Article: Women must approach men these days because men don't have the balls

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

The main reason now for being bitter and resentful over the gender role that dictates it is the mans job to approach, is for not having a normal life in my late teens or early 20's

[toolforgrowth]

The main reason now for being bitter and resentful over the gender role that dictates it is the mans job to approach, is for not having a normal life in my late teens or early 20's

 

Can you elaborate on that?

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

Can you elaborate on that?

 

Well I've known for a while now that life is NOT fair but I wish it was psychologically drilled deeper into my brain in my formative years, like going through puberty, teens.

 

That way I would have learned to accept and deal with the card I was dealt with for being born a human male, that the onus is on me to be the initiator, and have stepped out of my comfort zone more often socially, that probably would have increased the odds of me getting a girlfriend in my teens or early 20's.

 

Since it seems the vast majority of people gain a decent amount of dating, relationship, sexual experience in their late teens and early 20's, like mainly the 18-24 age range, and its depressing being a late starter, yes I know I can't change the past but its easier said and done to NOT dwell or mope about it.

[toolforgrowth]

Well I've known for a while now that life is NOT fair but I wish it was psychologically drilled deeper into my brain in my formative years, like going through puberty, teens.

 

That way I would have learned to accept and deal with the card I was dealt with for being born a human male, that the onus is on me to be the initiator, and have stepped out of my comfort zone more often socially, that probably would have increased the odds of me getting a girlfriend in my teens or early 20's.

 

Since it seems the vast majority of people gain a decent amount of dating, relationship, sexual experience in their late teens and early 20's, like mainly the 18-24 age range, and its depressing being a late starter, yes I know I can't change the past but its easier said and done to NOT dwell or mope about it.

 

Do you think you'll still be moping it when you're 60 and you've got grown kids and a couple divorces under your belt, and all you'll want is for females to just leave you alone? Lol

 

I kid, of course.

 

I dunno what to tell you beyond what you've already been told. If you choose to mope and dwell on it, that's your choice. I can't make you stop. You have to want to stop. But I don't think you do...I think you like hanging onto it, deep down. It provides a continued reason to not try because you're scared to.

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

Do you think you'll still be moping it when you're 60 and you've got grown kids and a couple divorces under your belt, and all you'll want is for females to just leave you alone? Lol

 

I kid, of course.

 

I dunno what to tell you beyond what you've already been told. If you choose to mope and dwell on it, that's your choice. I can't make you stop. You have to want to stop. But I don't think you do...I think you like hanging onto it, deep down. It provides a continued reason to not try because you're scared to.

 

i'm wondering if therapy, yoga, meditating would help me stop feeling bitter and resentful, moping over my past

[toolforgrowth]

i'm wondering if therapy, yoga, meditating would help me stop feeling bitter and resentful, moping over my past

 

Do yoga. I do it sometimes, and I love it. It's a great workout and very meditative.

[autumnnight]

i'm wondering if therapy, yoga, meditating would help me stop feeling bitter and resentful, moping over my past

 

I find that when I get moving physically and then take my focus off myself and do things to help others, it greatly helps my overall outlook. We have been trained to be victims in today's world, and it is not good for our psyche.

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

If it can help my confidence in the sense I do not rely on the validation of others, then that makes me more motivated to do yoga