Proof my wife is cheating

[spanz1]

Well stupid me messaged the new girl on the dating site just playfully saying hi wanna chat. When she didn't respond in a day and seeing she was on there I messaged her again saying guess not your loss. She responds saying I'm worse than a woman if someone doesn't text them back in enough time. She didn't text me back for five days! Who does that? So yeah I'm done talking to her and will wait a long time to talk to anyone else.

 

 

 

DUDE! You need some down time. Your wife has screwed up your head royally. you should NOT be trying to form new relationships just yet, other than a few quick one night stands. You need to mentally heal! Go take a long hike, go fishing for the weekend, start scouting in the woods for deer season....whatever you like to do. And try to do no contact on the ex...she is obviously toxic to you....

[Jclements00]

Guess you didn't read my last post saying I was getting away for the weekend going to a concert. And the divorce I may end up doing mysf once I can afford it which won't be for another month at least.

[Jclements00]

And no my ex has not screwed up my head I know me and her are done and I know whatever happens with the new girl will happen as we were texting each other a little while ago just playful sex stuff. I'm not sweating anything I'm happy right now and I only talk to the ex about taxes.

[Jclements00]

So the ex and I don't talk much these days. I think she's confused over a couple guys but whatever I don't care. Now the new girl I was talking to looks like that's done as I been seeing her on the dating site and she doesn't text me or anything anymore. Now for the good news. I'm on a different site and see this girl that we match and something told me I had to say something. Well we start talking a week ago and she gives me her number. We've been texting a lot the last week a lot. Come to find out she was at the same concert I went to last weekend and we have the same favorite band Incubus. The only two Incubus concerts I been to she was at also. We like all the same bands. We like the same movies. Same food and same almost everything it's crazy. She is 25 and I'm 35 but it's not about age. She's a photographer doing what she loves to do and is very driven and knows what she wants.

 

She has two young boys which is a lot better than my ex who had 3 girls. She likes to work out like me and doesn't drink much like me. She stays home a lot with her kids who are number one and doesn't care about money or material things just wants someone to treat her right. Now she is a widow as her husband died a few years ago I didnt ask how but she's okay talking about it and sees the positive in life which says she is strong. We talk about everything even sex which we both agree would be great with us. But not just that we just seem to click and she wants to meet me soon. We both know not to rush but go with the flow. She's really pretty and dare I say maybe out of my league but she thinks I'm totally hot for some reason. I know not to get my hopes up as she could be different than I think or it just not work out but if anyone from what I know so far she seems like quite the match for me.

[road]

So the ex and I don't talk much these days. I think she's confused over a couple guys but whatever I don't care. Now the new girl I was talking to looks like that's done as I been seeing her on the dating site and she doesn't text me or anything anymore. Now for the good news. I'm on a different site and see this girl that we match and something told me I had to say something. Well we start talking a week ago and she gives me her number. We've been texting a lot the last week a lot. Come to find out she was at the same concert I went to last weekend and we have the same favorite band Incubus. The only two Incubus concerts I been to she was at also. We like all the same bands. We like the same movies. Same food and same almost everything it's crazy. She is 25 and I'm 35 but it's not about age. She's a photographer doing what she loves to do and is very driven and knows what she wants.

 

She has two young boys which is a lot better than my ex who had 3 girls. She likes to work out like me and doesn't drink much like me. She stays home a lot with her kids who are number one and doesn't care about money or material things just wants someone to treat her right. Now she is a widow as her husband died a few years ago I didnt ask how but she's okay talking about it and sees the positive in life which says she is strong. We talk about everything even sex which we both agree would be great with us. But not just that we just seem to click and she wants to meet me soon. We both know not to rush but go with the flow. She's really pretty and dare I say maybe out of my league but she thinks I'm totally hot for some reason. I know not to get my hopes up as she could be different than I think or it just not work out but if anyone from what I know so far she seems like quite the match for me.

 

 

 

Too much internet dating not enough dating in person. This is the problem with all of the youts these days.

[TX-SC]

Yep, I agree with the person above. Go out and meet people. Forget about dating sites for now.

[Jclements00]

Well we're trying to meet up this weekend and see if we click. So far we both seem to be on the same page with everything and I can honestly say what I know of her so far seems like the best match I've ever had. We like a lot of the same things and talking to her has me very happy where I don't care about the ex at all. If this goes right I can see her making me a totally better person and it being just awesome. She comes off as a wonderful girl who I want to know every little detail about. I don't even care at all about the last girl I talked to. I also know tho not to hope too much and set myself up for failure. But we both seem to have the same outlook on life and on where this could lead to and whatnot. And we both seem to be sure we will click when we meet and she seems to want the same things I do.

[Mr. Lucky]

If this goes right I can see her making me a totally better person and it being just awesome.

 

This is someone you haven't met in person yet, right?

 

One way to squash the chances for success in any relationship is to weigh it down with unreasonable expectations from the very beginning.

 

Slow down, Sparky...

 

Mr. Lucky

[Jclements00]

Well just so happens this girl comes to my place to meet me for the first time. We spent a few hours just shooting the breeze getting a feel for one another. Let's just say things got interesting but not too far. We seemed to click and both were nervous before. Didn't take long for us to be comfortable. Usually I'm quiet and shy at first then I open up but with her I felt like I could just be myself right away. It was different than with any girl I've talked to in the past. It just felt really good being around her, I was interested in every word she said and usually I'm not that way at first. I'm gonna go to her tomorrow and we'll hang out or do whatever and just go along with the flow from there. But so far so good it's great.

[TX-SC]

Way to go bro! Take it slow and see how it goes.

[Jclements00]

Yeah buddy thanks I'm just waiting to see what time to go meet her today. Some things I really like about her is she's got two young boys that she puts first before anyone else. They got too many bad mothers out there. And she's a photographer doing what she wants to do in life and even a college graduate which around here is hard to find. We've both been kinda lonely and as long as she stays the way she's coming off and not actually some psycho then I have to make sure she's never lonely again. She's been thru a lot, some really sad stuff as her husband she was with since she was 12 and he passed away a few years ago and she managed to get back into enjoying life and that's gotta take one strong woman. Of course I'm not getting too hopeful or trying to move too fast, I'm just going with the flow here being happy in the moment.

[TX-SC]

Well, if you ever make it up to NE Texas I'll buy you a beer!

 

I lived in Jefferson, just outside of NO for two years. Loved the culture and FOOD down there. Oh, and the women... DAMN! Take it slow and don't push anything. Just relax and enjoy spending time with her and the emotional and physical part will come in time.

[Jclements00]

Well it's a deal then! Yeah the food and women down here are great. I live 2 1/2 hours from N.O. I like going when I can. And yeah she won't let me meet her kids yet which is good but she did tell her mom and said I'd meet her sooner than later. Her mom hated her last guy he didn't talk much and bailed out on seeing her a lot. But I tend to get along with parents good so I'm not worried.

[Jclements00]

Well I didn't get to see her yesterday. She was visiting a friend closer to me and was gonna stop by but her phones messed up she's been having to charge just the battery and it died and she didn't know how to get to my place. I told her it's ok but she says she'll make it up to me next weekend so I'll see but I'm not getting any hopes up and might back off a tad bit just in case but we did talk a lot last night so I'm not sure I'll find out though.

[Chi townD]

Well I didn't get to see her yesterday. She was visiting a friend closer to me and was gonna stop by but her phones messed up she's been having to charge just the battery and it died and she didn't know how to get to my place. I told her it's ok but she says she'll make it up to me next weekend so I'll see but I'm not getting any hopes up and might back off a tad bit just in case but we did talk a lot last night so I'm not sure I'll find out though.

 

 

 

I believe her. Sometimes, stuff happens. I wouldn't write her off just yet. Plan on doing something this weekend. Think of something fun for the both of you to do.

[qubist]

JC Clement< first I'm glad you have moved on from a bad experience to where you are now. hopefully you have learned a lesson or two from it too.

just curious, any news about you ex is she still around?

[TX-SC]

Slow and steady wins the race. Don't jump to any conclusions yet. Crap happens and sometimes plans fail. Just play it by ear and see where it goes.

 

BTW, my Panthers are going to kick some Saints butt this year!

[Jclements00]

I believe her too and I'm not sure why when I never believe a girl even if I like her a lot. She just comes off as genuine and different. She actually sent a text a while ago saying she's been extremely depressed lately and good at hiding her feelings and hasn't told anyone but told me cause I'm all she's got. I say she has an awesome personality and she really does she's just a really cool chick and has been through a lot and got through it. And she's gorgeous to me at least she's exactly my type with long brown hair green eyes and dimples. I'm not writing her off. She said she'll see me again so I'll see.

[Jclements00]

The ex and I don't talk too much and she's filing for divorce next week. She dated a couple guys and they broke it off so she's single but I have zero care for her right now as my attention is on the other girl.

[Jclements00]

Oh man I fell asleep early tonight. Woke up to texts from the new girl telling me the day has been horrible for her and she needs to shake it off. Then a simple text saying fix me. I do believe she wants someone to make her happy and get rid of her depression. I dealt with my ex being depressed for no reason but this girl I can see why she is. She says she's only been with three guys and the last guy was over a year ago, he went back to his ex. What I saw in her the time we spent together I couldn't see her being so depressed lately but I get why she is. I went thru it when my ex left but I got over it. Now her husband died in a freak accident a truck he was underneath slipped off the jack so I guess she would be allowed to be sad at times. She seemed happy and excited around me and I'd like to see her that way more often. I say she's beautiful but what I see so far she's beautiful on the inside too and has so many great things about her. I think I can get her to a happy place rather easy but I'll see how things go and find out if she really is worth it but I think she is as that's the only thing I can think of that I don't like about her but it's understandable given what she's been thru and with how far she's come along she can be rid of the depression in time.

[Jclements00]

So new girl and I were talking about things and where we'd be 3 months from now was brought up. She says depends on how things go the next few times we meet. I say the same. Neither of us are trying to rush anything but we also are gonna go with the flow. I'm really hoping to see her this weekend as I have three days off but I'm not getting too excited in case I don't. If I don't I'll know to back off some. The main thing is she has a four year old and 8 month year old both boys. If I'm not good with them she's done with me. That's good she puts them first. I really want to be a guy she likes and wants more with as long as she stays being a really cool chick. I just don't want to screw this up or turn her off cause she seems so good for me so far.

[JS84]

I hope you realize that you can't cure/fix/solve her depression issues nor should you be expected to. The only one who can fix her is her. Happiness comes from within, and those who rely on others to solve their depression/happiness issues usually wind up continuously disappointed and wind up chasing someone else thinking "Maybe they're the one who can fix what's wrong with me..." It never works. Because they're always looking in the wrong place. I'm just saying be careful.

 

Is she seeing a therapist?

[Jclements00]

I don't think she's seeing a therapist. I know I can't fix her issues and I don't know enough of actually why she gets depressed. I'm guessing her late husband plays a huge part in it but I do know she's been lonely as she hasn't been with a guy in the last year and a half and the last guy left her to go back to his ex and the father of her kids which is not her late husband is not even in his kids life hardly at all. She says she has good days and bad days just lately they've been bad. She has sad before that I make her laugh and make her happy, I mean she's already told her mom and best friend about me. Now when we hanged out I could never tell she would be depressed as she was really outgoing and talking a storm and seemed to be really happy. I'm being careful as not to screw myself over by getting all attached or anything and I even told her I'd back off some which she said don't. I should have a better idea on things after this weekend, if I see her and it goes good then great. If I don't see her or it goes bad then yeah I'm backing off.

[Jclements00]

So I find it odd I text her say in the morning and don't hear back all day but when I do she texts like it's all good. Or I'll ask something and she texts back but doesn't answer the question. I texted her this morning saying hope you have a good day. No response back. I plan on not texting her again unless she texts me back. I'm thinking maybe I should back off a hair and just see if she wonders what's up with me. Now I know her phone doesn't charge she has to take the battery out and charge it and it's slow but when she saw me she texted me on the way to my place and played music on her phone while she was there but then had to charge it on her way home. I should know more where things stand after this weekend as I have three days off and she's supposed to see me.

[Chi townD]

Oh man I fell asleep early tonight. Woke up to texts from the new girl telling me the day has been horrible for her and she needs to shake it off. Then a simple text saying fix me. I do believe she wants someone to make her happy and get rid of her depression. I dealt with my ex being depressed for no reason but this girl I can see why she is. She says she's only been with three guys and the last guy was over a year ago, he went back to his ex. What I saw in her the time we spent together I couldn't see her being so depressed lately but I get why she is. I went thru it when my ex left but I got over it. Now her husband died in a freak accident a truck he was underneath slipped off the jack so I guess she would be allowed to be sad at times. She seemed happy and excited around me and I'd like to see her that way more often. I say she's beautiful but what I see so far she's beautiful on the inside too and has so many great things about her. I think I can get her to a happy place rather easy but I'll see how things go and find out if she really is worth it but I think she is as that's the only thing I can think of that I don't like about her but it's understandable given what she's been thru and with how far she's come along she can be rid of the depression in time.

 

 

I wouldn't compare your Ex to this girl. I mean, that's like comparing apples to oranges. Your Ex was bat sh*t crazy. And her idea of depression is probably COMPLETELY different from what new girl considers depressed.

 

 

She's just probably just having a really bad day. And she's looking to you to give her some encouraging words. That she thinks of you, and you make her happy. However, it DOES seem that you're only allowed to do things on her terms.

 

 

What I mean by that. You texts "Have a great day!" and you don't even get a response back. But, if she's only reaching out to you when SHE'S having a bad day, then you don't want to get used either.