What would You Do??

[Neketah]

I'm at my wits end..I love my husband and I know he loves me. But he has a hygiene problem.. he takes a bath once a week..or maybe every 2 weeks. I refuse to have sex with him. because of the B.O. I even give out hints. I buy him body wash.. I even asked him did he want to take his bath first..because I may be a while. That don't do any good. What shall I do?

[Shasta]

Sometimes you just need to be blunt about it. Tell him that he has a problem and your turned off by this. Don't tell him so that you sound like a complete bitch though, just bring up the fact that you dont really think it's appealing. It's a hard thing to really express something like that to a loved one...but seriously...he needs to keep better care of himself.

[RecordProducer]

Give out hints?! Gosh, you should demand from him to do it every day or at least every other day. Most people enjoy taking a shower. I can't understand how it can be difficult. Brushing my teeth and taking my make-up off is a pain in the neck, but I know I must do it so I do it. I brush my teeth after every meal.

I had a BF who was like yours too. I don't remember how often he took showers.

Once he got back from work all sweaty and stinky and wanted sex. I told him "Go take a shower first, you stink!" He said "I'll take a shower afterwards!" Then we actually argued about it until I had to tell him that I felt sick of him. Obviously he had no respect for me (which he was showing in other fields as well like he always wanted sex when I was totally not in the mood and he would chase me and bug me until he gets it; he was also very selfish and materialistic) He thought that making love to me was not something that I should enjoy too, cuz obviously you can't enjoy with a dirty man.

You shouldn't give him hints. You should tell him openly that he has to pay more attention to hygiene. How does he react to the fact that you don't want to have sex with him?

[dixiepix]

I have a friend who has the same issue with her husband. She just flat tells him he's not going to bed until he gets a bath. She has really bad allergies. He is about 70 and likes to play in the yard all day, while she has to stay indoors hiding from the pollen. She feels like she's taking care of a kid. Your not going to bed with me unless you get a bath, otherwise you can sleep in the chair. Just tell him...that's gross, causes excessive amounts of dust mites...which many people, including my self.

 

Has he always been this way or is this just something new? Maybe try to get him to shower with you? Unfortunately, we learn our hygiene habit young. It is hard to teach an old dog new tricks. But seriously, I can get a quick shower in 5 min flat including washing long hair. It's not that hard and doesn't require that much effort. Your just sleep better. Demand it or put him in the "doghouse"