JuneJulySeptember Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 Has anybody else noticed that very tall women are likely to give very short men a chance? I have. It is an idea that I came up with a while ago in that when I was younger very tall women were often very nice to me. And I've seen evidence of it through the years. Last week, I met up with my friend. I knew he had a new girlfriend. He is quite short, and also funny, charismatic, and successful. He's about 5'5". She's just about 6 feet. My belief is that very tall women feel the same type of discrimination that short men feel and are likely to 'cut them slack' or feel common ground. Now, I'm not talking about fit, leggy, busty Kate Upton, 5'10". I mean, awkward, lanky, 5'11". Maybe boys have even made fun of them. Now, I know some 5'10" female poster is going to say "Hell, not me." Yea, I know that. But just as many 5'2" women are saying that too. I'd almost venture to guess that amongst taller women who have been made to feel awkward, the rejection rate would be the same for a 5'5" man as amongst 5'2" women. The question is if the short guys want that though. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 I haven't noticed that personally; that said, one potential reason is tall women may have experienced social interactions relevant to their stature similar to that of short men and formed emotional memories and behaviors based on those interactions and have developed an attraction style relevant to those aspects. Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 (edited) Has anybody else noticed that very tall women are likely to give very short men a chance? I have. It is an idea that I came up with a while ago in that when I was younger very tall women were often very nice to me. And I've seen evidence of it through the years. Last week, I met up with my friend. I knew he had a new girlfriend. He is quite short, and also funny, charismatic, and successful. He's about 5'5". She's just about 6 feet. My belief is that very tall women feel the same type of discrimination that short men feel and are likely to 'cut them slack' or feel common ground. Now, I'm not talking about fit, leggy, busty Kate Upton, 5'10". I mean, awkward, lanky, 5'11". Maybe boys have even made fun of them. Now, I know some 5'10" female poster is going to say "Hell, not me." Yea, I know that. But just as many 5'2" women are saying that too. I'd almost venture to guess that amongst taller women who have been made to feel awkward, the rejection rate would be the same for a 5'5" man as amongst 5'2" women. The question is if the short guys want that though. There's your answer right there. And so because of his personality she found him attractive. That she is tall probably has nothing to do with it. I know plenty of guys 5'5" whom women find quite attractive. This whole "short guy" thing--that height is what is holding you back--is just something dudes on here have in their heads. FYI: I should add that I'd have no problems dating a woman 6'. If there is chemistry and attraction (and there has been) why not. Edited March 26, 2015 by Imajerk17 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted March 26, 2015 Author Share Posted March 26, 2015 There's your answer right there. And so because of his personality she found him attractive. That she is tall probably has nothing to do with it. I know plenty of guys 5'5" whom women find quite attractive. This whole "short guy" thing--that height is what is holding you back--is just something dudes on here have in their heads. FYI: I should add that I'd have no problems dating a woman 6'. If there is chemistry and attraction (and there has been) why not. He has had problems with women despite all of that. Significant problems. And he and I have had discussions on the subject as fellow 'shorties'. So, there goes your theory. This is not a thread bemoaning lack of height. It's a thread pointing out a new pool that might be open if one were so inclined. Link to post Share on other sites
Male Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 I know plenty of guys 5'5" whom women find quite attractive. This whole "short guy" thing--that height is what is holding you back--is just something dudes on here have in their heads. LOL you are so wrong its funny. Its all over the dating profiles of women, as well as in person. I have seen it time and time again. "Do not contact me if you are under 6ft" Written in plain English....and mostly its from women that are under 5'6. I too have noticed the awkward tall woman scenario as well. I'm 5'8, and I've had a handful of women around 6ft want to date me over the years. I also tend to notice that a lot of tall lanky women like that tend to hunch over a bit, subconsciously trying to shorten themselves because they are not comfortable with themselves at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted March 26, 2015 Share Posted March 26, 2015 Taller women have to compete with shorter women for taller guys. Where I am at, taller women tend to date men who are slightly shorter (about an inch or two) to slightly taller (about an inch or two) men. It's tougher for taller women, so they are a bit more open for roughly equal height men. I'm 70 inches myself, and I wouldn't mind dating a woman that was equal height to me. One of my exes was 67 inches, and I've dated a couple of women that were the same height. I only had one date that was slightly taller than me, by an inch or so, and she had a horrified look on her face when she stood up and noticed I was slightly shorter. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted March 27, 2015 Share Posted March 27, 2015 (edited) I don't know if I would say tall women have a lot less options really. I don't know of any that seemed to be floating around single and dejected for years. For sure those over 6'1" say will find it harder as there is less taller options for her + she competes with all the shorter women wanting tall guys. If she is slim and pretty she should have no troubles though. I have found taller lanky women friendly too. One I knew and got on well with told me how she had bad insecurities over her height even though she now knows (in her late 20s) lots of men find her desirable but in her teens she was very self conscious and teased a bit about her lankiness, and so used to be insecure over her looks. She was definitely not insecure anymore but I reckon it made her less shallow and seeing people not as just how they look, as result. A bit like former fat girls who grow up with lower self esteem then lose the weight in their 20s and don't realize how attractive they are now and still have low self esteem or grow up more focused on a sweet guy that loves them rather than try snag the hot/cocky/popular guys or cut more slack for guys who are insecure, because they had it bad once. Edited March 27, 2015 by ascendotum Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted March 27, 2015 Share Posted March 27, 2015 Yeah I'm 5'8 and the few women who seemed kinda into me where a few inches taller. The women I've been around who've made it known they're not attracted to short men were short and average height women Link to post Share on other sites
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