don't come across funny in writing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kolleamm Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 The minute you mentioned blowjob you lost, I mean come on...really? It makes you look like a sex crazed rapist. Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Dude, that was TERRIBLE. You bring up a BJ to a woman online that you've never even spent any time with yet? It's one thing to make a humorous innuendo and have some harmless flirting to build tension. But what you did was just plain stupid. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Whoever coined this holiday didn't take into consideration that we already have pi day on the 14th. I'm sure she'd have been more receptive to celebrating that with a nice cream pie. Live and learn dude. Link to post Share on other sites
Teknoe Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 The minute you mentioned blowjob you lost, I mean come on...really? It makes you look like a sex crazed rapist. +100 This is a girl online too! You have no idea of the body language, the facial expressions, the tone, etc. Terrible choice. I understand you're trying to do the whole "cocky and cool and confident" routine, but that's just a little too much. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Teknoe Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Dude, that was TERRIBLE. You bring up a BJ to a woman online that you've never even spent any time with yet? It's one thing to make a humorous innuendo and have some harmless flirting to build tension. But what you did was just plain stupid. Well stated. He can do it if he already knows the girl and the girl knows and likes that sort of humor/confidence, but you don't pull it on a stranger you've never met before online. LMAO Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 I thought it was Steak & BJ Day? Link to post Share on other sites
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