d0nnivain Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 But were NOT hooking up I didn't say you had. I said it's a bad idea going forward. If he's going to be flirty, you have to put a stop to it not flirt back. Do not spend a long time in his office talking about personal stuff. Make an effort to avoid him & never be alone with him. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 Funny how you found it unnecessary to mention he's married in your original post. How much respect do you think he could possible have for you, a new hire coming after him, a married man who's your boss? Does he enjoy it because it's flattering? Yes. Most men do. But that won't stop him from devaluing you completely once he's either tired of being flirted with and having the office in an uproar about it or he's finished f'ing you. Nothing good can come of this, I promise you. You'll end up having to leave because that's how awkward and embarrassing this is about to become once it runs its course. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Akitax Posted April 3, 2015 Author Share Posted April 3, 2015 Funny how you found it unnecessary to mention he's married in your original post. How much respect do you think he could possible have for you, a new hire coming after him, a married man who's your boss? Does he enjoy it because it's flattering? Yes. Most men do. But that won't stop him from devaluing you completely once he's either tired of being flirted with and having the office in an uproar about it or he's finished f'ing you. Nothing good can come of this, I promise you. You'll end up having to leave because that's how awkward and embarrassing this is about to become once it runs its course. See this is exactly why I didn't mention he was married. I'm not gonna make a move or start an affair and I highly doubt he is either Its fun to flirt everyone likes to flirt and be flirted with and it doesn't mean you have no self respect or ur gonna jump into bed with eachother it's just fun and it's nice to no someone thinks Ur attractive I don't think we've crossed a line here Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 But you say this I'm not, well I do flirt but I want him and I wont do anything till he does Which indicates that you are game if he is. I don't think your interest in him is restricted to just harmless flirting. Otherwise you wouldn't we obsessing about your boss so much and starting multiple threads. YOu are looking for trouble 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 Anika99, everyone notices you are flirting and a lot of them are going to assume you are screwing the boss, whether you are or not, because you are making it very plain that you are flirting by going into his office and being unprofessional and overly flirty. At some point, you will find out the hard way that this behavior will destroy you in the workplace whether anything happens or not. If your boss gets tired of it and it's awkward for him, he will get rid of you. If something happens to him and someone who has you classified as the old boss's office affair will get rid of you. I promise you none of the married women in your office will ever have your back because they know you're after a married man, and the men will all disrespect you for your behavior too. There are a billion guys all over the world who it would be appropriate for you to flirt with and more, so why would you only focus on your boss, the one person who flirting with will be the most destructive to your wellbeing???? It's self-destructive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Akitax Posted April 3, 2015 Author Share Posted April 3, 2015 Funny how you found it unnecessary to mention he's married in your original post. How much respect do you think he could possible have for you, a new hire coming after him, a married man who's your boss? Does he enjoy it because it's flattering? Yes. Most men do. But that won't stop him from devaluing you completely once he's either tired of being flirted with and having the office in an uproar about it or he's finished f'ing you. Nothing good can come of this, I promise you. You'll end up having to leave because that's how awkward and embarrassing this is about to become once it runs its course. But you say this Which indicates that you are game if he is. I don't think your interest in him is restricted to just harmless flirting. Otherwise you wouldn't we obsessing about your boss so much and starting multiple threads. YOu are looking for trouble Im not obsessing over it I asked a question and my question wasn't answered in the previous thread. I don't want lectures off people I just wanted to know if he seemed interested or not that is all I wanted to know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Akitax Posted April 3, 2015 Author Share Posted April 3, 2015 Anika99, everyone notices you are flirting and a lot of them are going to assume you are screwing the boss, whether you are or not, because you are making it very plain that you are flirting by going into his office and being unprofessional and overly flirty. At some point, you will find out the hard way that this behavior will destroy you in the workplace whether anything happens or not. If your boss gets tired of it and it's awkward for him, he will get rid of you. If something happens to him and someone who has you classified as the old boss's office affair will get rid of you. I promise you none of the married women in your office will ever have your back because they know you're after a married man, and the men will all disrespect you for your behavior too. There are a billion guys all over the world who it would be appropriate for you to flirt with and more, so why would you only focus on your boss, the one person who flirting with will be the most destructive to your wellbeing???? It's self-destructive. Ok look I'm not being unprofessional I have to go to his office it's part of my job I work with him so I have to go to see him! He asks me to do jobs for him, what am I supposed to do? Refuse to do any work for him because I'm not allowed to go to his office like he has asked. I don't overly flirt with him it's not like its in everyone's face it's little glances and things that other people don't hear. And it's him who makes the inuendos about sex not me. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 (edited) This doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me, what do you mean by the beginning bit? Yeah they might do but he doesn't really pay them that much attention all i want to point out is that unless dates you, he will just screw you, you want a dinner date, even several, i would not screw a man without dating him you ask if he is interested - in what? just sex? please, you tell me, srsly Edited April 4, 2015 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Author Akitax Posted April 4, 2015 Author Share Posted April 4, 2015 all i want to point out is that unless dates you, he will just screw you, you want a dinner date, even several, i would not screw a man without dating him you ask if he is interested - in what? just sex? please, you tell me, srsly In anything, in me, i just can't work him out nothing is gonna happen between us but I just wondered I don't no why maybe human curiosity I really don't know but what I do no Is that I am not prepared or Willing to risk my job my relationship or his marriage I know it's strange im Asking for no particular reason but im just curious and I have a little spare time on my hands to search the net so why not ask on this forum I stumbled across x I hope u understand Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 In anything, in me, i just can't work him out nothing is gonna happen between us but I just wondered I don't no why maybe human curiosity I really don't know but what I do no Is that I am not prepared or Willing to risk my job my relationship or his marriage I know it's strange im Asking for no particular reason but im just curious and I have a little spare time on my hands to search the net so why not ask on this forum I stumbled across x I hope u understand then he is just flirting for fun, if there is a problem with your workmates, then tell him it was fun but is causing embrrassment and starting to make an atmosphere you do not want to be angry when you tell him or make a scene, he has to work there too, just have a quiet word Link to post Share on other sites
Author Akitax Posted April 5, 2015 Author Share Posted April 5, 2015 all i want to point out is that unless dates you, he will just screw you, you want a dinner date, even several, i would not screw a man without dating him you ask if he is interested - in what? just sex? please, you tell me, srsly then he is just flirting for fun, if there is a problem with your workmates, then tell him it was fun but is causing embrrassment and starting to make an atmosphere you do not want to be angry when you tell him or make a scene, he has to work there too, just have a quiet word Yeah I will thanks it probably won't even get that far prob just get bored lol Link to post Share on other sites
Kamila Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 He's married... thus not available. That's lesson 1 for a woman, determine if the man is married/in a relationship already... If he keeps on flirting, try to flirt less to no more. I know he's your boss and you have to be in good terms with him. But try to put the brakes a bit on it. Not being super cold with him, but just friendly... And if he's already making sexual innuendos, there you have it, he's not in it for something serious. Link to post Share on other sites
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