Proof my wife is cheating

[aliveagain]

Silence is golden, you don't have to tell her nothing. Let her new girlfriend help pay her rent, she fired you from responsibility remember.

[LifeWasted]

One of my friends asked me when I'm gonna celebrate. I've been to Bourbon St. several times it's only two hours away the perfect place to go. Now she's worried about me not paying back rent I owe and not telling her when I get the income taxes since it's going into my account she can't see. I told her she'd know when I go to the casino lol. I told her I'd pay the rent and tell her when taxes come she needs to calm down dang.

 

Tell her she can shove the back rent up her shiziz......

[Jclements00]

Ha I want to tell her that but I also have a very soft heart that I wish I didn't have. Not only will she be affected financially when I move out but her kids will too. I agreed to pay the back rent so I will. It's only a couple hundred anyway so it won't break me.

[LifeWasted]

Ha I want to tell her that but I also have a very soft heart that I wish I didn't have. Not only will she be affected financially when I move out but her kids will too. I agreed to pay the back rent so I will. It's only a couple hundred anyway so it won't break me.

 

Get a receipt. Seriously. You don't want her asking for that in the D settlement.

[Jclements00]

Well I pay rent by money order and my landlord keeps track of what he's paid but I will have to ask him for a receipt. I don't think she will try anything stupid in the settlement. We don't own anything at all together so I'm not sure what she could get. Even today she told me she just wants it done so she can move on and be happy. I told her I'm moving out very soon and we are divorcing and that she has a girlfriend so she should be happy now. How stupid this girl is, she's looking for another job when she has one with good job security and is about to be able to get insurance with. She thinks I'll cut her off my work insurance when I leave but I already cut her off to save me money. She doesn't like the hours she works which isn't bad just random so she's off different days of the week. If she gets another job it may not be as secure and she'll have to longer without insurance.

[Jclements00]

It's sad when you tell your landlord you're separating and moving out and he commends you for sticking up with it for this long.

[Jclements00]

I kind of feel bad my wife is frustrated she doesn't have an appetite much these days cause of stress and it's not healthy for her she's lost a bit of weight and doesn't need to lose more she's already skinny.

[LifeWasted]

I kind of feel bad my wife is frustrated she doesn't have an appetite much these days cause of stress and it's not healthy for her she's lost a bit of weight and doesn't need to lose more she's already skinny.

 

She brought this on herself. Why should you feel bad?

 

Detach.

[MJJean]

I kind of feel bad my wife is frustrated she doesn't have an appetite much these days cause of stress and it's not healthy for her she's lost a bit of weight and doesn't need to lose more she's already skinny.

 

Don't feel sorry for people who brought their problems on themselves. She feels frustrated or depressed or whatever due to decisions she made. Now she has to deal with the consequences. She made her own mess. If she comes crying to you, tell her to go cry to her GF and walk away.

[Jclements00]

She's not crying to me about it she made a post on fb about being frustrated and wishing she had an appetite cause she's trying to get rid of the stress. I only feel bad cause I care for her well being even if I shouldn't. I don't want her all sick from not eating enough. I told her she needs to eat more she says she's eating enough to maintain her weight and that she's fine. She will eat more have less stress when I'm gone but I'm not giving her any stress now I left her alone all day.

[Jclements00]

This girl is too stressed out worrying about taxes and living with me. She needs to worry about when I'm not there anymore cause she will have all the bills to pay and her baby daddy lost his job so she ain't getting her $900 a month child support right now.

[Jclements00]

1:30 in the morning and I have work in the morning. I'm sleeping and wife let's my dog in the bedroom which wakes me up. She said earlier she wouldn't be here so I ask what she's doing. Says she's having some friends over. I said it's 1:30 in the morning F that! She walks away says go back to sleep. I jump out of bed run up to her face say F you I pay rent here have your friends over see what happens. She says I didn't think you were man enough to hit me. I said I wasn't about to hit you you're not worth it. Now this girl is maybe 115 lbs and I'm a big muscular guy if I'd hit her she'd be in a coma. Anyway she says it's her place too call the cops if you don't like it. So I call her a bunch of stuff I can't say here and I say don't worry you will get what you deserve. She says you too. So I will get away from this garbage and have a lot more peaceful life with more money living on my own while she will struggle have no money and kids that despise her and family that doesn't like her being lesbian. I guess we'll see who ends up better in the end. She says she gotta work in the morning too, so why is she still up having friends here? Since I pay the bills here she really should watch what she says and does cause all I gotta do is stop paying the rent and not pay the back rent which screws her as she don't know if she'll stop getting her child support since her baby daddy lost his job. And she has a freezer full of meat she wants to save for when I'm gone cause money will be so tight. I can eat as much of it as I want and jack most of it when I leave. She doesn't realize the position I'm in to seriously screw her life up if I get pushed too far.

[Jclements00]

I don't know where she went after her friends left around 4am but she didn't sleep here. Sad I told her oldest daughter 14 her mom had friends over and hauled butt after. Her daughter hates what her mom does and thinks she'll fall back into doing what she did before me when I leave. She would leave at random times whenever she wanted and date around so much. I don't know if she'll date around much now since she has the girlfriend she now swears is just her friend but I can see her doing things like having friends over real late and leaving in the middle of the night all while her kids are here. The girl should not have kids she's not responsible enough to stay home enough for them. After last night her actions and thinking she can do whatever she wants when she wants, I'm going to be so happy to move out and move on from her childish behavior. I'm trying to be a grown up adult not a child. Her friends that came left cups of alcohol on the floor and coffee table. I texted my wife saying it's BS no one will leave their trash laying around my place but me. I work too hard to pay for this place I'm not putting up with people here so late who can't throw away their trash. Complete BS!

[Jclements00]

This lying you know what has told me the girl isn't her girlfriend even after admitting she was. And still she says they are just friends. Well today I get on the family computer and her facebook comes up and I see a message she sent to someone yesterday saying she's her girlfriend and asking for someone else's number cause her girlfriend has her car and won't answer her calls. More proof she is straight lying to me and has a girlfriend. So I think why she told me she did was cause I kept telling her I have proof of it and she was drinking and probably slipped up and realized the next day she shouldn't have admitted it and started denying it again. Boy oh boy I can't wait to move out and one day out the blue text her the pics I have of the messages she sent saying she has a girlfriend. Then possibly passing them on to her mom and dad which she said she wouldn't tell them cause she's afraid it will screw up their relationship. Her younger sister has been lesbian for years and the parents don't like it and don't speak of it. Her dad has said we will be judged when we go to heaven for our actions and he's the one she's scared to tell. It's her own fault and she deserves what comes out of it.

[Lurkeraspect]

OMG, will you please just go somewhere else. I've suggested it before, and you have 101 excuses why you can't just leave. All these rambling, drama filled posts just make you look like you're inviting it all, and truly enjoying it.

 

And an FYI, people don't just turn gay. They either are or they aren't.

[Jclements00]

Since you're obviously involved in my life and know my circumstances I really value your opinions. You don't know what my financial situation is or my living arrangement and how it pertains to my work and where I could go. I just won't have the money to move anywhere until I get my income taxes very soon and if I stayed with friends or family until then I would be too far away from my work to have it worth it. I'm not inviting anything in, she does what she wants and 99% of the time I just continue my life here like normal.

 

Just like that night she stayed home in the bedroom mostly just relaxing with her kids until I went to the gym then they watched a movie and when I got home everyone was in bed and I chilled out like usual. No arguing or anything just being civil with each other. She hasn't even been hanging with her girlfriend much the last week that I know of and she's been home a bit more. As long as I don't start asking a ton of questions or get upset we can co-exist in a civil manner. The fact she has a girlfriend doesn't bother me it's her choice and no it's not as simple as either you are or aren't. She has dated guys and girls in the past and has said that now she's figuring out if she is a lesbian for good or not. I understand she may be in a period of figuring out who she really is and I'm ok with that. I don't like the lying but I don't hate her for what she wants and we can live in peace a little while longer until I move out.

[Lurkeraspect]

I'm as involved in your life as the details you've shared here. Anyway, I'll look forward to your continuous posts of what she did you piss you off and what you're going to to in retaliation. But I do believe you enjoy it all on some level.

 

Good luck.

[Jclements00]

No I don't enjoy my wife dating a girl and lying to me about it. It upsets me that she lies. And yes I will posts what happens here cause I enjoy sharing those things and reading what others think of it just like I enjoy talking about it with friends. I'm not even sure I'll do anything in retaliation I get upset and those thoughts come and go but I'm not sure I have the heart to really screw with her life like that even if she screwed with mine.

[I_Give_Up67]

JC, it sounds to me like you still care about your wife on some level. Through all of this drama, I can sense a bit of your pain and disappointment. If I am off base, I apologize.

 

But to the folks here on LS, we want better for you ASAP!!! What you have described here in your posts sounds almost masochistic what you are having to deal with. We all want to see you in a much happier place in life. If it helps you keep your sanity until the D is final, keep posting! But expect a friendly tweak every now and again, but don't take it personal. The folks here I'm sure mean well.

[LifeWasted]

JC, it sounds to me like you still care about your wife on some level. Through all of this drama, I can sense a bit of your pain and disappointment. If I am off base, I apologize.

 

But to the folks here on LS, we want better for you ASAP!!! What you have described here in your posts sounds almost masochistic what you are having to deal with. We all want to see you in a much happier place in life. If it helps you keep your sanity until the D is final, keep posting! But expect a friendly tweak every now and again, but don't take it personal. The folks here I'm sure mean well.

 

Well of course he still cares about her.

 

You can't just turn it off with a switch. She has been disconnecting from him for a long time. It is going to take him a while to catch up.

[Jclements00]

Thanks, I do still care about her yes. That part won't go away for me so quickly after being married the last three years. I am disappointed it didn't work out and my family feels the same way. Even my wife has said she was upset it didn't work out, not that I totally believe her but I can see where she did want it to work as she has tried many times and begged for attention that I didn't give. She just didn't realize her drinking habit made her attitude so unbearable even her own kids didn't want to be around her. I stayed to myself because of that as I didn't want to be around someone who was always negative always had to put me down and argue all the time. When she drank she always came down on me for anything bad, she never saw the good I did like worked hard everyday to pay the bills, never cheated or anything, told her I loved her every single day and helped her out several times when no one else would and even stayed after she cheated and the wild drunken nights of destroying the place she had early on.

[LifeWasted]

Just walk man. You didn't do anything wrong. You picked a lemon. A bad one. You just need to work on your chick-picker. Quit falling for the first piece of ass who shows an interest in you.

[Jclements00]

Actually when I decided to date only her I was talking to some other girls who were probably better off and not lemons. Though one turned out to be a heifer but at the time she wasn't and we really liked each other. But she lived a good hour away and I started seeing my wife and it was good at first then we got married and after that it went downhill quick. I learned my lesson and now I'm almost 35, I won't be getting into anything serious or married again for a long while. Time to really get all the things in life that I want.

[LifeWasted]

Actually when I decided to date only her I was talking to some other girls who were probably better off and not lemons. Though one turned out to be a heifer but at the time she wasn't and we really liked each other. But she lived a good hour away and I started seeing my wife and it was good at first then we got married and after that it went downhill quick. I learned my lesson and now I'm almost 35, I won't be getting into anything serious or married again for a long while. Time to really get all the things in life that I want.

 

Go find the heifer and ask her out if shes available. Fat girls make good lovers.

[stillafool]

You've got to stop snooping on her. Who cares what she is doing at this point because you are leaving as soon as you get your tax money. Checking her FB is setting you back. You already know she has a gf you don't have to prove it to her. Let it go and keep moving towards your goal.