cleebie Posted April 13, 2005 Share Posted April 13, 2005 Hi everyone, just wondering how NC works exactly Although it is recommended as a way for the dumpee to get over the ex quicker it is also used as a tactic to get the ex all curious again and maybe come crawling back. My thoughts are that doesn't it just give the dumper want they want? They left you because they don't want to see or be with you anymore so NC only gives them what they wanted...a life without you They don't want you anymore so not seeing or hearing from you will only let them forget you quicker, no? Is it as simple as that or more complicated? Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum Posted April 13, 2005 Share Posted April 13, 2005 NC is really just to help both parties move on. An outcome of NC may be that one party misses the other. But if you do NC, do it for what it is intended to be: a time for healing and moving on. Hope this helps Link to post Share on other sites
Donut Posted April 13, 2005 Share Posted April 13, 2005 It gives clarity on the situation for all involved. Contacting someone over and above the giving stuff back and having the final talk (if there is one) when they have decided to cut you lose only aggravates things. Sometimes (rarely tho) a dumper makes a rash decision and decides to come back, because they miss you or they don't like the other side of the fence. But you can't make them feel this way. If you stay in the background they have a safety net, which they may abuse from time to time. Dumpers can and do have a hard time after the break-up, and if it has been a meaningful relationship they'll never forget you completely. But remember, they broke up for a reason, even tho it can be hard to understand sometimes, but anyone who loves you properly won't let you go. As hard and heart-breaking as it is, you have to use it as your method of learning from it, maintaining dignity and moving on with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
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