catchthedrift Posted March 28, 2015 Share Posted March 28, 2015 I broke up with my Ex about 6 months ago, as I felt he could not give me the love and attention I needed at the time. We were together for a year, part of it was long distance. The breakup was not ugly, but difficult for me, as I loved him very much. Now we haven't really talked much since the break up, the occasional text here and there about nerdy trivia puzzles online or some newspaper articles we discussed via facebook message. We only met twice since the break up, and once ran into each other accidentally. The two times we met were not so great, obviously because I realized I still had feelings for him. We had a few good laughs though, talking about the things that matter to both of us, and talking future career aspirations. We both are really busy with work and don't have much freetime. About a month ago I deleted him from my facebook friends. It was an accident, as I wanted to take him off my close friends list - yet accidentally unfriended him. That's ok, I thought, not a big deal, either way, I can't see his stupid updates anymore, good for me. Then a few days ago he texted me "How did that presentation go?" (I asked for some advice earlier via text and he helped with some graphs), but I did not reply. The next day he called me twice, I did not pick up, as I was busy. He had not called me since we had broken up, and I was wondering what it would be about. Then a text "Can you please call me?". So I called and asked what was so urgent. He said "Nothing, I just wanted to know how that presentation went. How are you?" And I told him it went fine, thank you. Silence. Then he asked "Did... you delete me off facebook?" And I told him, yes, that it meant nothing, it was an accident and I did not bother to 'repair' it afterwards, as facebook doesn't mean a thing to me. He then asked if I want to delete him off my life why I still had pictures from us up on facebook. I figured he wanted me to take them off and I said that they are private and nobody can see them. He then said that's not the point. I did not know what he meant but communicated that I thought it was ridiculous we were talking about facebook, 6 months after our breakup, especially because to him facebook never mattered much when we were in a relationship. He said he was sorry and that he didn't want to make a big deal out of it. He then asked if things were ok between us. I said, yes, they are. He then said "I was just worried something was up when I went to your profile today and it said we were not friends anymore". I wished him a good evening. The conversation was SO AWKWARD and I was wondering what the heck was going through his mind? The guy I know would have not cared at all about some facebook friendship. Can anybody give me some advice on what's going on with this guy? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 28, 2015 Share Posted March 28, 2015 His feelings were hurt. Simple as that. If Facebook never mattered during the relationship, he probably didn't understand why you'd deleted him. Or he might have genuinely thought he'd said or done something to offend you and wanted to know what it was. I wouldn't read more into it than that. Bottom line, it's probably a good thing you're not in contact in that way anymore. Being just friends is hard and it's probably too complicated for you guys to be involved on a friendship level right now. Link to post Share on other sites
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