Mal78 Posted March 16, 2015 Share Posted March 16, 2015 When trying to initiate NC who, in your situation broke NC first? If NC is successfully broken and the A continues what tends to be the "ice-breaker" to suck you back in? Link to post Share on other sites
Blu72 Posted March 16, 2015 Share Posted March 16, 2015 In my situation, whenever we went NC it was never discussed beforehand. We would either get in a slight argument or one of us would go distant for whatever reason. Because MM has always been the one to reach out the most, if one of us went distant he would be the one to reach out first. When he thinks I'm mad he will email me using work convo (our companies do business together) to feel me out then he will as how I'm doing. Wash rinse repeat. About 2 years ago we had an email conversation that got really heated and just ended abruptly. We didn't speak for almost a month and I finally reached out and he admitted he was afraid to email me first because he knew how mad I was. Then a year ago he went distant on me for no apparent reason and we didn't speak for 3 weeks. I refused to reach out. He emailed me with "Hi, how have you been?" I replied with "I'm fine, and you?" He never replied. I finally emailed him 2 weeks later and blasted him. He said when he originally emailed me my response made him think I was mad so he didn't respond. He admitted when he feels I am upset with him it freaks him out so he tends to hide from it. Whatever. It's all games. Stupid games. Link to post Share on other sites
GoldieLox Posted March 16, 2015 Share Posted March 16, 2015 In my situation, I ended it and he just walked away... there was no "formal" NC conversation. He knew I didn't want to talk to him and he kept his distance (I'm not very subtle about being mad at someone). After 1.5 months I reached out to get some answers, we got going again for about a week and he ended it, which was fine. It never should've started again anyway, but I was extremely hurt by the way the whole thing went down. I was explicit this time that I did not want to be friends and did not want to talk to him. I slammed the car door a month ago and haven't looked at him since. We avoid each other like the plague at work. There will be no breaking NC on my side this time as I have all the answers I want or will ever need in my lifetime. There will be no breaking NC on his side, cause well, I just don't think he cares anymore. That's fine, I've pretty much reached a point of indifference anyway. It's time to move on with my life. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 16, 2015 Share Posted March 16, 2015 When trying to initiate NC who, in your situation broke NC first? If NC is successfully broken and the A continues what tends to be the "ice-breaker" to suck you back in? IME, it's always been myself, mainly due to behavioral reinforcement from women over the decades. This means that, if I don't initiate contact with a woman, any woman, over any circumstance, contact will not happen. Hence, since the end of my A and M, I have not contacted any women and the world has been silent. No MW's ever have contacted me, either first (soliciting interest) or later (expressing interest). It's possible that's relevant strictly to person (me) or generally to my demographic. I don't know which. Content was usually topical like what's up, children, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
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