applej4 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 (As the saying goes, I couldn’t make this stuff up.) Walking out of a store I heard someone call my name. A young lady I know (not really a friend, more of an acquaintance….we lived in same neighborhood about 15 yrs ago) stopped to say hello and we exchanged brief chitchat. I asked if she was still working at xxx. She said she had changed job and was now working at xxx. But that she’s been looking for a part-time job to make some extra money. She said she’s been looking online for a work-from-home job as a “phone actress/entertainer” because she heard it’s really good money. She heard this from a woman she knows who is over 60 yrs old and on disability. For those who don’t know what a phone actress/entertainer is, wellllllll, you know those late night TV ads that say naughty ladies are waiting to talk to you…...call (number)? Then the small print tells how much you’ll be charged per minute. (Newsflash: the women in the commercials are not the ones men actually talk to). It’s basically phone sex for money. I don’t personally know anyone who has done this, and while I don’t consider myself a prude, imo this is kinda icky and could even be dangerous. Admittedly I don't know specific "requirements" or the details of how the process works. We all know people do all kinds of things to put food on the table, but that’s not the case here. She has a decent fulltime job, but wants (needs) more income. At first I chuckled, then I realized she was serious. I kind of made a “eeww” face and said “I’d wonder about the legitimacy and safety of doing something like that. Why don’t you try cleaning houses or even a part-time retail job?” Her look told me she didn’t appreciate my remark. I just couldn’t be encouraging. Maybe it would have been better to shrug and say "well, good luck with that”. But it’s kind of bizarre that she would tell me such a thing. We met many years ago at a gathering, and I’ve seen her maybe 3 or 4 times in the past 8 yrs. If I was doing that type job I wouldn’t tell anyone….but that’s me. Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 You were pretty rude to her. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 Yep, a simple, 'well you seem to be happy and enjoying your job' would have been the right thing to say. Instead you came off judgemental and lecture-like towards her. I'm sure those who chose to do this are protected and really don't use their 'home' numbers so there's no way to trace back location or anything. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
DrReplyInRhymes Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 Personally, I didn't see anything wrong with your reaction to her voice, You gave an honest reaction, and ultimately, it was her choice. She shared that information with you, with a purpose even perhaps, She shouldn't be so hard to judge the honest reaction you gave back. She didn't like the remark you gave, and the others shared that you were rude, But honestly speaking for myself, I think that's being a bit prude, You stood up for what you believe in, even if she doesn't share the same view, It's not like you sought her out, she came to YOU. Yep, a simple, 'well you seem to be happy and enjoying your job' would have been the right thing to say. Instead you came off judgemental and lecture-like towards her. Not calling you out, but isn't that the exact same thing you replicated in your reply? Telling him the "right" answer, and lecturing him why your view is right and why? Yet, none of us would expect him to agree or like what you say, I just wanted to point out how easy it is to be judgemental in haste. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 We all know people do all kinds of things to put food on the table, but that’s not the case here. She has a decent fulltime job, but wants (needs) more income. At first I chuckled, then I realized she was serious. I kind of made a “eeww” face and said “I’d wonder about the legitimacy and safety of doing something like that. Why don’t you try cleaning houses or even a part-time retail job?” Her look told me she didn’t appreciate my remark. The clue is here, she already has a fulltime job and needs more income. She needs work that pays a lot per hour. Suggesting she go clean or work in a shop is rude and a bit condescending actually. Those jobs are actually no good to her. I guess she would have to physically work hard for hours and hours to make the equivalent money, and as she already works full time she would be working all hours god sends. Phone actress is not a job I would do, but I can see why she would consider it as an add on. Not physically hard, I guess flexible hours too, and well paid. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 By the sounds of it the acquaintance has a full time day job so telling her to clean houses or work retail wasn't helpful. I worked for a short time as a telephone solicitor. It wasn't phone sex but it was the only part time job I could find that didn't interfere with my full time day job. It was 6-9 PM on weekdays which allowed me to work my 9-5 job and still have time to get to my 2nd job. Housekeeping jobs and retail jobs don't generally offer those hours. I think one has to consider the nature of your relationship. If this was a close friend then she probably would have appreciated your honest opinion but as you say you've only seen each other a few times over the past 8yrs you probably should have kept your judgement to yourself. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 OP: Are you sure it isn't Shakespeare she's reciting on the phone? How do you know she isn't up for a prestigious phone acting award. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author applej4 Posted April 7, 2015 Author Share Posted April 7, 2015 Housekeeping jobs and retail jobs don't generally offer those hours. I didn't say housekeeping - I said house cleaning. I know someone who made very good money cleaning houses just on Saturdays. And there are many evening and weekend retail jobs, although they don't pay that much. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author applej4 Posted April 7, 2015 Author Share Posted April 7, 2015 OP: Are you sure it isn't Shakespeare she's reciting on the phone? How do you know she isn't up for a prestigious phone acting award. Could be. Although considering the things he already told me one would think she would have mentioned being a prestigious award contender. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 I would rather be a "phone sex actress" than work in a shop it sounds way more fun!! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 I have known of a fair few who have done this and they were all bright intelligent women from various professions. There is no safety risk involved unless she is dense and gives out personal info (she doesn't sound dense). Mostly the guys were just lonely and wanted an ear to listen and empathise with them - as is - not even any sex talk involved. If it was sex talk the guys were only a very few minutes on the phone - the sex ones were the short calls. Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 Housekeeping jobs and retail jobs don't generally offer those hours. I didn't say housekeeping - I said house cleaning. I know someone who made very good money cleaning houses just on Saturdays. And there are many evening and weekend retail jobs, although they don't pay that much. Well you say you are no prude so what exactly is your objection to this person's choice of pt job? As far as I know there are no safety concerns. I haven't read any new stories of phone sex operators being victims of crimes related to their jobs. Perhaps you just find that job morally repugnant? Link to post Share on other sites
Author applej4 Posted April 7, 2015 Author Share Posted April 7, 2015 (edited) Housekeeping jobs and retail jobs don't generally offer those hours. Well you say you are no prude so what exactly is your objection to this person's choice of pt job? As far as I know there are no safety concerns. I haven't read any new stories of phone sex operators being victims of crimes related to their jobs. Perhaps you just find that job morally repugnant? http://www.cracked.com/article_21357_6-unsexy-realities-being-phone-sex-operator.htmlhttp://www.cosmopolitan.com/entertainment/celebs/news/a5363/my-life-as-a-phone-sex-operator/http://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/what-i-learned-working-phone-sex-operator-16-surprising-secrets-trade My Life as a Phone Sex Operator: Dialing In The Year I Spent As A Phone-Sex Operator - Nerve Edited April 7, 2015 by applej4 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 pandoras box was opened... OP its okay to have your opinions... its how they are expressed that may deserve looking into. I respect your reaction and think given the information laid upon you... you responded naturally. Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 http://www.cracked.com/article_21357_6-unsexy-realities-being-phone-sex-operator.htmlhttp://www.cosmopolitan.com/entertainment/celebs/news/a5363/my-life-as-a-phone-sex-operator/http://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/what-i-learned-working-phone-sex-operator-16-surprising-secrets-trade My Life as a Phone Sex Operator: Dialing In The Year I Spent As A Phone-Sex Operator - Nerve Okay well the cracked link didn't lead to anything but I had a quick look at the other 2 links you posted and I'm not sure what you wanted to convey with them. The sex operators weren't being harmed or in any danger and one actually told a rather touching story of a man who broke down and cried over the loss of his best friend and how she helped him with that. I'm guessing you just find the idea of phone sex repulsive. You are entitled to that opinion but I still don't think it was necessary to share it with your acquaintance. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 Okay well the cracked link didn't lead to anything but I had a quick look at the other 2 links you posted and I'm not sure what you wanted to convey with them. The sex operators weren't being harmed or in any danger and one actually told a rather touching story of a man who broke down and cried over the loss of his best friend and how she helped him with that. I'm guessing you just find the idea of phone sex repulsive. You are entitled to that opinion but I still don't think it was necessary to share it with your acquaintance. That was my opinion too, it all sounded a harmless way to make some money, if you could do it. Better than cleaning someone's house for a pittance anyway, at least she got her sewing and knitting done at the same time... Link to post Share on other sites
Author applej4 Posted April 7, 2015 Author Share Posted April 7, 2015 Y'all can guess whatever you want.Better than cleaning someone's house for a pittance I don’t call $80-$100 for 2 or 3 hrs work a pittance. But that’s me.Those PSOs who claim to make in the 6 figures are few and far between. (Most make a couple hundred dollars then quit.) Even if they do make in the six figures, they’d have to be doing it 24/7 which I think would be exhausting……in a different way than pushing a vacuum cleaner and squirting Windex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 Could be. Although considering the things he already told me one would think she would have mentioned being a prestigious award contender. Who's "he"? Link to post Share on other sites
Author applej4 Posted April 8, 2015 Author Share Posted April 8, 2015 (edited) Re: “Who’s “he”? – it’s a simple typo. I meant ”she” – picky picky. Edited April 8, 2015 by applej4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 Re: “Who’s “he”? – it’s a simple typo. I meant ”she” – picky picky. No, it's not me being picky picky, it just made it seem like there may have been a third person in this story. Thanks for clearing that up for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 Housekeeping jobs and retail jobs don't generally offer those hours. I didn't say housekeeping - I said house cleaning. I know someone who made very good money cleaning houses just on Saturdays. And there are many evening and weekend retail jobs, although they don't pay that much. There's also panhandling. You set your own hours and the pay can be even better. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 Could be. Although considering the things he already told me one would think she would have mentioned being a prestigious award contender. Maybe she was being modest. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 No, it's not me being picky picky, it just made it seem like there may have been a third person in this story. Thanks for clearing that up for me. Apparently there's lots of "hes" in this story 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 Safety seems like the last thing to be concerned about here. She's working from home, totally anonymously, presumably using a "stage" name, and never giving out her real phone number. What is the safety concern here? Unless she's really dumb and gives the Johns her real name and address, there is no safety risk. Being a house-keeper, going into other people's homes who may abduct or assault you, or working in retail where a guy in a ski mask and gun may walk in at any moment, seem much more dangerous to me! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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