BlankSpace Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 What is it exactly? A friend of mine asked me this. And I just said ... It depends. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Originally posted by BlankSpace What is it exactly? A friend of mine asked me this. And I just said ... It depends. Sex. Everything else is secondary. Link to post Share on other sites
TGC Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Sex. Everything else is secondary. Speak for yourself. Depends on who the girl is and what you like her for... If you like her for her looks, sex. If you like her because she makes you laugh and makes you feel good about yourself, then probably a relationship. What guys want in that relationship, in my opinion, is honesty, loyalty, and just someone who is there to hang around with and have a laugh with. TGC Link to post Share on other sites
hyjacked Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 sex and more sex. Be a friend not a controlling individual stop the nagging before it's starts. Nagging is just a verbal spanking. Yelling and screaming is just a verbal beating. you know the natural tendancy of many women to "fix" the guy? Dont even start. Love it when my wifey flirts with me especially now that it's been almost 8 yrs Be concerned with his happiness Goes w/out saying if he's an abusive man idiot...dump him, don't waste your precious time and mind. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Also forgot to mention sincerity. Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 You know what I really want in a girl...........Me. Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 And you can take that statement however you want. Link to post Share on other sites
TGC Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Originally posted by Conundrum And you can take that statement however you want. You want your girl to have male genitalia? That's how I interpreted it... TGC Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 No, no, no. It has a double meaning. 1.) I want a girl who can compliment my personality. I want a girl who shares the same ideology, interests and beliefs as me. Hence, I am looking for my personality inside a girl. 2.) I want my third leg inside the girl. Nuff said. Link to post Share on other sites
emma16 Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 I am a girl here but I have to reply. It depends on the age of the guy and the maturity of the guy. Some guys might not just be looking for sex. When you go for what a girl looks like I would say sex. How much money the family has or if you work for them promotin and sex. I have seen guys ignore their girlfriend who is bosses daughter all night at the bar all the time. What does that say........ Then you have men that look at personality, inteligence and looks. Does not equal sex, equals relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
TGC Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 Well said. Were you a man in a previous life? Men usually get attracted at first due to looks, although it does often develop into an attraction to their personality. TGC Link to post Share on other sites
emma16 Posted April 14, 2005 Share Posted April 14, 2005 TCG You are right there men get attracted to looks first then personality but the thing is many of them become adapeted to the personality. It's not the typical personality they would go for but the looks are to die for. In my personal experience with men. They have to be mature and no what they want in life to actually want a worth while relationship that goes the same for women. I was dumped awhile back by a guy a few years younger than me becuase of work and he began to date the bosses daughter who is 3 or 4 years younger than him. Being her first relationship she has no clue to how they work but when a group of us see them in the bar she is sitting by herself and the bf which is my ex is tied at the hip to her dad which is the boss. I wouldn't take it knowing all we do is go to the bar with my parents and no where else. She has no clue she is being used and it is still to fill a void for the girl that left him a year ago that he was with for 5 years and now she just got married. To truely make a relationship work one has to look past the looks. They need to look deeper see the persons personality, their own maturity, what you can offer wach other out of a relationship. In the end men and women want the same things from each other it just depends what stages of life they are in. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 22, 2005 Share Posted April 22, 2005 Well from my experience, companionship first, sex is secondary. Yes, you want the sex to be good, but if you decide you want to get married and you're going to live with this person the rest of your life, you really need to be with someone you love to be with. This is the thing that hurts so much about my Ex deciding to break it off. I miss her companionship more than the sex. The sex was great, no doubt, but being with her and sharing my life is a void that is nearly impossible for me to replace in my life. Yes, we're staying friends but it's not the same. No more staying over. No more romantic dinners. No more movies together. No more riding together. No more gym together. Nothing. A big empty space in my life where she used to be. I really, TRULY understand what it means to have someone "complete" you as a person and what it feels like to be half a man. So, what a guy wants from a girl depends on what his priority is: LTR: Companionship Other than LTR: Sex Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted April 22, 2005 Share Posted April 22, 2005 It's complicated. I think you are physically attracted to someone before you are even aware that you may like them for other reasons. So in a sense, yes, exer is right: sex first, everything else second. But of course, a good woman will know how to pace the situation so that the guy gets to know her better and "like her for her personality." Link to post Share on other sites
ratzskinakie Posted April 22, 2005 Share Posted April 22, 2005 People have different values, Yeah sex, sexy stuff is attractive, all that good stuff, but I will personaly fall for a cute looking girl who has fun personality. Guys may want to tap the hottest girls too, but relationships will build around people with similar chracteristics. OR, cost vs rewards. These things may be conpanionship, sex, money, time, resourses, love, or what ever the person may have to give or seek in life. Example, a rich ugly dude will value looks, while the hot chick may value money, so it all works out for them. But of course, values are different for everyone. A guy or girl who goes through more investment with themselfs will probably go for a guy or girl thats worth more or equal to him/her. but yet, people are different and crazy, nothing is ever 100% certain Link to post Share on other sites
macoxp Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 It's simple we want a challenge Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Also forgot to mention sincerity. You mean she has to be sincere about what she likes in sex? Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by macoxp It's simple we want a challenge Wow! You just opened my eyes about something, Maco! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you so much! Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 1. Loyalty. I want to be able to trust the girl. 2. Honesty. Don't keep crap from me and don't pull the old tired BS, "Nothing," when I ask you what's wrong and something is very obviously wrong. 3. Intelligence. Hot stupid chicks are nice to look at but that's it. I want to be able to talk to a girl and hold a conversation with her. 4. Respectibility. I don't want to date a slut who considers a napkin to be sufficient clothing. I want to date a girl I can confidently take home to my mother and know they'll get along. 5. Passion. I want a girl who likes to make out and make love and cuddle. I could never date a girl who doesn't enjoy kissing, and there are girls out there who are like that, and that's a deal breaker for me. 6. Drive. I don't want someone who wants to be a housewife. I want a girl who will make something of her life and wants to go somewhere with it. 7. Sense of humor. It's probably my strongest personality trait, so a girl HAS to have a good one to put up with me and give it right back. 8. Low maintenance. I don't want a girl that needs to go out dancing every night or has to party all the time or needs jewelry every week or needs three hours to get ready to go out. 9. Similar interests. I'm huge into movies and I could never be with a girl who doesn't like going to movies or watching movies, nor could I go out with someone who only listens to rap or hardcore rock. Petty, sure, but that's how I am. 10. No drama. I don't want a girl who will flip out over every little thing for no reason at all other than to just cause drama and more drama. That about covers it for me. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 24, 2005 Share Posted April 24, 2005 This thread turned into a dating site! The only difference is that we're more honest here! Just kidding, just kidding... I want 5 F's from a man: 1. F 2. fathfulness 3. fun 4. friendship 5. financial security But above all - LOVE FOR ME AND MY KIDS! Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Wow this is interesting! Thanks ucfkevin for the list and the eye openers. I always thought guys looked for the following things: looks, faithfulness, and sex. oh..and personality of course. I will definitely be thinking about this challenge thing. Is that why the less I am available and the less I answer the phone when a guy calls the MORE he will call? Hmmm Link to post Share on other sites
macoxp Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by XNemesisX Wow this is interesting! Thanks ucfkevin for the list and the eye openers. I always thought guys looked for the following things: looks, faithfulness, and sex. oh..and personality of course. I will definitely be thinking about this challenge thing. Is that why the less I am available and the less I answer the phone when a guy calls the MORE he will call? Hmmm Hmmm maybe I should stop giving away such good advice...without a fee anyways :-) Woman are seeking the same thing in a man. oops there goes some more I hope you guys were listening :-P Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 LOL I have Zero Idea what a Guy wants... Wierd.. when this question was posed to my EXBF he said "I don't know" Well for real IF he doesn't know, how in the hell would I know? Therapy at a discount is what I want now... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by macoxp Hmmm maybe I should stop giving away such good advice...without a fee anyways :-) Woman are seeking the same thing in a man. oops there goes some more I hope you guys were listening :-P Well you made us listen! Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Originally posted by UCFKevin 1. Loyalty. I want to be able to trust the girl. 2. Honesty. Don't keep crap from me and don't pull the old tired BS, "Nothing," when I ask you what's wrong and something is very obviously wrong. 3. Intelligence. Hot stupid chicks are nice to look at but that's it. I want to be able to talk to a girl and hold a conversation with her. 4. Respectibility. I don't want to date a slut who considers a napkin to be sufficient clothing. I want to date a girl I can confidently take home to my mother and know they'll get along. 5. Passion. I want a girl who likes to make out and make love and cuddle. I could never date a girl who doesn't enjoy kissing, and there are girls out there who are like that, and that's a deal breaker for me. 6. Drive. I don't want someone who wants to be a housewife. I want a girl who will make something of her life and wants to go somewhere with it. 7. Sense of humor. It's probably my strongest personality trait, so a girl HAS to have a good one to put up with me and give it right back. 8. Low maintenance. I don't want a girl that needs to go out dancing every night or has to party all the time or needs jewelry every week or needs three hours to get ready to go out. 9. Similar interests. I'm huge into movies and I could never be with a girl who doesn't like going to movies or watching movies, nor could I go out with someone who only listens to rap or hardcore rock. Petty, sure, but that's how I am. 10. No drama. I don't want a girl who will flip out over every little thing for no reason at all other than to just cause drama and more drama. That about covers it for me. Couldn't agree with you, Kevin. Link to post Share on other sites
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