OneLife2Live Posted March 28, 2015 Share Posted March 28, 2015 I need to prepare for this jic it happens so need some advice. H step-dad's health is declining due to his age. He is always falling. He has to use a walker a lot. He's a stubborn man and sometimes refuses to use it and ends up falling. H mom isn't strong enough to help him back up. She's had to call the ambulance several times due to his falls. Right now he is in assisted living to help him recover after surgery. He is taking PT to help get his strength back to walk. H is flying out to see them over Easter. I can't get away from work. His mom has been flying him out there every Easter for several years. I never go, can't get away from work and she cant really afford to fly us all out there. Anyhow, he told her that if step dad is home by then and she cant take of him on her own he can take 12 weeks of unpaid medical leave so he can stay there to help. From what H said, she was excited and relieved to hear this. He's not concerned about how we are going to pay bills but I am. He snapped at me and said he will help his mom if she needs it. When I told my dad that he maybe gone for 12 weeks to help his mom he said that I need him too. H doesnt agree, and that if my parents needed me for 12 weeks I would do it. Then he got defensive and said "But your parents live near, mine don't! " If he is gone for 12 weeks how the hell are we going to pay our bills? I work FT but it's not enough to cover living expenses. I know he wants to help his mom, I dont blame him but he doesn't seem to care how much money we will loose. How can I support his choice when Im left here trying to pay bills when he's there? Link to post Share on other sites
Cinnimon Posted March 28, 2015 Share Posted March 28, 2015 What is he going to do after the 12 weeks? The step father likely will get worse ( have worked with seniors for years). Has your husbands mother considered hiring a care giver ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author OneLife2Live Posted March 28, 2015 Author Share Posted March 28, 2015 What is he going to do after the 12 weeks? The step father likely will get worse ( have worked with seniors for years). Has your husbands mother considered hiring a care giver ? Thanks for the reply. I thought the same. Twelve weeks is a long time without a paycheck. Maybe his mom was going to help out. I didn't ask as he already chewed me out about it. He doesn't seem concerned about it. Sadly, I dont see things improving after he gets home. She should look into a caregiver for him. I know he is miserable in the assisted living right now. I'm not concerned about him being gone that long. If I need anything I have plenty of family to help out. Link to post Share on other sites
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