When there is no chemistry after you meet the LDR

[debs]

Hi LSers!

I have just returned from Reno/Lake Tahoe and I can say

 

Tahoe is gorgeous! Even if I freak blizzard like conditions hit us with a force Friday and Saturday!

 

But I had to say bye bye to the guy I met from there, due to no chemistry after we met in person! No biggie! I won't sting a guy on ever!

 

I would like to know if anyone else has had a LDR and finally met the person and found..ops you do not click or no chemistry? How you Handel led it?

[unsafe]

This kinda doesn't go with your question but its similar. I have an ex..that become my well good friend. Lately he was talking to me more then normal and we have been hanging out way more then normal. I didn't think anything until this past weekend. I was with him the whole weekend and I felt like I wanted him back. I don't know how he feels. Well actually I know he just met this girl over the internet she is five years older then him. He was over at my place Friday night and he kept picking up his phone text messaging. Then she called and they were talking for like 5 minutes. When I came out side to sit with him he got off the phone and I asked who was on the phone. And he said oh just some chick that I met through my friend who lives on the east coast. He told me she lives on the east coast this girl. And we live on the West coast. So anyway I didn't really think to much about it. But then Saturday night when we were out and he was again talking and text messaging. It was weird.. cause I felt like he was preotecting me all night. Acting like he was with me so no one would hit on me but still like my brother. Anyway of course this hurts. he and I talked about her today. He told me they just really click on the phone and they talk everyday all day long. But he is worried that when they met they wont click. I want him to be happy. But again I felt like things were happening for us. We have been going strong talking almost everyday for a year and a half. But now he is also talking to her. He still talks to me almost everyday during the day. But I can see that he isn't as much as before. Do you think you could have guessed it wasn't going to work out? How come there was no chemistry when you two met? What kind of Chemistry was missing when you met?

 

I wonder also what are the chances of having no chemistry when the phone chemistry is so strong. And does it die down. I know he hasn't been talking to this chick very long maybe over a week. But he seems so excited and into her. He wanted my support and everything. I gave it to him of course because I love him. But I guess I am so scared of losing him. Even though we have ended the sex part of our relationship it really hasn't felt like it was ended completely. I am still very attracted to him and I see that I obviously am going to have a hard time just being his friend. Or maybe it wont work out at all.

 

Anyway if you could give me some of your thoughts. cause I haven't ever been in that situation. I figured it you hit it off with someone on the phone you were bound to make it. But maybe not.

 

Thanks

[Jtizzle]

i can imagine that happening.. but your not saying how u did not have chemistry. like did u not find him attractive, did he not talk about stuff, did he not like going out and was just a net nerd? there could b a reason as to why you two had no chemistry. how long did the both of you email,text and talk on the phone before you met? if the meeting was a mess because he didnt have much to talk about *in person, but on the phone he had alot to say* then it might have been because he was nervous or so. i would say if u can, give it another shot only as friends of course. most folks loosen up on the second meeting if they were tense on the first. but before u set up a second meeting if u do, then u should probaly be upfront with him, and tell him ur thoughts on the first meeting and what u two both could do differently to see if somethings there. if that fails, then i would say remain friends if u do sumwhat enjoy his company