Hungryhorse Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Hi, would appreciate any advice, went on a date the other night with someone I met through an internet site, quite liked this guy though wasn't sure if he liked me so said to him I wasn't sure what he thought of the evening so said for him to email me if he wanted to meet again. He was quite intelligent and to be honest I was a bit nervous as well I thought I had probably trippepd myself up during the date because I was so nervous, though he texted me over the weekend giving me his no and said "hope to hear from you". He said he enjoyed the evening and waited at the bus stop. He hasn't emailed me and now I am not sure if I should phone him as don't want to come across as desperate or for him to think I am chasing him, plus if I phone him he might tell me he doesn't want to meet again etc and know picking up my self esteem after a bad phone call would be ten times worse! I am not really sure what to do, I might have inadvertently by playing it cool have shot myself in the foot over this! perhaps I should leave it a few days. Do you think I should phone or do you think there would be any other less awkward methods of getting in touch and finding out the required info. Thanks for your help Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Phone him, phone him, phone him! This is not the dark ages - women are allowed to take the initiative sometimes and most of us guys like this. Be casual. Be cool. Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. Ask if you can meet for something light and fun, like a quick coffee or lunch. You'll know one way or the other in 2 minutes. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hungryhorse Posted April 12, 2005 Author Share Posted April 12, 2005 Thanks ReluctantRomeo, luckily he phoned me last night to ask if I wanted to meet for a meal, so didn't have to, now I just have to prevent myself making a complete twit of myself on the date! Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 I'm sure he's as nervous as you are. No need to worry. And I think you should have called him, he gave you his phone number and it wouldn't have been such a big deal to call him. I bet he also felt quite insecure when he called you, because you didn't contact him which would have been a very normal thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 Well, it sounds like he's keen. Kooky's right - I bet he's just as nervous as you are. Try to make the date light and fun and not too big a deal. Remember that those of us who are intellectual guys are not necessarily looking for the woman to match us on this. Of course, I like girls to be able to at least follow and appreciate my little trains of thought. But I place even more value on her bringing other qualities to the table, ones that I don't have. Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Remember that those of us who are intellectual guys are not necessarily looking for the woman to match us on this. Of course, I like girls to be able to at least follow and appreciate my little trains of thought. But I place even more value on her bringing other qualities to the table, ones that I don't have. Ahem, let me translate: "I need a sexy groupie." Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 Originally posted by kooky Ahem, let me translate: "I need a sexy groupie." Nice translation.... you've got me there - this is my dating history in a nutshell Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hungryhorse Posted April 14, 2005 Author Share Posted April 14, 2005 Thanks folks, think you are right I need to keep the date a bit light hearted and fun but help now seem to have signed myself up to a meal, think I might change it to drinks then at least I have a handy escape clause and a bit of alcohol (or possibly a bucket!) if the whole thing is a disaster and I run out of conversation as guess it is only a second date. Think perhaps I should do another date from teh site on Sunday evenign to take my mnid off it! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 14, 2005 Share Posted April 14, 2005 Don't change it and quit stressing. Quit thinking about you - plan on finding out about him. The worst thing you can do in these situations is to be constantly focused on yourself and what you think about what he thinks. He'll think you want to change to a date because you might want to escape him!!! The secret to being a good conversationalist is to ask questions - not to constantly come up with witty or brilliant things to say. Link to post Share on other sites
RomeoOnLocation Posted April 14, 2005 Share Posted April 14, 2005 Moimeme is dead right. Stick with the arrangement as is - sends bad signal if you change now. If you're nervous, asking nice questions is way the best strategy. They don't call me Romeo for nothing Link to post Share on other sites
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