Keep NC or become fbw?

[thorin]

Well, its like...my ex girlfriend is 20 years old, we were together for half a year, until she told me she doesnt love me, and doesnt want a relationship. Then I went full NC, which lasted 15 days.

 

Then her breadcrumbs, I responded...cause why not, next day I had a date with this new girl, everything was great.

 

But texting lasted two days, and ended with her proposition of FWB relationship - hugging, kissing, sex, without exlisivity.

 

And I began thinking about accepting this. Positive sides?:

- all sexual stuff if I wouldnt pick up any girl atm, or while dating

- being less needy when picking up girls

- one more friend, a good one I think

 

Negative sides:

- thinking too much about her

- possibility of being hurt finally

- if I go colder on her in this new relationship, she wont miss me that much when I end it

 

Thus, I dont know what to do. Im actually not even sure if I love her - I didnt miss her as much as i thought I would, after I went nc. And I dont care about her feelings right now that much.

 

Well, shes hot, but Im just not sure if i can handle that. Id have to go really cold on her, force myself not to talk about her to anyone, and keep meeting new women.

 

Does that ever work?

[Popsicle]

Stay NC. It's cleaner that way, plus she needs to learn. You'll have a new girl in a jiffy

[ASV]

She's being selfish. Move on for now, and once you're healed, reconsider.

And, just as you said, if you're kept as FWB she most likely won't miss you either. Both of you have to grow up before considering this. BTW, asked about it some weeks ago as well, so I'm answering from different users' fingertips at once.

[thorin]

Ok...uh, that's just ****ed up, really 2 weeks of NC, we both agreed on breaking all contact. And suddenly breadcrumbs, and things like offering meetings etc. I don't get it at all.