STBXW has broken

[elaine567]

You should know by now that her words aren't worth a penny. As for the guy whose wife committed suicide in the thread I posted; she showed no signs of doing it either except being in a deep depression. A few months later he found her dead in her home.

 

That is true, many people who do it, just do it. Some report that they seem better, just before they do it too.

She definitely has enough reasons here, to end it.

 

Bad childhood.

Death of a close mother figure in a gruesome way.

End of her marriage.

Drug withdrawal.

 

->Professional help.

[Yasuandio]

YESTERDAY:

 

while in the shower this morning, she entered the bathroom and said she is having a nervous breakdown and has constant thoughts of harming herself.

 

i got out of the shower and embraced her. the reality is sinking in. I left with the kids for their soccer games with her in bed crying.

 

TODAY'S REPORT:

 

Wife's problematic and extremely concerning statement of "constant thoughts of harming herself" have been slightly modified to "she isn't going to harm herself but could have a panic attack at any moment."

 

So, following the suicidal statement, she was left alone for some time. Then, she is found crying over the baking of an Easter Bunny cake she is preparing for the children - an unusual activity for her, with promises to attend Church today. Let, she is bed, still, crying, and in "deep depression," as per your diagnosis.

 

HERE IS WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE:

 

1. You don't know what to do, when what to do is obvious. And you do not seem do be doing anything. Please look at the consensus of the LS posters. Practically all posts say get MEDICAL HELP, NOW.

 

At the very least, you have to tell your attorney tomorrow, please.

 

2. Your wife could very well "off herself," or try a stunt (like cut her wrists, over-dose some pills, anything like this to "reach out" in desperation), that will cause a lot of drama that will live in the kid's minds FOREVER. She told you as much, yesterday. She told you her "constant thoughts" were on a topic of suicide.

 

3. Isn't it sort of weird to see Mommy baking an Easter cake whilst sobbing?

 

4. You are allowing yourself to be forced to "walk on eggshells."

 

5. If Mommy should have one of these "panic attacks" in front of the kids, what effect might that have? What solution do you have in mind for the potential onset of one of these "panic attacks" your wife says she feels could happen?

 

Take charge, before something bad happens. Even panic attacks are a psychiatric condition that needs treatment. Panic attacks manifest in all forms. Sometimes it appears the person is having trouble breathing, due to hypo-ventilating. Some have described panic attacks as a feeling as if they are about to die. Panic attacks can also be the final outlet for years of pent up rage - I can tell you from personal experience, those type panic attacks are very gut-wrenching and ugly. No type of panic attack is pretty, that's for sure.

 

Do you want your kids to see your wife have a panic attack? There is treatment to stop the attack, and calm it when you feel it coming on. But without medical intervention, a panic attack can really get out of control. What will you do then?

 

It is not my goal to make you feel bad, Sir. I am just trying to make you wake up.

 

We are not medical specialists here on LS, however, there is some simple common knowledge that is applicable to this situation.

 

This is up to you now. Yas

Edited April 5, 2015 by Yasuandio

[elaine567]

Where are her parents?

Maybe they can speak to her or perhaps take the kids away whilst you deal with her and get her some help.

Can anyone else perhaps have the kids?

 

I still remember the first time I saw my mother cry as a child at about 10, it changed things for me and that was just a little weep.

Happy, safe and secure, to not so happy, safe and secure.

[No Limit]

Where are her parents?

 

While the parents should be informed, I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for them to help her, after all they're pressuring her too by not helping her financially due to her affair. She's managed to get herself cornered.

[Babs22]

From what you are reporting here, she should be taken to the ER. She doesn't need the police she needs medical attention. My son suffers from massive depression. We have taken him to the ER 3 times. They know how to deal with this and they can have her admitted and help her get the medical help she needs. This is beyond what you can take care of. I don't think it is healthy for the kids to see her like this either. I really hope you follow through on this. Do not try to solve this on your own.

[oldshirt]

Forget about the police, she needs a doctor.

 

She needs a doctor but if she won't go to the doctor and she is making threats of harm then the police need to intervene to get her to the doctor.

 

As long as she is not harming other people or damaging property, she will not be charged with any crime or spend any time in jail.

 

If there are credible reports of her threatening herself or making self harm incrimination she will be placed under protective custody by the police and transported to the hospital by paramedics where she will be evaluated and treated.

 

Calling the police does not imply that she is going to get nightsticked into submission, handcuffed laying face down in the middle of the street and hauled off to jail.

 

The police are needed when someone won't voluntarily seek medical treatment.

[oldshirt]

From what you are reporting here, she should be taken to the ER. She doesn't need the police she needs medical attention. My son suffers from massive depression.

 

If she is cooperative and voluntarily agrees to go to the hospital then all is fine and dandy. But if she is throwing a fit threatening to harm herself or others and is refusing to go then a call to 911 is warranted.

 

As I said above, the police will not charge her with a crime or haul her off to jail. They will simply fill out the paperwork for her to be taken to the hospital by ambulance and evaluated by the proper medical and mental health professionals.