chubachoop Posted April 14, 2005 Share Posted April 14, 2005 My friend has been with the same guy for 8 years. They are getting married next year. 4 years ago she went off sex with him. They have both cheated and there seems to be a lack of communication (on his part he doesnt talk about his feelings). She says she really loves him though. 6 months ago I went out with her friend and her boyfriend while she was at work and I had suspicions that something was going on between the two of them. She seemed to be flirting but he wasnt interested. Then back at his house she asked if I minded going to bed so she could chat privately with him. I didnt tell my friend cause I couldnt be sure. When he was drunk her boyfriend confided in me that he really loves my riend but it causes real problems that they dont have sex enough, he feels she dont fancy him. He also said they have nothing in common. Theyve since got engaged and are planning the wedding. Male friends Ive spoken to about this say he must cheat cause a man doesnt get sex from his girlfriend he gets it elsewhere. Hes in the army too so is away alot. The other night she told me she found text messages to a girl on his phone. He explained it over and over but she still feels insecure and cant trust him 100%. She asked if I think hes cheating. I said no I dont think so but I feel awful and I wonder if I should say about what my friends have said and about my suspicions. I dont wanna cause trouble though especially if my suspicions arent true. What do u reckon? Link to post Share on other sites
GirlDown Posted April 14, 2005 Share Posted April 14, 2005 you don't have to be tattle tale, but you can, as her friend, give her your honest opinion. which might be that given their tumultuous history together, and the way things seem now, that maybe marriage should wait a little longer. Link to post Share on other sites
miggsbucks Posted April 14, 2005 Share Posted April 14, 2005 Originally posted by chubachoop Then back at his house she asked if I minded going to bed so she could chat privately with him. she may well have been getting it on with him while you were in bed.. as GirlDown says, if she's your friend, just give her your opinion, based upon what the facts are, tell her about whats in the quote above Link to post Share on other sites
Author chubachoop Posted April 15, 2005 Author Share Posted April 15, 2005 this friend and my friends boyfriend are friends though and Im not the girls friend. If she was having problems with her boyfriend she isnt gonna wanna tell a stranger. I want to believe that but I just have a bad feeling about it. Im also worried that my friend will be upset I didnt tell her sooner. This happened 6 months ago... Link to post Share on other sites
miggsbucks Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 well then it depends upon what you are worried about the most.. worried about whether your friend will be pissed with you for not telling her sooner, or, worried about not telling her at all Link to post Share on other sites
browneyes37 Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 As her friend you need to tell her. I'd hate to see them get married and go thur a divorce Link to post Share on other sites
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