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Same thing for me. My ex probably left me to try out with different people. Got a new bf on the third week after the break up. The reasons were kind of stupid. Not ready for stable relationship, have to focus on studies, and picking all my mistakes, as if everything was my fault. Thinking of it makes me pissed all the time.

 

Chin up mate, your best bet will be staying well clear.. When they go into a relationship (rebound or not) so soon after breaking up the worst thing an ex can do is hang around.. 'Being there' will only reinforce the rebound. Sucks but stay away and she might see you were the better option on her own.

 

I'd also add, that I learned so much about myself through this breakup. If it wasn't for this loss I would never have been able to look back at myself and see what I was doing to damage our relationship (even if she did stay for four years) It showed me how I need to change in many aspects of my life; not just relationships. I have to thank her for that. If she comes back I will show her. If she doesn't, she will never know... I get tired of hearing people saying stuff like "she's a b***h, don't give her another second of your time." People like that have clearly learnt nothing about themselves or taken the opportunity to grow from their BU.

 

Of course this doesn't mean the other person is always perfect, but instead of blaming them use the break as an opportunity to see how YOU could have done things better so that it doesn't happen again. I know it won't for me.. Of course if they were a bully or cheat this doesn't apply, I'm just saying that generally when someone breaks up with you it is imperative you look at your own issues before you even think of having them/anyone else come into your life.

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NC is about getting you back. Don't worry about attracting your ex, attract a better next.

 

If you become a better person, solid with who you are, happy in solitude, learn lessons, grow ect. then it is all worth it and you will be 10 times the person they left. You will have the choice to decide if YOU want to be with them. Move on and they will catch up if they want to.

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Chin up mate, your best bet will be staying well clear.. When they go into a relationship (rebound or not) so soon after breaking up the worst thing an ex can do is hang around.. 'Being there' will only reinforce the rebound. Sucks but stay away and she might see you were the better option on her own.

 

I'd also add, that I learned so much about myself through this breakup. If it wasn't for this loss I would never have been able to look back at myself and see what I was doing to damage our relationship (even if she did stay for four years) It showed me how I need to change in many aspects of my life; not just relationships. I have to thank her for that. If she comes back I will show her. If she doesn't, she will never know... I get tired of hearing people saying stuff like "she's a b***h, don't give her another second of your time." People like that have clearly learnt nothing about themselves or taken the opportunity to grow from their BU.

 

Of course this doesn't mean the other person is always perfect, but instead of blaming them use the break as an opportunity to see how YOU could have done things better so that it doesn't happen again. I know it won't for me.. Of course if they were a bully or cheat this doesn't apply, I'm just saying that generally when someone breaks up with you it is imperative you look at your own issues before you even think of having them/anyone else come into your life.

 

Yeah thanks to LS I've persuaded my old self to stay away and learn to love myself. Not everything is great but I'm sure days are getting better. I also think that you're right in fixing problems then jumping into the next one.

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