Anna84 Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 (edited) Saturday went like this: I step inside the cooler, he moves closer. His latex-gloved hands are slick with grease. His eyes move up to my face, his hands almost graze me - 'Almost had my dirty hands on you', he smirks. He steps outside and prepares that what I need with his back towards me. When he's done he turns around, and as he walks to the sink he licks his fingers while looking at me hungrily. I stand in the middle of the kitchen, shocked. I yell at him that he's crazy, and he pushes the dish in my hands. Later that evening I send him a text of an unflattering drawing of a monster that reminds me of him. Underneath it I write, 'this is you'. He replies back, 'that's nice of you'. I respond in turn with, 'shut up'. -------------- The guy in question is my colleague. Whenever I tell people about the way he behaves towards me they don't believe me. He's well liked, well behaved and proper to everyone else at work. Normally. I got to know him 1 year ago at which he almost instantly showed interest. He wasn't blatent about it though, and it was more in a friendly way than anything else. He mentioned he had a girlfriend once, but never talked about her ever again. We kind of became friends at work, but during the summer tension started to run high. I found it very hard to be around him, but it helped that he didn't make an obvious pass. He would, however, tap or squeeze my shoulder, look at me longingly, stroke my wrist and show interest in my life outside work. I went away end of summer till mid-autumn and made a conscious decision my crush should be over. But ofcourse - not long after I came back, tension became worse than before. I tried not to respond to his looks and again, he never initiated meeting outside of work, luckily. One evening however, he stayed after work a little longer and made a real point of establishing what was going on between us. The discussion left me mistified and shaky and wondering whether I should give into him and the passion just once and be done with it. One of my other colleagues overheard us and came over to me, and advised me to steer well clear of him. Of course I pushed her to say why, and she came out with a name of another colleague that shocked me to the extent that everything seemed to freeze around me. It turned out that; not only does he have a girlfriend at home; but he was banging another chick at work, 'F'. I always knew 'F' had the hots for him but never thought he was banging her on the side because I'd never noticed any chemistry between them. The story goes that she showed him her availability and he, douche bag, gratefully took advantage of that and uses her when fancy strikes. As soon as I found out about them I turned around a 180 degrees. Whenever he'd approach me, I'd stay neutral and if needed, would avoid or ignore him. Soon he must have realised I found out about his formerly well-kept secret.. He stopped any outrageous behaviour for a week or so, but then changed for the worse from hinting to flirting before, to openly sexual - probably frustrated with how it'd all gone. I persisted with ignoring him - I just didn't care anymore - I was genuinely disgusted with him, and he stopped again for a while. But now he's at it again, and stronger than ever before... And I hate myself for it, but of course the worst is yet to come: I want him so, so badly....... Edited March 15, 2015 by Anna84 Link to post Share on other sites
Mal78 Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Honestly, stick to your writing talents and go for 'erotica shorts'. He is trouble. If he as already banging another women at your work and you decide "hey why not" things could get ugly. He has a GF, has OW.... where would you place? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 The guy in question is my colleague. Whenever I tell people about the way he behaves towards me they don't believe me. He's well liked, well behaved and proper to everyone else at work. Normally. Your own personal and professional reputation is at risk. If you sleep with him, people will find out and you'll be the big gossip talk at the water cooler, and even more so since you've been warned about him. So what if you want him! Get over it and push the lust feelings you have for him away. If you go for it and sleep with him, then you know what you're in for, a lot of drama, gossip, embarrassment and pain. The choice is yours. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GoldieLox Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 No, you CAN resist him. It's a choice. Make the right one. All you have to do is read the countless horror stories of people here who got involved in affairs at work and either lost their jobs or who had to quit them because of the professional and emotional nightmare that ensued because they "couldn't resist" their coworker. Nothing is worth your reputation and livelihood, especially a guy who has someone at home, AND already has an OW? Come on. This screams "use-job" at it's finest. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Girl Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Ugh... You need to stop reading trashy fiction. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Eagle's-bargain Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 Ugh... You need to stop reading trashy fiction. I know, right? I was wondering if having a "husband's bulge" was a natural reaction to this. Thankfully that did not happen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted March 15, 2015 Share Posted March 15, 2015 (edited) i think you need to tell him that your answer is no, record the convo discreetly in case he gets nasty-ier, the silent treatment is not working, he does not understand it, he is still trying please...side pieces mostly have crap Christmases and weekends, all alone, his girl might get nasty at you if she finds out this is about lust, not love, he is not asking you out, he is just acting sexy at you just postpone giving in to him, or you will lose the dignity and novelty you have, and still only be a side piece, or even just a one night stand Edited March 15, 2015 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted March 16, 2015 Share Posted March 16, 2015 I would say sexual harassment in the work place. However, you are encouraging him with your email. It's all in your control. You know he can't keep it in his pants, so you can go for it or ignore him. Poppy. Link to post Share on other sites
Josmatjes Posted March 16, 2015 Share Posted March 16, 2015 So, basically you want to be another knotch on his belt? Cause I assure you that you will be.... Do not give up your integrity and dignity, it's all you have.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria_Smellons Posted March 16, 2015 Share Posted March 16, 2015 Which do you think would be worse, resisting him or feeling like **** because you've been used and treated like just another conquest? Think about it very seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 You sound flattered that he makes googly eyes at you. You should feel disrespected. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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