hac10 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 So this guy at my school pursued me even though he has a gf and we have hooked up about 5 times. Each time it gets more and more intimate and now when we are done he will lay on me and cuddle with me. One night as he was laying on me he said,' This is weird", i said what is, and he replied, "laying like this because you're not my gf". I didn't know how to take it because he didn't move away he just got closer. One night at a party, he would keep grabbing me when he noticed another guy looking at me and he followed me around all night until we decided to leave. He had mentioned his gf and i said that i was starting to feel bad about what i was doing and he said that i shouldn't because it was his mistakes. That same night he wanted to have sex but i told him that i was on my period, which did not seem to faze him. He said he didn't care and that he had a condom. However, he never used a condom and continued to have unprotected period sex where he kissed me and he whispered that he loved ****ing me. We laid there and cuddled after for what seemed like forever. All of his friends mess with me saying that he only shows up to parties now because of me because he never use to go out before he met me. They also say that they believe i am the only other girl that has been with him besides his gf in the last couple years. He also just stares at me when we are alone and doesn't say anything, he doesn't even look away when i catch him. Now i was told that his gf really hurt him and i think he is falling for me, am i right or delusional? what do i do?
spookysonata Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 He has a girlfriend; it's not like there are kids and mortgages and years of marital history. He could have broken up with her; but chose to cheat on her instead. He's basically telling you he doesn't have respect for you OR her. Why is this OK with you? Aren't you offended? Don't you think you could do better? What should you do? Um, DTMFA. Find a single guy. And a good therapist. Seriously, good luck. 6
Clay Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Do you really expect he won't lie when he is already lieing to someone else and you know about it?
Josmatjes Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Ask him to break up with her and be with you permanently and see what happens? If he says no then you have your answer about what you should do. 3
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 So this guy at my school pursued me even though he has a gf and we have hooked up about 5 times. Each time it gets more and more intimate and now when we are done he will lay on me and cuddle with me. One night as he was laying on me he said,' This is weird", i said what is, and he replied, "laying like this because you're not my gf". I didn't know how to take it because he didn't move away he just got closer. One night at a party, he would keep grabbing me when he noticed another guy looking at me and he followed me around all night until we decided to leave. He had mentioned his gf and i said that i was starting to feel bad about what i was doing and he said that i shouldn't because it was his mistakes. That same night he wanted to have sex but i told him that i was on my period, which did not seem to faze him. He said he didn't care and that he had a condom. However, he never used a condom and continued to have unprotected period sex where he kissed me and he whispered that he loved ****ing me. We laid there and cuddled after for what seemed like forever. All of his friends mess with me saying that he only shows up to parties now because of me because he never use to go out before he met me. They also say that they believe i am the only other girl that has been with him besides his gf in the last couple years. He also just stares at me when we are alone and doesn't say anything, he doesn't even look away when i catch him. Now i was told that his gf really hurt him and i think he is falling for me, am i right or delusional? what do i do? I'm sorry but did anyone else catch this?!? You knowingly hooked up with a guy how had a girlfriend AND you're having UNPROTECTED SEX with him?!?! Give your head a serious shake! Delusional? Absolutely. This guy is scum on multiple levels. The fact that you're actively participating in this kind of betrayal AND not using protection is just pathetic. Do you think by having period-sex somehow bonds you? He's going to tell you whatever you want to hear as long as he keeps getting what he wants. Any fool can see this. Don't think you're anything special. The minute you close your legs and ask him to start working on a legitimate relationship will be the moment he splits. Trust me. Do yourself a favor and get tested. Grow up and start acting responsibly for heaven's sake unless you're fine with catching a STD or becoming a parent. 7
Gloria_Smellons Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 I would just like to echo the cry for pregnancy testing and STD checks. You know for a fact that this guy is sleeping with at least one other person, you MUST take your sexual health seriously. I don't know if this guy genuinely likes you or not, the only way to know is to stop sleeping/hanging/being with him and tell him if he wants you, he can approach you when he's single, then see what happens. One thing I would say though, never underestimate the things a person will do and say for sex. So many women fall into this way of thinking. 'If he does and says x, y and z, it must mean something more'. I am here to tell you with my years of experience, that often that is not the case. 2
Riri90 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 I'm sorry but did anyone else catch this?!? You knowingly hooked up with a guy how had a girlfriend AND you're having UNPROTECTED SEX with him?!?! Give your head a serious shake! Delusional? Absolutely. This guy is scum on multiple levels. The fact that you're actively participating in this kind of betrayal AND not using protection is just pathetic. Do you think by having period-sex somehow bonds you? He's going to tell you whatever you want to hear as long as he keeps getting what he wants. Any fool can see this. Don't think you're anything special. The minute you close your legs and ask him to start working on a legitimate relationship will be the moment he splits. Trust me. Do yourself a favor and get tested. Grow up and start acting responsibly for heaven's sake unless you're fine with catching a STD or becoming a parent. Yes i thought the same thing when I read that...like it really means something that a guy has unprotected "period sex" with a girl...when guys are known to stick their junk in anything (apple pie, sheep etc..) I know I'm taking it too far but seriously 3
Riri90 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Just wanted to add 1. He does not have a problem with period sex because he most likely has period sex with his girlfriend...think about that...still feeling special? 2. NEVER trust or listen to his friends...they are his friends and bros before ...well you know the rest. Also wanted to add: I will never understand why girls (and women for that matter) think that a man having unprotected sex with them means something special! It's just gross (especially if this is a cheating man/MM). It's safe to assume they are having unprotected sex with their GF or wife. I believe that ALL OW/OM need to do themselves a big favor and keep themselves protected. A man not wanting to use his jimmy hat with you is not special...he is just being a man and seeing how far he can take it. 3
the_artist_1970 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 So this guy at my school pursued me even though he has a gf and we have hooked up about 5 times. Each time it gets more and more intimate and now when we are done he will lay on me and cuddle with me. One night as he was laying on me he said,' This is weird", i said what is, and he replied, "laying like this because you're not my gf". I didn't know how to take it because he didn't move away he just got closer. One night at a party, he would keep grabbing me when he noticed another guy looking at me and he followed me around all night until we decided to leave. He had mentioned his gf and i said that i was starting to feel bad about what i was doing and he said that i shouldn't because it was his mistakes. That same night he wanted to have sex but i told him that i was on my period, which did not seem to faze him. He said he didn't care and that he had a condom. However, he never used a condom and continued to have unprotected period sex where he kissed me and he whispered that he loved ****ing me. We laid there and cuddled after for what seemed like forever. All of his friends mess with me saying that he only shows up to parties now because of me because he never use to go out before he met me. They also say that they believe i am the only other girl that has been with him besides his gf in the last couple years. He also just stares at me when we are alone and doesn't say anything, he doesn't even look away when i catch him. Now i was told that his gf really hurt him and i think he is falling for me, am i right or delusional? what do i do? Please make an appointment with your gyno asap and stop having unprotected s*x with this guy who is sleeping with someone, and his gf may be sleeping with someone else and so on... You are a poster child for an STD/HIV. Please protect yourself. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Also wanted to add: I will never understand why girls (and women for that matter) think that a man having unprotected sex with them means something special! It's just gross (especially if this is a cheating man/MM). It's safe to assume they are having unprotected sex with their GF or wife. I believe that ALL OW/OM need to do themselves a big favor and keep themselves protected. A man not wanting to use his jimmy hat with you is not special...he is just being a man and seeing how far he can take it. THANK YOU! My thoughts exactly. I've seen and have read way too many threads on here of girls (mostly younger women but you see it with older ones too) talking about it like it's something to be proud of. Honestly, it freaks me the f*ck out that we don't seem to have progressed much in terms of sex education and the importance of safe sex! More importantly, I'm saddened to still see so many girls/women wrap themselves around a guy where they'll believe anything and do anything for a chance to feel wanted and loved. They don't even realize how much risk they're putting themselves (and others) in and for what? 2
jellybean89 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 So this guy at my school pursued me even though he has a gf and we have hooked up about 5 times. Each time it gets more and more intimate and now when we are done he will lay on me and cuddle with me. One night as he was laying on me he said,' This is weird", i said what is, and he replied, "laying like this because you're not my gf". I didn't know how to take it because he didn't move away he just got closer. One night at a party, he would keep grabbing me when he noticed another guy looking at me and he followed me around all night until we decided to leave. He had mentioned his gf and i said that i was starting to feel bad about what i was doing and he said that i shouldn't because it was his mistakes. That same night he wanted to have sex but i told him that i was on my period, which did not seem to faze him. He said he didn't care and that he had a condom. However, he never used a condom and continued to have unprotected period sex where he kissed me and he whispered that he loved ****ing me. We laid there and cuddled after for what seemed like forever. All of his friends mess with me saying that he only shows up to parties now because of me because he never use to go out before he met me. They also say that they believe i am the only other girl that has been with him besides his gf in the last couple years. He also just stares at me when we are alone and doesn't say anything, he doesn't even look away when i catch him. Now i was told that his gf really hurt him and i think he is falling for me, am i right or delusional? what do i do? I am assuming by school you mean high school cause I can't believe a grown woman would feel "special" cause some cheating fool has unprotected sex with someone who is on their period. He isn't into you..he is into sex with you because you seem to have no issue with him having a gf. So in his mind, you are easy. Is that how you want to be thought of? And I'm sure all his buddies know about his sexcapades with you. And that's gross. 1
Riri90 Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 Here is my thinking when it comes to unprotected sex and sharing men. This is also a reason I refused sex with ex seperated man until he was divorced. Have you ever been in a woman's public bathroom? It's disgusting! It reeks of dirty feminine smells, unflushed toliets with urine and fecal matter, tampons and other used feminine products just thrown about. Purely disgusting! But that is how some women these days conduct their feminine hygiene. I do NOT want to be having unprotected sex with a man that may be having unprotected sex with women who conduct their hygiene like this. You don't know his GF, her hygiene rountines or where her vagina has even been. You need to protect yourself ALWAYS until in a commited relationship (or marriage for the stricter folks) This is exactly why we need sex ed in the schools. 2
HeartWon'tHeal Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Dear dear hac10, YOU DONT WANT TO BE THE OTHER WOMAN AND STOP NOW! Like the others said this guy is probably using you for sex and please get tested for STD's. My other advice is to keep your legs closed until some special man puts a ring on your finger and makes a real commitment to you. Love will wait and lust will not wait.
jellybean89 Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 Here is my thinking when it comes to unprotected sex and sharing men. This is also a reason I refused sex with ex seperated man until he was divorced. Have you ever been in a woman's public bathroom? It's disgusting! It reeks of dirty feminine smells, unflushed toliets with urine and fecal matter, tampons and other used feminine products just thrown about. Purely disgusting! But that is how some women these days conduct their feminine hygiene. I do NOT want to be having unprotected sex with a man that may be having unprotected sex with women who conduct their hygiene like this. You don't know his GF, her hygiene rountines or where her vagina has even been. You need to protect yourself ALWAYS until in a commited relationship (or marriage for the stricter folks) This is exactly why we need sex ed in the schools. Could not agree with you more. Great post. Hopefully, the OP (and others who are having unprotected sex with ANYONE) read and 'hear' what you have posted.
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