Jet96 Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Im a senior in high school and ive seen a lot of girls that have been with them guys that have had sex with over 20 different girls in one year some even 50 in a year some over 100 girls throughout high school (mainly the football team but non athletes too ) even when i was middle school there were guys who ran through girls just like high school not that many just like 10 in a year im friends with guys like this it dosent phase me but it wonders me . I heard in college its like 50 girls in one semester these guys go through at big university. I for one am a guy that wull never cheat on a girl but and nit do this never had one either.half the time they know guys past and they still want him others are unaware i understand that but why them and not me thes guys run through girls like underwear once they used them the toss em why these guys appeal to girls ? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Because girls are easily won over by their smooth confidence. Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 The average "nice guy" isn't attractive to women. He doesn't have a backbone and stand up to a woman. He's clingy and needy. He always agrees with everything she says and is worried about stating his opinion. Finally, he's so worried about offending a woman or making her think he only wants sex, that he never flirts, drops playful innuendos, or makes a move. Women want a guy that's confident who makes them feel desired. A guy with balls that states his opinions, and doesn't let her walk all over him. Also, a "player" has multiple options with women. So he never gets needy or clingy. His indifference and the ability to be a challenge to women, is what drives them crazy. Now if you can be a legitimately good guy and a gentleman, while taking certain aspects of a player like backbone, indifference, and appropriate sex drive, you'll do very well with women. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Girls may like players, women like men who are honest, focused and looking for a woman that they care enough about to treat with respect. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Im a senior in high school and ive seen a lot of girls that have been with them guys that have had sex with over 20 different girls in one year some even 50 in a year some over 100 girls throughout high school (mainly the football team but non athletes too ) even when i was middle school there were guys who ran through girls just like high school not that many just like 10 in a year im friends with guys like this it dosent phase me but it wonders me . I heard in college its like 50 girls in one semester these guys go through at big university. I for one am a guy that wull never cheat on a girl but and nit do this never had one either.half the time they know guys past and they still want him others are unaware i understand that but why them and not me thes guys run through girls like underwear once they used them the toss em why these guys appeal to girls ? Those kind of guys appeal to a certain demographic of women. Are those the kind of women you want? A woman who has no qualms about being "tossed away" after the guy is done with them? For "players" like that, one thing I observe that their masculinity is also easily threatened. So it usually doesn't surprise me when they try to bury that insecurity between the legs of women. They're also probably alone in a romantic sense. Are those guys the kind of man you aspire to be? I don't know. I don't want to steer you one way or the other. It's natural for a man to want to be successful with women. Just wanted to give you something else to think about. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Why do girls like players ? They're socially, sexually and emotionally stimulating and young girls like, well, to be stimulated. I had what I considered to be my best childhood friend become such a player once he discovered, at about 11 or 12, that girls and women just loved him. It wasn't purposeful or ugly, rather who was he to deny all these folks the pleasure of his company. Young adolescent boys dream of such interactions when their hormones are flowing and they're one perpetual horny demon. Some guys hit the trifecta and it pays off big and they have a great time. Others, not. The jocks get the girls because they're popular. Everyone loves the folks on the stage who perform and win. In high school, athletics are one of the earliest and most cohesive of these stages. The key, if one is a guy and wishes to get laid, is to not spend too much time on the bench! What you're experiencing now will settle out, but probably not for another decade or so. Adapt and overcome. Link to post Share on other sites
wb1988 Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) Girls like cool guys that may or may not happen to be players, girls don't like players specifically. Same thing goes for bad guys or jerks. They like a type of guy that just happens to be that, but there are many (if not most) players/bad guys/jerks that they would never go for. I know that you want to be a nice guy but this is the reality, when you say: "why would you want to be with a player with you can be with a guy that would never cheat?", she hears: "why would you want to be with a cute confident guy that so many girls want when you can just be with a loser that has no options?". Edited March 18, 2015 by wb1988 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 I don't know why you think its woman in general or what kind of girls you know but most decent ladies do not like and have never liked players at all cheating hurts us just as bad as it hurts men or guys who claim to like us yet chase others. Link to post Share on other sites
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 When girls say they want a nice guy, they really mean they want a confident nice guy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 (edited) When girls say they want a nice guy, they really mean they want a confident nice guy. Well who really wants someone not confident? lol You can be confident and not be a player. Woman who chase players are not looking for an exclusive relationship to begin with, so when you get a guy who's trying to chase a woman with no relationship interests you can't blame the woman but yourself lol Edited March 18, 2015 by Omei Link to post Share on other sites
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Well who really wants someone not confident? lol You can be confident and not be a player. Woman who chase players are not looking for an exclusive relationship to begin with, so when you get a guy who's trying to chase a woman with no relationship interests you can't blame the woman but yourself lol Just being clear, because there's a lot of guys who are overly nice guys and go into a fit of rage when they get rejected because they're "nice" but have no confidence lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Justanaverageguy Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 What they don't teach you in the text books about women is one of the most attractive things a guy can do is have other girls interested in him. You think because of the nice guy brainwashing western culture puts boys through that the opposite is true. Seriously though nothing I have seen builds attraction for a man in a women more then another woman The fact they are experienced and popular with ladies is not a turn off .... it's a turn on particularly at college age where many are looking to experiment and just have fun. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Because girls are competitive. Each one thinks that her vagina is going to be the one to settle him down. I know, stupid isn't it. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Buddhist Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Im a senior in high school .....but why them and not me thes guys run through girls like underwear once they used them the toss em why these guys appeal to girls ? Because you're in high school, and people in that age group aren't mature and are pretty much just playing at bed hopping. And also because those girls are stupid, many of them will see the light in a few years time, some of them never will. Link to post Share on other sites
AVarma Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 They see that other women like them and want to see what all the fuss is all about! Link to post Share on other sites
AVarma Posted March 18, 2015 Share Posted March 18, 2015 Girls may like players, women like men who are honest, focused and looking for a woman that they care enough about to treat with respect. I'm not so sure about this. Look at all the politicians who cheat on their wives and are still married. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 Why does a fat boy want to eat pizza instead of broccoli? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
DoesntGetIt Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 There are women who appreciate actual kindness and respect. However, I got a fun experiment with the last girl I was with. She initially liked me because of how she saw me at work where I was friends with a lot of people, fun, a bit aggressive, etc. Things started off great, sex on the first date too. Then I started to go to her place and cook for her, and do other nice things. She started to fade off and lose interest. Not wanting to deal with that, I got fed up and told her if she wanted to hang out again let me know, if not, whatever. And I stopped initiating contact. She immediately got full on interested again and we had some fun, and then as soon as I went back to kind and caring, she lost interest again. That got old, so it is over now. But it was fun to actually watch as she got more interested to worse/less caring I treated her and less interested the more I was into her/did nice things for her. So that is something that a decent amount of women directly do. And it is frustrating as someone who enjoys treating women with respect and kindness (While not being a doormat and continuing to be myself and stay who I am). Luckily, I've typically had an easy time finding women who appreciate that. Link to post Share on other sites
toscaroscura Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 There are women out there with issues surrounding intimacy and commitment, women who are jerks and women who, because of their history, respond to abuse. It's not all women, it's merely the diversity of people. I've noticed tons of men are attracted to volatile women who treat them like dirt. Despite saying they don't like "drama", they constantly seek it. Some of them break the hearts of kind lovely women to go back to their toxic exes! But I'm not so ignorant to think it is ALL men doing this. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Sunlight72 Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 I agree with carhill, "(players are) socially, sexually and emotionally stimulating...". Put another way, players are fun to meet and be with. Not everyone always wants to find a life partner, a lot of people enjoy having fun and don't dream/hope it will lead to marriage and kids (at this part of their life). Think of this - lots of people like roller coasters - they think they're fun! But nobody lives on an amusement ride permanently. When you get on that kind of ride, you want some fun and you accept it will not last long. At some point, many people then decide they've had enough of the roller-coaster rides and want to go on a long cruise ship trip or move to a tropical island and they seek a longer term relationship or marriage. Same person, different part of their life. Some people try for the tropical island without ever trying the roller-coasters, and later wish they could go get on a thrill ride but it's 'too late'. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 The most sought-after men generally enjoy the privilege of their position by having a lot of sexual variety - whether single or married. I think it's only the very rare "alpha" who is sexually monogamous, even in marriage. Any alpha knows how to manage, including his personal life. So, many of their wives will never know if they are playing. It's not that women like players - it's that they like the most desirable men, and those men have greater opportunity to play. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Buddhist Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 this very well explains who she rejects doormats but it doesn't explain why she chooses players You clearly are not aware then that men do not exist on a spectrum but are instead binary at either loser status or player. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 I doubt they are actually having that much sex... 50 per semester? Why even go to uni Link to post Share on other sites
Revolver Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 Women like men who other women like/have. It's crazy how many stories you hear of sisters/cousins/best friends since kindergarten never speaking to each other again because one was fooling around with the others man meanwhile there Are millions of single men in America Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 Wow some of yours def on nice guy is really sad. I am considered a nice guy myself. I feel that better to be honest in a relationship than to lie instead. Players just lie and do whatever they want too. Some women like the player and some want a nice guy. 50/50 today just don't know which women prefer nice guy or player guy. Really a toss-up. Flirting is fake both men and women prefer doing that, I really don't like those ways. I'll do something different. I find most women like me for what I stand for. Link to post Share on other sites
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