babayface1983 Posted April 14, 2005 Share Posted April 14, 2005 I'm 23yrs old and my x fiance is 25.i broke it up with him bcos i had a strong feeling he was cheating.he swears he loves me with his whole heart but y wont he take be back. i said i was sry and all but he keeps telling me he wants to be with me but not right now.how can u love someone so much and not wanna be with them? My friends are telling me 2 leave him but thats not what my heart is telling me.Is he tying to teach me a lesson for breaking up with him and wanting him back or does he not want to be bother with me. we were suppose to be getting marry on the 3rd of July but looks like thats not gonna happen.He doesn't even calls me but he talks to me when i call not all the time tho. I miss him so much.How often do second chances come around? plz give me some advice becos I can't stop crying.Tomorrow's gonna be a week since the break up.I didn't mean to break it off i was just angry bcos he wanted to break off the wedding.i should had thought b4 i said that. Is he behaving this way bcos he's hurt and is it true that all he needs is time? Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 It maybe true that all he needs is time... but you did break up with him because he was cheating. If he wasn't then the trust in your relationship is gone. If you cannot trust him then he is going to feel hurt by it. Have you apologized to him yet. Tell him that you where sorry for ever thinking that and that you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him. I would give him a few days before you went to him with that. Your friends are right. It may take a little time to mend this problem. Good Luck I hope everything works out for you... Link to post Share on other sites
babyface1983 Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 Things have changed a little bit since the break up.We talk now and he said he's always gonna be there for me as my best friend but not as my boyfriend.He said he can never take me back but he would love to marry me.I'm trying to move on and it's hard.i've lost all hope of us getting back together. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 Originally posted by babyface1983 He said he can never take me back but he would love to marry me. If that isn't a contradiction I don't know what is. You said you suspected him of cheating... what was he doing to rouse your suspicions? Link to post Share on other sites
babyface1983 Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 he stopped calling like he usually did and whenever i called him he would always find some excuse or wouldn't pick up the phone. I had made a comment saying i think i did him a favor by breaking up with him and he said in a way yes and in a way no.It's weird that he's actiing this way bcos i just don't understand how u can want to marry and be with someone in the future but u can't take them back. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Doesn't sound like he's ready for a serious relationship... please try your best to move on. It's your only option at this point. Yes, you did him a favor. Now do yourself a favor by getting over him. Link to post Share on other sites
babyface1983 Posted April 19, 2005 Share Posted April 19, 2005 I'm so glad i've made up my mind to move on.he's not worth my time.I packed up all his stuff and is ready to mail it to him.I tried for us to get back but if he doesn't wanna listen it's his LOST. God is helping me get thru this and everything we learn in life is a learning experience. Everything happens for a reason.Right now i'm just gonna focus on myself and enjoy my single life. Boy do i feel relief.Im so happy i thought i'll never get past this but by the grace of God i will.I'm taking it one day @ a time. If itz meant to be it will be if not i'll be so over him by then. Thanx for all of y'all advices they really help me. Link to post Share on other sites
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