Is POF <online dating site> bad for short guys and minorities?

[SearchingForMyself]

Might as well message women up to your height. Otherwise you're just limiting yourself.

 

But the girls near his height also want taller dudes.

 

Most girls who are short really drive that point home.

[SearchingForMyself]

I noticed that for a certain number of women they make a note that that they love heels. Then they use this material invention to exclude who is shorter or not that much taller than them in it.

 

Heels are a woman's go to method to try to exclude short guys when in reality most guys short or tall don't give a damn about it. I've heard women lie about dating short guys who didn't like them in heels when they never gave these guys a chance.

 

If you use a fashion accessory to validate requirements, not preferences when it comes to dating...you are both shallow and petty.

 

The hard realization of that is that it makes lots of women OLD practically invisible to you.

 

Its best to avoid these types. Even if they are most of what you see.

[alphamale]

What have been your experiences with plenty of fish?

If you want to hang out and date lower middle class, mostly uneducated, then POF is great.

[somedude81]

But the girls near his height also want taller dudes.

 

Most girls who are short really drive that point home.

 

In my experience there are just as many short women who only date tall guys as there are tall women who only date tall guys.

 

I think it's just best not worry about a woman's height at all unless she's a few inches taller than you.

[girl-in-boots]

 

I've just created a new profile on POF, using my avatar pic from here as my main photo. I'm keeping it lighthearted, so here is my profile description:

 

"Well apparently I'm supposed to talk about me, my hobbies, interests etc. but everybody writes the same so let's start off by being frank. I'm confident and spontaneous, but also a good guy. When I say good guy I mean genuine and honest, not Mr Meek who apologises for breathing too loudly. I make sure my friends and family are happy and that elderly neighbours have enough Werther's Originals! Sometimes I even let the odd car out at junctions. I also leave the toilet seat down – as standard. Even Jesus didn't do that!"

 

I'm making sure to only message women who are over 40 (my age), under 5ft 2 (I'm 5ft 8) and who are 'A Few Extra Pounds' body type (I train 4-5 times a week.)

 

My profile is four days old. Messages sent: 12. Replies: 0

Number of unsolicited messages: 1 - not sure if mid-transition gender swap! These stats aren't even the tip of the iceberg, any man on here will know that the zero will not rise much in the coming months!

 

This isn't 'whining' or 'giving off bad vibes' - this is how it is!

 

Part of me thinks I should just ignore this thread but then part of me feels that too many people try and pacify others with pats on the head and never tell them the truth. So here goes. I know a lot of you are not going to like it, but there you go.

 

Moy what exactly are you trying to do with your profile? Prove a point? Are you intending to date the women who you are sending messages to? What???

 

You think you're entitled to a date because these women are a few extra pounds??? Because they are shorter than you???? Please explain.

 

If I was over weight I'm not sure I'd be interested in someone who worked out a lot, hell I'm in decent shape and even I don't want someone who works out a lot. Have you thought that these women may sense your 'entitlement' and so delete you. You're entitled to a date because you've 'lowered' your standards, what else do you think you're entitled to? Sex? PMSL. Your profile is as empty as those that say 'just ask' and yes your reason will be that it doesn't matter what you put. Well wake up, because it does matter to that one woman who is looking for you. You put zero effort in and you will get either rubbish or zero back and that's fine, just stop complaining about it.

 

For the rest of you whiners - the second someone comes on here and tells you that they are successful you put out your 'well you're..... you live..... you have.....' whine whine whine and then you wonder why women aren't interested in you.

 

If you don't like OLD then don't do it, coming online and bitching about how crap you are at it doesn't make you look aloof or hipster. You look like an immature idiot.

 

You want to know the real reason a lot of women won't date short guys. It's because apart from the fact you're fixated on how tall you are, you have a reputation of being overly aggressive to try and make up for your lack of height.

[SearchingForMyself]

If you want to hang out and date lower middle class, mostly uneducated, then POF is great.

 

But I'm lower middle class. Financially anyway.

[somedude81]

 

You want to know the real reason a lot of women won't date short guys. It's because apart from the fact you're fixated on how tall you are, you have a reputation of being overly aggressive to try and make up for your lack of height.

 

Do you know what a stereotype is?

[SearchingForMyself]

Part of me thinks I should just ignore this thread but then part of me feels that too many people try and pacify others with pats on the head and never tell them the truth. So here goes. I know a lot of you are not going to like it, but there you go.

 

Moy what exactly are you trying to do with your profile? Prove a point? Are you intending to date the women who you are sending messages to? What???

 

You think you're entitled to a date because these women are a few extra pounds??? Because they are shorter than you???? Please explain.

 

If I was over weight I'm not sure I'd be interested in someone who worked out a lot, hell I'm in decent shape and even I don't want someone who works out a lot. Have you thought that these women may sense your 'entitlement' and so delete you. You're entitled to a date because you've 'lowered' your standards, what else do you think you're entitled to? Sex? PMSL. Your profile is as empty as those that say 'just ask' and yes your reason will be that it doesn't matter what you put. Well wake up, because it does matter to that one woman who is looking for you. You put zero effort in and you will get either rubbish or zero back and that's fine, just stop complaining about it.

 

For the rest of you whiners - the second someone comes on here and tells you that they are successful you put out your 'well you're..... you live..... you have.....' whine whine whine and then you wonder why women aren't interested in you.

 

If you don't like OLD then don't do it, coming online and bitching about how crap you are at it doesn't make you look aloof or hipster. You look like an immature idiot.

 

You want to know the real reason a lot of women won't date short guys. It's because apart from the fact you're fixated on how tall you are, you have a reputation of being overly aggressive to try and make up for your lack of height.

 

This is so so so sad. But it just proves the points that were made.

 

You complain to moy that he lowered his standards just because by is struggling. But then instead of asking why he would do that you immediately stereotype short guys with some short of napoleon complex to obviously justify....girl in boots....why you won't date a short guy.

 

You try to disprove a prejudice by using a personality trait that humanity possesses but obviously its only a bother in short guys according to you? You're the one who is prejudice. You attacked men with a certain unchangeable physical trait by comparing it to a very changeable and health affecting physical trait that most guys are not going to make a deal breaker.

 

That is because attraction does not last a lifetime. Men are realistic and many of them will go on personality.

 

But the princess mentality you seem to possess blinds you from that.

 

Most men won't mind if you're overweight...

 

Women will crap on you if you're under 5 10.

 

Your argument is not only weak but hypocritical. Next time you want to try to be right...try thinking outside of your comfort zone.

[girl-in-boots]

Do you know what a stereotype is?

 

Yes I do. Are you trying to say I'm wrong for giving you the reason that women don't like dating short men or are you testing my command of the English language?

 

I know you're not criticising me for using one because I only have to look back a couple of posts and see that you too have used a stereotype.

[SearchingForMyself]

That last sentence just proved how shallow(not to mention the fact that your username shows that you love heels..thus it now makes sense of your attitude) and ignorant you really are.

[somedude81]

Yes I do. Are you trying to say I'm wrong for giving you the reason that women don't like dating short men or are you testing my command of the English language?

 

I'm saying that the reason given by women, possibly yourself, to not date short men is a stereotype. It's completely unfair.

 

I know you're not criticising me for using one because I only have to look back a couple of posts and see that you too have used a stereotype.

 

Please go ahead and point it out.

[girl-in-boots]

This is so so so sad. But it just proves the points that were made.

 

You complain to moy that he lowered his standards just because by is struggling. But then instead of asking why he would do that you immediately stereotype short guys with some short of napoleon complex to obviously justify....girl in boots....why you won't date a short guy.

 

You try to disprove a prejudice by using a personality trait that humanity possesses but obviously its only a bother in short guys according to you? You're the one who is prejudice. You attacked men with a certain unchangeable physical trait by comparing it to a very changeable and health affecting physical trait that most guys are not going to make a deal breaker.

 

That is because attraction does not last a lifetime. Men are realistic and many of them will go on personality.

 

But the princess mentality you seem to possess blinds you from that.

 

Most men won't mind if you're overweight...

 

Women will crap on you if you're under 5 10.

 

Your argument is not only weak but hypocritical. Next time you want to try to be right...try thinking outside of your comfort zone.

 

I have no idea what you are going on about. I'm asking Moy if he is planning on dating these women. He gave specific traits that, to me, implied that he should have some success there based on how he looks and he's surprised when he gets no takers as if he is ENTITLED to a date with these women.

 

I've asked him what he hopes to achieve, sorry if I didn't ask him the question that you think I should ask but feel free to go ahead and ask him.

 

 

Now as for your 'Most men won't care if you're overweight .... women will crap on you if you're under 5'10" ' What a load of crock. Women won't date you because you're hung up on your height and that's the crappy personality that comes across.

 

Again you think because you're a man you're ENTITLED to a date because you're attracted to someone but she has to date you irrespective of if you have BO, or she thinks you're plain ugly or your breath smells or she can't stand the way you eat with your mouth open or your heavy nasal breathing or your ........

 

Men go for personality??? pmsl yeah you keep tell yourself that and you believe it if you want but the vast majority of people go for looks that's men and women.Who cares if attraction doesn't last a life time I am free to choose who I want to stare across the table at over breakfast or are we now saying that I have princess syndrome because I want to be attracted to the man I sleep with???

 

You're not even posing an argument that I can say it's weak. You're just whining because I've told you out and out why a lot of women won't date a bloke shorter than them. Shall I sugar coat it and say the fact that you aren't getting dates is because women are shallow and just want some arm candy. There. Hope that helps.

[SearchingForMyself]

I have no idea what you are going on about. I'm asking Moy if he is planning on dating these women. He gave specific traits that, to me, implied that he should have some success there based on how he looks and he's surprised when he gets no takers as if he is ENTITLED to a date with these women.

 

I've asked him what he hopes to achieve, sorry if I didn't ask him the question that you think I should ask but feel free to go ahead and ask him.

 

 

Now as for your 'Most men won't care if you're overweight .... women will crap on you if you're under 5'10" ' What a load of crock. Women won't date you because you're hung up on your height and that's the crappy personality that comes across.

 

Again you think because you're a man you're ENTITLED to a date because you're attracted to someone but she has to date you irrespective of if you have BO, or she thinks you're plain ugly or your breath smells or she can't stand the way you eat with your mouth open or your heavy nasal breathing or your ........

 

Men go for personality??? pmsl yeah you keep tell yourself that and you believe it if you want but the vast majority of people go for looks that's men and women.Who cares if attraction doesn't last a life time I am free to choose who I want to stare across the table at over breakfast or are we now saying that I have princess syndrome because I want to be attracted to the man I sleep with???

 

You're not even posing an argument that I can say it's weak. You're just whining because I've told you out and out why a lot of women won't date a bloke shorter than them. Shall I sugar coat it and say the fact that you aren't getting dates is because women are shallow and just want some arm candy. There. Hope that helps.

 

Someones angry. You must have a napoleon complex. How unattractive

[girl-in-boots]

That last sentence just proved how shallow(not to mention the fact that your username shows that you love heels..thus it now makes sense of your attitude) and ignorant you really are.

 

OMG - What a complete jack** . girl in boots was a pet name which referred to the fact that I was a qualified electrician and I wore stonking steel toe capped boots.

 

I can't walk more than 10 yards in heels so no I don't love high heels. And " there are just as many short women who only date tall guys as there are tall women who only date tall guys." is your stereotype or are you one of those few people who personally know all 30,000 of their Facebook friends individually to be able to make that claim?

[girl-in-boots]

Someones angry. You must have a napoleon complex. How unattractive

 

Not angry. Just tired of listening to the poor excuse that men are giving for not getting a date.

[SearchingForMyself]

Not angry. Just tired of listening to the poor excuse that men are giving for not getting a date.

 

We are not giving excuses when we have disadvantages.

 

Get back to the thread topic here.

[girl-in-boots]

We are not giving excuses when we have disadvantages.

 

Get back to the thread topic here.

 

Do yourself a favour. Go and look up Nick Vujicic on Youtube. Watch a few of his uploads and then drag your sorry ass back here and tell me exactly what disadvantage you have.

[SearchingForMyself]

Do yourself a favour. Go and look up Nick Vujicic on Youtube. Watch a few of his uploads and then drag your sorry ass back here and tell me exactly what disadvantage you have.

 

If he's got money he already has a huge advantage...

 

So any argument concerning that will not work

[girl-in-boots]

If he's got money he already has a huge advantage...

 

So any argument concerning that will not work

 

OMG you really are on a pity party for one here aren't you. You're too bone idle to go and have a look but instantly have decided that he's rich so you're still right. Nope sorry you have a crap attitude which you're drowning in I have no idea how tall you are and don't really care because being 6 foot tall wouldn't change that.

 

You may as well hang out here and see how many others you can get to join your pity party.

 

Other people will have looked or will know his story and will be rightly embarrassed by your response.

[SearchingForMyself]

OMG you really are on a pity party for one here aren't you. You're too bone idle to go and have a look but instantly have decided that he's rich so you're still right. Nope sorry you have a crap attitude which you're drowning in I have no idea how tall you are and don't really care because being 6 foot tall wouldn't change that.

 

You may as well hang out here and see how many others you can get to join your pity party.

 

Other people will have looked or will know his story and will be rightly embarrassed by your response.

 

Sheesh I was just joshing.

 

Lighten up, will ya.

 

I Have gotten laid and dates last year...some were great some wouldn't.

 

But you can't ignore there are advantages and disadvantages with height.

[Moy]

I didn't say that I was entited to ANYTHING. That's projection on your part.

[girl-in-boots]

I didn't say that I was entited to ANYTHING. That's projection on your part.

 

Way to go Moy. Don't worry nobody has noticed that you have ignored every question I've asked and put it all back on me

[Moy]

^^^^^^^^^lol

[calvincline47]

It depends what minority you are.

 

ALL men will have far more difficulty online than women (for women, it's pretty much a catalog for men).

 

However, if you are a short and/or Asian male, don't even both doing online dating. There's really no point because you won't get anywhere.

 

Attitude, personality, and interests have nothing to do with it.

[emva07]

As a educated Latin-American woman this is my opinion of Tinder....In Washington, DC....

 

Tinder here is very "white" and by "white" I mean frat bros and sorority sisters who now work for congress, lobbying, contracting, etc. Your House of Cards ****. Do expensive Pilates classes, love Starbucks and asking "so who do you work for?"

 

The educated minority men are in "dating-up" heaven.

 

And the white men I have dated, are into "experimenting" with those minority women who are rumored to be beasts in bed and too hot to handle. The fetish of the month.

 

Here Tinder is known as a hook-up app for sure, is that true in other places in the country?

Edited April 5, 2015 by emva07