Rhiannahalpin Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 I met someone through Facebook that grew up in my home town, I don't know how I never saw him, he is three years older than me. I am 19 with a four year old son and he is 23, we had previously talked before when I went to message him I saw I already had his number and so I texted him, we started texting, calling, and skyping regularly, he is a marine now stationed in Cali and we have never met, but after talking a month and a half of all the communication he asked me to be his girlfriend and I reluctantly said yes! He's amazing and we share multiple interests I feel like we know each other better than anyone else, we constantly text and he is constantly telling me he I am beautiful and says he will treat me like a princess and my son as his own, I woke up to texts that make me smile and every morning I instantly check my phone for his reply, he's always telling me he wishes he were here to hold me and can't wait for us to really be together. He's being deployed April 1st and I am planning on being with him through it all. But he's always on my mind and hes always making me smile and puts up with my attitude and cares about when I'm upset. And I am constantly thinking. About him and just thinking about him being away for so lon brings tears to my eyes... He makes me emotional in a good way and im always waiting for his reply and he always wants to talk to me. I really care about this guy. I have no idea why I feel feelings for him like I do or why it feels like it's been months with him when in reality it has only been one Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 Be very careful and do not introduce your son to him until you're in stable relationship with him and have actually spent time with him, got to know him in a real setting. You only "know" him online, not face to face, so it's very easy to get caught up in emotions and allow your feelings to grow, allow your mind to fill in the gaps of who you perceive him to be. Fantasy like on some level. You can't "know" someone so well after a month or so of chatting online. Again, please be careful. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rhiannahalpin Posted April 4, 2015 Author Share Posted April 4, 2015 We have actually been friends with the same person my best friend is also his best friend. He informed me that we have met through him in high school, and I would never introduce my son to anyone unless I know they will stick around and treat him as their own. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 I guess soldiers can only benefit from having a girlfriend they can look forward to being back to. So I'm not sure how much that need had a role in asking you to be his girlfriend. Surely he likes you or he wouldn't have asked, but probably, if it hadn't been you, it would have been another one. Do you understand what I'm saying? He needs to fill the void anyway. And you're kind of sticking around with him for a year waiting for him to be off his current duty. I guess you can let him be romantic with you, but not sexual yet, until when there's something more concrete. You have a young child, and you are very young. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 Far too many grey areas to give valid advice. Get your home life in order, men can wait. Have you a stable home for your son? What have you learned as a single parent ? How have you shown to be balanced as a parent, single lady and friend? How is the co-parenting going with the father? I mean no disrespect yet most guys will see you as an easy piece since you were active at 14. to turn that around takes years ....How have you changed your life to reflect a respecting lady/mom image? He may well be a decent chap....time will tell. Link to post Share on other sites
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