melvin01 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 OK, so bit of a long saga whereby I basically fell totally in love with a friend of a friend about 4 years ago. We were introduced by my best mate (she's a friend of his wife) and initially got on really well. Saw each other a few times and then went on a couple of dates. I fell in love with her pretty quickly, at which point my confidence completely dropped away. She was/is beautiful and intelligent and I felt that I wasn't good enough for her - basically I bottled it and broke off contact. Over the last few years I've seen her a few times and the feelings I have always had for her are still there. Trouble is, whatever chance I had with her (and in hindsight I think it was a good chance), I now know I blew it. I don't think I'm a bad catch (I'm 32, not bad looking, 6 foot 3 and finally have a half-decent job) and I've met a few women since her but have never felt the same spark. Anyway, at the start of this year I resolved to finally move on. I saw her at a mutual friend's birthday party in January and subsequently asked her if she'd like to go out for lunch. She said "no but thanks x". Fair enough, I guessed she was seeing someone else so fine and good luck. This weekend I decided to give online dating a try. I set up a shell profile on a site I've heard good things about and had a quick look through the women on there (just out of interest ). Who should appear on the 4th page but this same girl!! I feel absolutely (and absurdly) flattened by this, like the cosmos is conspiring against me (think you're over her? think again!) It was literally the first site I tried, and in a city like London where there must be close to millions of single women. I felt like I was in some sort of Casablanca spoof ('of all the bars')... My question now is pretty much how do I move on from here. I think online dating is probably a good option but should I use this site (which otherwise I've heard works quite well) or should I try another one? Link to post Share on other sites
emva07 Posted April 5, 2015 Share Posted April 5, 2015 unfortunately only time will help you move on. Dating site may help distract you with it for sure. I've fell for a friend before, found them on a dating site once, I liked his profile and so did he, but we never talked about it in real life, lol. It's not really a sign, everyone and their mom is on a dating site nowadays, don't think too hard into it bc it will only hurt more. Link to post Share on other sites
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