LoveIsMyReligion Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 I've been dating a girl from Europe for about six months now, I am living in America. I met her family and friends back in February and things went very well. She is now visiting me for several weeks towards the end of the month. Here is my dilemma. We text/skype chat on a daily basis and she has always been pretty prompt about responding. However for the past few days she has been taking her time, sometimes hours, and one day we went all day without texting. This may sound dumb but why the sudden change? I know she isn't at work because she told me so why the change in attitude? If she wasn't interested in me then tell me, why come stay with me for several weeks? Any advise would be appreciated, please keep in mind that I know this sounds a little crazy but I am in fact a sane person. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 She's probably packing &/or getting nervous. There is always a lot to do before a trip. Relax & see how things go during the visit. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LoveIsMyReligion Posted April 7, 2015 Author Share Posted April 7, 2015 Sound advice, thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 Why not just ask her? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
OnlyHonesty Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 Ive lost count of how many times I have seen the exact same pattern in ldr or relationships in general. Many women enjoy the butterflies, the mystery, the chase and the not knowing but as soon as things are planned, solid or finalised they start to lose interest. There are many reasons for this and some are related to bonding abilities and past history etc. With guys I think it is different. I'm amazed at how many guys on here seem to be surprised when this happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LoveIsMyReligion Posted April 8, 2015 Author Share Posted April 8, 2015 I did ask her and she got fairly defensive and asked if I don't trust her? Kind of strange... now I feel pretty bad. But it is definitely out of the ordinary since I am used to waking up to a text or skype message form her almost every day and now it's started to change. I'm a good guy and don't look terrible either..I treated her well and never cheated. My conscious is clear, I'm going to just try and focus on myself for now and see where the cards land. If it wasn't meant to be then I need to accept it - will update if anything changes. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 for the past few days she has been taking her time, sometimes hours, and one day we went all day without texting. 1) Without texting you or messaging you? Texts are usually costly in Europe, and you don't text for free. But you can message for free using wi-fi or with an internet plan on the phone (if she even has a smartphone). 2) All day without texting > please keep in mind that time zones are different. 3) She might want to lose weight and go out for walks or to the gym, and she can't text while doing that stuff, or doesn't want to do that while being around people; she might go out shopping for new clothes; she might be in a beauty salon to do her hair, nails (maybe too early to wax); she might be seeing friends more than usual or all packed up in two weeks before leaving, because some may want her to bring back something for them, and wanting to say bye before she leaves....................... 4) So yes, before she leaves, there might be a lot going on. why the sudden change? You asked her, she told you not to worry and to trust her. For now, I guess nothing tells you not to. Take advantage of this time alone to plan stuff for you both. Link to post Share on other sites
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