Simon Phoenix Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 Thank you Simon. I needed these words. What in the **** am I thinking? Back to NC and time to block. Not really sure what happened these past few days, I had been doing so well and I threw it away because of a measly breadcrumb. After all the harsh words and posts I've had to give people I've reverted to being a spineless wuss. No more though, I can't. I'll never get past this if I don't try to heal and move on. She's already taken up 7 years of my life, I can't give her a moment more. I am hoping that this is the start to the next chapter where she no longer exists. Positive thoughts. It happens. Like the alcoholic example, you were 6 months sober, got cocky, had that drink and basically fell off the wagon. But you don't have to go back to being a blubbering drunk. It's not the end of the world. Brush yourself off, pour the remaining booze down the drain (block your ex) and get back on the wagon. You learned a lesson here. My rule of thumb from my own experiences are -- if you feel like you can handle contact, wait a month. If that month goes on and you have no pangs for your ex, then maybe you can. If you have any pangs, then you can't and you need to table your contact urges again. And until you are healed, DO NOT ANSWER them unless they tell you that they've made a mistake and want you back. You answered bulls--t, which eventually turned into you eating a carton of that bulls--t. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Riptide91 Posted May 1, 2015 Author Share Posted May 1, 2015 Even now, an couple hours later, I'm cringing reading some of these posts. Simply put, I dropped my guard. Thank you for your help Simon and everyone else. Does there come a time when your completely healed and moved on that you no longer think of them? I assume not, they probably just lose meaning and become just a memory. God, love is good but it can suck so bad when it's bad. Sometimes I wonder if the old saying "Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." is true... Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 Even now, an couple hours later, I'm cringing reading some of these posts. Simply put, I dropped my guard. Thank you for your help Simon and everyone else. Does there come a time when your completely healed and moved on that you no longer think of them? I assume not, they probably just lose meaning and become just a memory. God, love is good but it can suck so bad when it's bad. Sometimes I wonder if the old saying "Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." is true... You'll think of them occasionally, but they'll just be another person that you interacted with. You're not going to completely erase them, but your perception of them will be altered. Link to post Share on other sites
hunk Posted May 2, 2015 Share Posted May 2, 2015 Riptide, my man, block this girl. Do it NOW. Block her on EVERYTHING. Please dude. You are just letting yourself down, it's human nature to react the way you did to these texts, but now you've really gotta get your **** together and I can tell you right now the only way you're gonna get any serious meaningful healing done is through blocking and erasing her from your life. Your self respect and dignity right now is pretty damn low and if you keep allowing contact it's just going to drop even further. Every conversation you have with her like this reduces chances of her wanting you back. Every time you answer a text or send a text her attraction for you plummets. She doesn't want you back at this point in time and she most likely will never want you back again. Time to slap yourself around a bit, go to the gym, and start chatting to girls to put all of this in perspective. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Riptide91 Posted August 5, 2015 Author Share Posted August 5, 2015 Probably the last ever update to my thread, just so it has an ending. I haven't talked to me ex in what seems like a long time, I quit counting because I no longer cared. I did see her recently at a concert with her boyfriend but it made me feel nothing. I didn't wave or say hello just kept walking with a cute girl under my arm. I feel like a semi different person now, she no longer affects my life and the more I think about it I'm way happier now as well. I have a few dates lined up and I'm progressing my career at a great pace. I want everyone to know it really does get better if you want it to. Thanks to all the people from LS who helped me see how silly and ridiculous it was to be sad and hopeless over a girl who had changed so much she wasn't even the one I fell in love with so long ago. GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL! -Riptide91 Link to post Share on other sites
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