kids, mom, stepmom,dad knowing nothing!!!

[matwie]

I am the real mom not the step mother. My ex who has the kids will be married in a few months and it seems that the step mother has lost her mind with my kids,

My son (9) calls me and tells me that he wants to be with me not there (he went for vacation and never returned) My oldest one is thinking of ways to get out of the house (15) I will be out there to visit them for a week and i intend to talk to there father (with them there)

 

The kids tell me that they do not say anything about how she is like or what she is doing to them because he will not believe them, so they say nothing at all. My kids are honest and they would not lie to me about any of this. I am worried because I know of the emotional abuse that she is subjecting them to. They liked her at one point but now they can not stand her, My oldest daughter is always in her room never goes upstairs with the family.

 

I use to get along with her however she started to tell me what I can do with my kids and what was not allowed, I lost it and i have not said a word to her since then.

 

I was wondering something though, means my son was just kept out there and never returned (wanted to try it for the year) not working for him at all, can i do the same thing, I have full cusdoy of them both but they have lived with the father for 2 years. we never went to court for this, should I do this without informing him? Should I tell him my intensions if doesn ot agree with this, how do I go about this all? I am leaving at 7 tomorrow morning for the visit, we live across canada from eachother..

 

PLS PLS PLS HELP!!!

thanks matwie

[WithOrWithoutYou]

It sounds like the ex's new wife is exerting a lot of authority over what happens to your children. If you do in fact have full custody, that needs to change, especially if she is not treating them well.

 

If you do have the legal right to take the kids back with you (you may wish to consult a Canadian attorney regarding that), and that is what all of the kids want, and if the ex's new wife is emotionally abusing them, then I think you should have the kids live with you instead of them.