Author forest97 Posted April 30, 2015 Author Share Posted April 30, 2015 Therefore she was not instigating it. I feel like it's happened in the past- and you have left it too long to really discuss now. Unless it comes up I wouldn't personally bring it up. I'd feel odd if my BF was asking to see my texts. I don't have anything to hide- but I would feel I wasn't being trusted if he asked. My phone doesn't have a pin- so I guess he could check it. I think he told me his once when he was explaining a method of setting passwords- I've never looked. But if she did it which i believe it happened, why would she do it? I think she used to sext with him before me, which i don't care about, i'll be honest, i talked to girls before her. But when we are dating that is just wrong, especially when she says she hates cheats and liars. I already knew what the texts said, but was wondering if she would show me, but why hide something if there is nothing to hide? In all fairness she looks at my texts sometimes, not sure as a joke, but i've got nothing to hide. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sleed Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 Dude relax, just have fun with her 90% of 18 year old girls will break up with their first BFs, even 30+ women still break up 50% of the time. Its not that serious, ofc she will experiment with other dudes. Try to get the most out of the relationship, wisdom-wise and sex-wise, it will end for sure, get ready. Link to post Share on other sites
SerCay Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 ^ While this is absolutely true, the younger you are, the more you think you're going to be with that person forever At least for me it was like that. My boyfriend when I was 18, I thought I was going to grow old with him. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 (edited) Forest, it really boils down to this... you have two options. One, get it out in the open and talk about it. If she denies, blame shifts or justifies then you'll know what kind of person you're dealing with and make your decision (to be a doormat or not) accordingly. This way you at least have the possibility of clearing the air and getting back on track. Two, continue to let this suspicion and deceit erode whatever it is you think you may have had with her until the paranoia and insecurity drives you crazy and the whole thing ends with you being humiliated and broken. I think you know the answer but don't want to deal with it. Edited May 1, 2015 by salparadise 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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