I can not get over it,even though he gives me no reason

[adna89]

I am new married to my husband,i have always had trust issues.Its not like he gave me a reason he never thanks God did.But i think i got it from home,i have seen how my father is ,he is cheating on my mom,he has been in an affair almost 3 years...it is devastating for me ,and has destroyed my relationship to my husband ,since i think he will do the same.So i make problems for no reason at all

 

Is there a way to get over this? what to do ,think ?

Edited April 7, 2015 by adna89

[whichwayisup]

Counseling. Fix your trust issues by sorting them out and wanting to change so you won't deconstruct your relationship/marriage. You are an adult now and can't blame your past, your parents relationship, your childhood forever. Eventually people have to face their insecurities and mistrust, put it to bed and learn to push on so life can be happy and good.

[Rainbowlove]

I am new married to my husband,i have always had trust issues.Its not like he gave me a reason he never thanks God did.But i think i got it from home,i have seen how my father is ,he is cheating on my mom,he has been in an affair almost 3 years...it is devastating for me ,and has destroyed my relationship to my husband ,since i think he will do the same.So i make problems for no reason at all

 

Is there a way to get over this? what to do ,think ?

 

It's called Self-Fulfilling Prophecy.

 

Talk to your husband about your fears. Your issues are you're afraid you will lose him.

 

If you continue down this road, you will.

 

Verbalize what's going on. Get into therapy and work towards overcoming your fears....

Edited April 7, 2015 by Rainbowlove