Lyeme Posted March 29, 2015 Share Posted March 29, 2015 My girlfriend broke up with me out of the blue in January. I was devastated. I made all the wrong moves, tried to be friends, begged pleaded and all that crap and just pushed her away to the point of being blocked and unfriended from Facebook. I've been in no contact for just over 5 weeks, I texted her last night to see if she would unblock me. She responded " no, I've too much going on right now and I don't need it" !!!! What the hell does that mean? She really stubborn as well, she gave me the bull**** reason for breaking up, " it's not you its me" and " I just don't think we are right together" she can't explain why she thinks these things though. It's so frustrating. I'm lost without her, and I want her back but have no clue how to do it or if I even can!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
OneBigIdgit Posted March 29, 2015 Share Posted March 29, 2015 a large percentage of us here would love to get back together with our exes. the others here have been apart long enough to start feeling better and can see healing in the near future. You are like me, ex is gone. Nothing you can do about it that will persuade them to talk to you, get back together, or really anything. You should simply become a ghost and go total no contact. Nothing else will have any positive influence in regards to your ex. Become a ghost and its possible that the ex will start looking for you and it 'might' rekindle a spark that is still there. Don't expect that to happen for at least 5-6 months. It could happen quicker but if you convince yourself to totally ignore the ex for 6 months, you will be very close to healed and the direction your ex chooses to go will matter very little to you Link to post Share on other sites
banana1522 Posted March 29, 2015 Share Posted March 29, 2015 Dude, I feel your pain. We've all been through the exact same thing... 1. Don't overanalyze. Easier said than done, God only knows I spent at least two weeks trying to create an algorithm that would decode what her messages and facebook posts meant (is this new friend she's adding a new boyfriend? Why hasn't she changed her FB relationship status etc..) DONT DO IT (if you can even control it) It will draaaaain you! 2. NO CONTACT (for healing or reconciliation!) Not saying reconciliation will happen but use it as a carrot to stop yourself reaching out if it helps. Contacting will hurt YOU AND any chances of getting back if there are any.. 3. Get busy - yes you are fooling yourself and covering up the pain but for now it will help some. You need to face the pain too... Cry! Shout in your pillow.. whatever man.. To heal it you have to feel it! It's true. 4. Here are links from veterans with the war wounds to prove it... Read them! It will give you many answers I'm sure.. (with thanks to the OPs) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/462922-if-you-want-them-back http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/517148-struggling-missing-her-so-much-15.html Link to post Share on other sites
na49 Posted March 29, 2015 Share Posted March 29, 2015 I don't know if you'll be able to get her back, but one way to not get her back is to bother her. She told you that she doesn't want to unblock you because she has too much going on and "doesn't need it". You don't have a choice. You need to just leave her alone now. The more you chase her, the more you justify why she broke up with you. She knows your number, and I'm sure she will call you if she wants to talk. Link to post Share on other sites
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