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Day 10 of TC <total commitment to my marriage>


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Southern Sun

Total reCommitment to my marriage :)

 

I know it's a drop in the bucket, but I am happy.

 

Just sayin... :)

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Southern Sun

I wanted to add something to this...

 

I said I was happy and I am. Happier than I have been in a long time. But that doesn't mean it hasn't been hard. I am sharing this to encourage those of you on the fence. I see a lot of advice given that is well-meaning, but indicates that you should FEEL differently than you feel, that you should want to end the A and thus, make it happen.

 

However, what I am finding is that while many of us want to end the A, or know in our heart of hearts that it must be totally over, it is hard to take that final step. Wanting to is different than being willling to.

 

The point is, sometimes you have to DO first. Once you get the courage to take that action, your heart will follow.

 

It gets clearer with every day past.

 

Southern

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Marriage is a one day at a time thing. Each day is a new opportunity. The more time I spent in MC working my own affair, the more I came to understand the day to day nature of marriage and how to focus on the day. Unfortunately, in our case, the love had died and was irretrievable. Mileage varies widely on that. Good luck with your M!

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Southern Sun

Wondering if this can get moved either back to the Infidelity or OM/OW forum? I was originally posting there and my reply post was directed to those in affairs.

 

Thanks.

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Your posting, as published, has nothing to do with Infidelity and is appropriately located in our Marriage and Life Partnership forum. LoveShack is a unified forum with specific areas of discussion. You're discussing your total commitment to your marriage.

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