Can't decide

[JustSomeGuy001]

I posted some months ago about how I'm in love with a girl that I can't have because she has someone and I was asking for advice. The feedback that I got then, mostly, was that I should try to stay away from her.

 

The problem is that we are coworkers and we were working in the same office (not anymore). So, I tried to stay away from her, but still I had to see her every day at work. For example, I stopped taking the morning coffee with her for about a week (I told her I have a lot of work to do - not very nice I guess) but then I saw how she started going to coffee with other guys, so it was bad anyway. My point: it was impossible for me to stay away from someone who worked in the same room with me.

 

I knew that I was about to be relocated to a new building and she wasn't , so I decided that I should just stay friends with her until then. Now, we actually became pretty good friends (we were already, but not so close). The problem is that some of my closest friends at work became pretty close to her too. Close enough that we all started seeing each other outside work.

 

About a week ago I got moved to a new building for work. But like I said she is now part of my group of friends that go out every once in a while. Nothing has changed, it hurts me when she's around and the most it hurts when she mentions her bf or other things from her life that I know I can't be part of. But of course, I can't tell my friends not to tell her anymore when we go out. And I don't want not to come.

 

Basically, I think I have to choose between going out with them and having to see her and not going out with them and missing whatever they are doing. I don't want to let go of some good friends because I can't see her, but it hurts when I see her. I feel like I lose something no matter what I choose to do and I can't decide on a choice.

 

I'm curious what would you do. Maybe if more people answer I'll just do what the majority suggests.

[d0nnivain]

Go out with them less, maybe every other time. When you are not going out with them, go somewhere you have the possibility to meet someone new who is available.